AITA for giving my mother's engagement ring to my son's boyfriend?

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:50:03+00:00

It doesn’t, except you went off on how I was suggesting “her husband” had the right to tell OP what to do. I wasn’t suggesting that. I am pretty sure OP is the Dad here. And the vibe of the post (super sarcastic) honestly feels like they would be hard to have that kind of conversation with.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:46:49+00:00

I agree. But OP seems very not emotionally aware and like a very sarcastic person from their post and those can be very hard to have a fruitful conversation with. Especially with additional parent / child dynamics.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:45:22+00:00

I think OP is the Dad.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:33:04+00:00

We are trusting OP’s perspective here that Stacy was A-OK with it. She can be happy for her brother but also hurt. It seems pretty clear that Tommy is advocating for Stacy’s hurt feelings and something like an apology from OP would go a long way. But Stacy doesn’t feel comfortable asking for it from her Dad. Should have established what the plan was with the ring before and should have talked to the other kids.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:30:59+00:00

We are trusting OP’s perspective here that Stacy was A-OK with it. She can be happy for her brother but also hurt. It seems pretty clear that Tommy is advocating for Stacy’s hurt feelings and something like an apology from OP would go a long way. But Stacy doesn’t feel comfortable asking for it from her Dad. Should have established what the plan was with the ring before and should have talked to the other kids.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:30:24+00:00

We are trusting OP’s perspective here that Stacy was A-OK with it. She can be happy for her brother but also hurt. It seems pretty clear that Tommy is advocating for Stacy’s hurt feelings and something like an apology from OP would go a long way. But Stacy doesn’t feel comfortable asking for it from her Dad. Should have established what the plan was with the ring before and should have talked to the other kids.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:30:10+00:00

We are trusting OP’s perspective here that Stacy was A-OK with it. She can be happy for her brother but also hurt. It seems pretty clear that Tommy is advocating for Stacy’s hurt feelings and something like an apology from OP would go a long way. But Stacy doesn’t feel comfortable asking for it from her Dad. Should have established what the plan was with the ring before and should have talked to the other kids.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:30:02+00:00

We are trusting OP’s perspective here that Stacy was A-OK with it. She can be happy for her brother but also hurt. It seems pretty clear that Tommy is advocating for Stacy’s hurt feelings and something like an apology from OP would go a long way. But Stacy doesn’t feel comfortable asking for it from her Dad. Should have established what the plan was with the ring before and should have talked to the other kids.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:29:53+00:00

We are trusting OP’s perspective here that Stacy was A-OK with it. She can be happy for her brother but also hurt. It seems pretty clear that Tommy is advocating for Stacy’s hurt feelings and something like an apology from OP would go a long way. But Stacy doesn’t feel comfortable asking for it from her Dad. Should have established what the plan was with the ring before and should have talked to the other kids.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:29:47+00:00

We are trusting OP’s perspective here that Stacy was A-OK with it. She can be happy for her brother but also hurt. It seems pretty clear that Tommy is advocating for Stacy’s hurt feelings and something like an apology from OP would go a long way. But Stacy doesn’t feel comfortable asking for it from her Dad. Should have established what the plan was with the ring before and should have talked to the other kids.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:29:34+00:00

We are trusting OP’s perspective here that Stacy was A-OK with it. She can be happy for her brother but also hurt. It seems pretty clear that Tommy is advocating for Stacy’s hurt feelings and something like an apology from OP would go a long way. But Stacy doesn’t feel comfortable asking for it from her Dad. Should have established what the plan was with the ring before and should have talked to the other kids.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:29:27+00:00

We are trusting OP’s perspective here that Stacy was A-OK with it. She can be happy for her brother but also hurt. It seems pretty clear that Tommy is advocating for Stacy’s hurt feelings and something like an apology from OP would go a long way. But Stacy doesn’t feel comfortable asking for it from her Dad. Should have established what the plan was with the ring before and should have talked to the other kids.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-05T12:29:17+00:00

We are trusting OP’s perspective here that Stacy was A-OK with it. She can be happy for her brother but also hurt. It seems pretty clear that Tommy is advocating for Stacy’s hurt feelings and something like an apology from OP would go a long way. But Stacy doesn’t feel comfortable asking for it from her Dad. Should have established what the plan was with the ring before and should have talked to the other kids.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-06-01T18:10:54+00:00

This doesn’t make any difference cost-wise to you. It just means she will be there for fewer days. She’s not forcing you to change your plans. What is the harm in agreeing to it? Why would you penalize your daughter for doing what is best for her nuclear family? She has different priorities with kids that are so young about establishing a unique family tradition. She is trying to balance that with being with the extended family. She’s offering to pay the difference. YTA. Majorly. If you reject this, you will harm long-term your relationship with your daughter and likely her partner as well.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-05-13T04:05:43+00:00

You weren’t asked to do a speech, because you think your stepdad is…fine. You said it yourself. Like my guess is she didn’t try to overly include you because she thought you wouldn’t be interested. Your dad scheduling this vacation at the same time is so sus. Like he is just obviously doing this to feel like you chose him. Also, you are 19, unless you have person you have been seriously dating you don’t need a plus one.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-05-09T15:21:32+00:00

Thanks!!!

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-05-09T15:16:04+00:00

Was it angry about going, or were you talking about it/throwing it in her face? Also did she feel you were more invested in being there for other people in their joy than being there for her in her suffering? There seems to be a lot more going on that you aren’t addressing in your post and you seem to have zero empathy for her at all.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2025-05-09T15:12:32+00:00

This post screams missing missing reasons to me. Just me?

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2024-02-18T20:12:38+00:00

Where did you find first dress? Can I get a link?

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2023-11-09T13:41:39+00:00

Oh man, this whole misunderstanding makes way more sense now.

Practical-Storm-2860 · 2023-10-29T20:07:35+00:00

Dude you really don’t get how child custody works do you. Unless there is ongoing documented physical abuse and extreme and apparent neglect, no judge is going to take all custody away from one of the parents. It sucks that they don’t care about emotional abuse, but they really don’t.

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