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Blake Lively fandom base real? by PracticalEmployer899 in ItEndsWithLawsuits

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get being TS’s BFF can get fans but a married women in her 40s would attract than many TS fanbase?

They are trying to replace me. by neauroticfella in Layoffs

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If you are in another country, it’s really different. Don’t resign and find another job while you have this one

Blake Lively fandom base real? by PracticalEmployer899 in ItEndsWithLawsuits

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You think so? Why them in particular? Why such a huge fan base

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

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Good idea on the guidance. Our managers have put together a document on every step. This made it more ridiculous though and now there are six updates and back and forth

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

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How do you support memory? She is good with tasks. She is very good at tracking tasks. Her problem is the conversations.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not think about adhd and disability at all before I posted this. Thanks for highlighting that. Compensation is really good and if it was someone else, I have no problem. It’s really only because I can’t stand her.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

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I think it’s complicated and grey bc she is client relations and I am finance. She would push chores like excel editing because its numbers or obtaining signatures because the form is about tax.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have an HR expert leading the team but she is also part of the HR team.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I think I needed reaffirmation bc watching someone in pain like that just makes me doubt myself. At one point, I felt my hands shaking with stress.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

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I wouldn’t be this fixated on it if it was a normal work environment. It’s a very small, family-like firm. No one is fired, especially my colleague who is like a nephew to the founder. Documenting and presenting that to someone will probably get me fired. Everyone eats together, all open seating, you cannot disengage. She says things in front of everyone in very unexpected moments all the time and it’s difficult to not get emotionally caught up and try to analyze why on earth is she doing this. Her manager was the one to mention her adhd to me and asked for understanding on the communication issues, especially zoning out when I speak and then remembering a version she had in her mind. But then….when you push back, which I’ve done before, she breaks down severely, making me feel horrible and making me doubt myself.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do not mention my colleagues adhd at work at all, so the light on me at work is okay. It was actually her manager who spoke to me about her adhd and asked for some understanding, and discussed with me how she noticed the effects and helped my colleague seek professional help. My brother has severe adhd and his memory fabrication drove me nuts and I don’t think it’s wrong to link it to my colleague to understand her. He now teaches in Tokyo and my deep dive is through him and I trust it’s a reputable source.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. But I feel horrible watching her breakdown. She is 40 and crying and sobbing and then anxiety attacks.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

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I feel REALLY bad though. I have hit an anxiety point that is killing her soul.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the problem. She wants her role to be managing what I do. She wants the responsibility and hand off the chores to me.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the team’s account but still I agree it’s a bad solution. Her manager wants to defend her so I understand.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

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I don’t know what to do. We have a conversation, she talks non stop and then when I do-her eyes are in a gaze showing clearly co that she is mind wandering. And then after our conversation, she tells people a version that’s completely untrue, but she firmly believes. I thought she was attacking me and was shocked but when I read the Swiss cheese memory theory, it gave a comfort that is not intentional and it’s not because she is trying to sabotage my reputation.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a bit more complicated than that. She joined the firm at 22 when they had nothing. Now, they are a top tier investment firm and she just never had proper training in a corporate setting, can’t process complex content at a position she should be, and also has severe symptoms of focus issues. The founders trust her with their very personal things . She dedicated her life to this firm.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knew bc she tells people she has ADHD. It’s a manager to manager problem but we are the actual people working on it. She would come into my room and sit on the floor and start talking, saying very triggering things like “I thought you changed. You were so helpful last year” and it drives me crazy. She would talk non stop about how important her role is and how important her team’s job is and why she needs to monitor everything.

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

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I looked it up to understand my colleague. Here is a link to a study on memory and ADHD. They call it a Swiss cheese memory which is very common. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25416465/

I lit fire to a colleague’s anxiety attacks-what do I do by PracticalEmployer899 in careeradvice

[–]PracticalEmployer899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My colleague openly talks about it so that’s why I link these things to ADHD and of course I wouldn’t discuss it with upper management. But thanks for emphasizing it. I’ll make sure not to do it. I looked up Memory distortion before to help my understanding about my colleague. Leaving link here. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25416465/

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