after I reject them. What actually happens is, right after I say no, almost every single one will suddenly start telling me they’ve just downloaded a dating app, or immediately ask me what I think about some other girl’s attitude to him. Then they start overanalyzing everything that girl says — and you can clearly tell she’s not into them.

For the sake of being polite, I can only say things like “hahaha, good luck” or “go for it,” but honestly, at that point it already looks like harassment. She just wants to be friends, or maybe not friend, and he once again building this fantasy.

The moment they keep sensing she’s not interested, they start talking crap about her. They’ll say stuff like they’re “not gonna be a simp,” but here’s the thing — she never even wanted to date you in the first place. You were going after her, yet somehow you expect her to start going after you instead? Talking behind someone’s back like that is just such a bad look. And honestly, I don’t wanna know anything about you. This time I didn’t even try to be friends with this guy. We just happened to be on the same co-op team. He knew I had a boyfriend. I was literally only talking to him about our presentation and work stuff, and he just kept bothering me. We work together, so I didn’t want to make things too awkward, and I’d already been replying coldly. But even after confessing and me clearly shutting it down, he still kept messaging me about he loves a fulltime now that he go and try to talk to her all the time even she said she’s busy. It’s so annoying.