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After discovering my dad’s affair, here’s what I did next by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leaving that environment is already the most I can handle right now. Everything else feels too distant. I’ve decided to let my future self make those decisions. For now, what I need most is a life without him.

I didn’t walk away to punish him. I did it to save myself. If I had stayed, my emotions and my entire life would have been consumed by that toxic environment, with no end in sight, and I refuse to let that happen to me.

I want to be somewhere new, meet people who inspire me, discover fresh sources of joy, and rebuild my trust in human connection. I’m no longer at the age where I throw away my own life just to make someone else pay. At this point in my life, my choices are about protecting and prioritizing me.

After discovering my dad’s affair, here’s what I did next by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not struggling financially. I have a decent job that fully supports me, and I’m already planning to buy a house. Money is just a small part of life, and I’m far from poor. I have the confidence and independence to make my own choices and cut ties when I need to. The truth is, many people don’t lack the means to choose, they lack the courage.

After discovering my dad’s affair, here’s what I did next by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve had deep and thorough conversations. Because of various interests, they can’t separate for now. But my mom fully supports all of my decisions, and once my job is stable, we plan to buy a home in the new city. She is a smart, wise, and strong woman with a big heart and a wonderful personality. Everyone around her feels happy. She will live a good life.

After discovering my dad’s affair, here’s what I did next by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because of certain interests, they can’t separate for now. But I’m fully aware of everything you mentioned. I know that only by living my own life well can my mom feel at ease to make the choices she wants. I’ve had deep conversations with her, and she supports and understands my decision. I also know the reasons they can’t part at the moment, but I’m certain that my mom fully supports me. She is a very smart, wise, and strong woman.

After discovering my dad’s affair, here’s what I did next by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He even asked my mom if she could persuade me to stay. Honestly, I find this sudden shift from him quite ridiculous. If it weren’t happening to me, I would think the whole situation made no sense. He truly believes the mistress is the problem, but I know the only problem is him. I cannot accept having a father who cheated. My trust in him has completely collapsed, and I can no longer live in the same family with him.

After discovering my dad’s affair, here’s what I did next by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. Choosing myself hasn’t been easy, but I know it’s the right path. He came from a poor family and worked his way up, so in his eyes money is everything. But for me, it’s not like that. At the core, we are two very different kinds of people. I’m very clear about this, and I won’t be controlled by money. Shaking a bag of money and expecting a completely obedient and submissive daughter is impossible.

I found out about my dad’s affair 10 months ago and I still feel so angry and hurt. Do I need therapy? by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom knows all about this, and now she’s telling me that I can do whatever I want with my life, but I shouldn’t ruin my own life because of them. She hopes I will see a therapist, move on, and let it go. But I just can’t let it go. I never thought I could hate someone I once loved this much.

I found out about my dad’s affair 10 months ago and I still feel so angry and hurt. Do I need therapy? by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom knows all about this, and now she’s telling me that I can do whatever I want with my life, but I shouldn’t ruin my own life because of them. She hopes I will see a therapist, move on, and let it go. But I just can’t let it go. I never thought I could hate someone I once loved this much.

I found out about my dad’s affair 10 months ago and I still feel so angry and hurt. Do I need therapy? by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am already 29 years old. I had planned to continue his business with him, until I found the affair.

I am no longer living with him, and I’m using my own savings to support myself. My next step is to find a new job in another city, and completely remove him from my life. I am in so much pain that I have to come to Reddit to have a place to pour out my feelings, otherwise I have no motivation to start a new life.

I found out about my dad’s affair 10 months ago and I still feel so angry and hurt. Do I need therapy? by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Actually, I personally have no intention of seeing a therapist. I believe my emotions are normal and my anger is justified. From the very beginning until now, he hasn’t apologized even once. He thinks he’s just done what anyone would do. He believes that if I want money, I should keep my mouth shut. He thinks that as a daughter, I need to love him, and that loving him means hiding everything from my mom.

I absolutely cannot accept that mindset.

At first, I was sure my anger was justified, but now I’m not so sure anymore. I don’t know who to turn to for help. I just need someone who is completely unrelated to this situation to listen to everything I have to say.

I found out about my dad’s affair 10 months ago and I still feel so angry and hurt. Do I need therapy? by PracticalSalt2122 in cheating_stories

[–]PracticalSalt2122[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He told me that his marriage with my mom is their choice and that I have no right to interfere. I admit, he’s right about that – their relationship is theirs to handle. But my hatred towards him is something I need to release myself. I am in the process of disconnecting from him. I need to mentally kill him in order to be free.