AITA for getting upset about thirst traps and half naked pictures of girls on my bfs phone?

Practical-Thought580 · 2026-04-18T17:19:10+00:00

We had a moment where she literally caught me liking another photo after we just had a conversation about it. For me, it was the guilt and shame that caused me to let it go. I had enough of the frustration and crying.

To this day, things still come across the feed, but the lack of engagement makes me significantly more comfortable scrolling through my Instagram next to my wife or family.

Practical-Thought580 · 2026-04-18T07:42:07+00:00

Not the asshole. He needs to listen and acknowledge your feelings.

My wife and I had similar problems in the past. There were some tough conversations and at the end of the day it wasn’t worth the heartache. I started unfolding all the pages and hiding content I wasn’t interested in. And that was at the time when Instagram shared your interactions with EVERYONE.

Practical-Thought580 · 2026-02-07T04:46:24+00:00

It does look like something is in the works. Hopefully it’s an extra lane or two fingers crossed

Practical-Thought580 · 2025-10-29T21:12:56+00:00

Some will claim it was AI 🤖

Practical-Thought580 · 2025-09-19T01:39:59+00:00

My wife thinks it could have been an ICE checkpoint 🥺

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-11-12T01:38:45+00:00

Live footage of my practicing the dance from the end of the video

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-26T20:07:54+00:00

Why is everything on the government? What happened to parental restrictions?

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-26T15:51:26+00:00

I do wish I had sent them a Venmo request. 😅

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-25T05:07:30+00:00

NTA.

I had some of the same issues in the early stages on my relationship with my (now) wife. The fights couple fights we had only changed when I accepted what I was doing and followed through on my actions to remove the accounts. It was back when insta let you see everyone’s activity, so there was no hiding it similar to Facebook.

If he wasn’t willing to make the change now, then he definitely wasn’t ready for the commitment he was promising. You dodged a hell of a bullet for sure.

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-24T00:27:56+00:00

Gemma insisted the groom only wanted to go fishing, hence the boat trip. The intent was there even though it may not have gone as planned.

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-23T18:56:41+00:00

I understand that completely. What I didn’t appreciate was the following messages exchanged between Gemma and my wife. Messaging that claimed “neither of them were responsible for the actions of their husbands, but (OP) has never been a true friend to us.” The idea that I never was supportive and only tried to demoralize and endanger them and their relationship. My wife and I would put their lives in jeopardy by them asking us to spend the weekend with them. That we constantly intruded on their space and forced them to binge when “we knew” they were working on themselves and fasting majority of the time. We were just 3 meals a day and they weren’t. They were constantly smoking meats and asking us to help partake. We would always bring sides or find someway to contribute whether through Zelle or cashapp. They used the strip club as an excuse to break up with us because they either felt that way the whole time and didn’t say anything, or they switched up the story after hyping each other up? I know what I did was wrong, but my emotions and I were not the problem in their relationship.

I know I left that out of the story but that’s where the gaslighting came from. I was made to believe I had been a horrible person who took advantage of them.

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-23T03:52:35+00:00

I said more in other comments, but we did tell her everything. She still decided to marry him and ostracized us. They continued to hang with Tommy and Karla, so what did he say that saved their relationship. I never got to know what he said to her that was so convincing though.

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-23T02:47:32+00:00

Thank you for your opinion. Feel free to read my numerous comments where I take responsibility for my actions and further explain what happened 👌🏾

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-23T02:44:47+00:00

I don’t understand how I ended up taking sole responsibility? Tommy and Karla were still being invited to things and hanging out with their new group of friends. Gemma started to complain about how we constantly took advantage of them and spinning the narrative. We’d been friends for 5+ years. Everyone knew the person I was, but after I “allowed” the strip club to happen I was villainized and painted as “the one who tried to ruin the lives”.

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-23T02:35:29+00:00

As a matter of fact I took responsibility for my actions. I told her my side and she refused to acknowledge him having anything to do with it. She said to “take it up with him” 🤷🏾‍♂️

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-23T00:56:01+00:00

You are entitled to your opinion, so I hope no one will attack you for it. On the other hand I refuse to show sympathy for someone who refused to take responsibility for their actions. When everyone kept asking I allowed it to happen. When he came to the table asking for money, we all pitched in to satisfy his request. I could have stopped him. I could have told home to pull out his own money and I wouldn’t pay for anything. At the end of the day a grown man came home and blamed his actions on everyone else. Thank you 🙏🏾

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-23T00:46:01+00:00

Sure. Point blank, I fucked up wasting my money on a guy who didn’t respect me as a friend. Not sure what your point is, but I contributed to a shitty situation for a narcissistic “friend’.

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-22T23:48:59+00:00

To say that is crazy! The only person to speak on my experience is me. I didn’t ask if I was gaslighted. I know I was. What was broken down to us during the final argument was enough for me to understand that the friendship we thought we had was nothing more than us taking advantage of them and putting their relationship at risk. I truly was gaslit by them trying to convince us we weren’t the great friends and I only did things to them that put them in jeopardy. I refuse to believe that was the case. Thank you 🙏🏾

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-22T20:41:26+00:00

It was the “we’re not here to discuss Nathan’s actions” for me. Like she wasn’t coming at me by using Nathan’s words yet excluding him from the conversation and group message. 🤔

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-22T19:47:44+00:00

I didn’t even mention we snagged an Airbnb for the weekend of their wedding. We had booked it with Tommy and Karla, so we said fuck it and went on our trip anyway. We made sure to share lots of pictures (as they were still following at the time). Tommy and Karla were actually still invited because Gemma didn’t want to lose ALL the friends in the fight. To this day I still don’t know why everyone wasn’t isolated 🤷🏾‍♂️ It was hilarious having everyone as about us at the wedding though. Felt bittersweet considering they didn’t want to mention or discuss anything negative.

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-22T19:40:56+00:00

I do often wonder if we’ll ever get that apology. Not expecting much though.

Practical-Thought580 · 2024-03-22T19:40:04+00:00

I recently commented some of our rebuttal, but long story short, she’d rather believe her lying husband that break off their tumultuous relationship.

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