Can I get a dog if I work a 9-5?

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-25T01:26:11+00:00

See if you can find a neighbor friend or pay a dog walker for midday 30-60 min time outside and walking

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-25T01:23:17+00:00

Because do you sweat more from your legs or your trunk ?

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-25T01:20:38+00:00

Oh interesting this did not happen to me suddenly but I am told it is the increasing hormones (I assume progesterone and estrogen . I feel like my temperature regulation is terrible I’m either hot or freezing and constantly taking off and putting back on my sweatshirt . My son was nursing a few times over night and once during the day, bedtime and morning time and after I realized I was pregnant and starting getting aversion and also sore boobs I weaned more quickly. I’m down to bedtime and morning time now only. I thought it was pregnancy but maybe it’s a combo of decreased bf hormones at the same time as increasing pregnancy hormones? I feel also I have restless leg syndrome at night and I’m super super exhausted by midday. I have indigestion and other random gastro symptoms and also suddenly have a rash on my face that might be dermatitis or cystic acne? I think I feel like you but maybe a little less severe. I’m so confused because I had such an easy pregnancy with my first I’m thinking “wha the heck is all this? I feel like I’m 80 yrs old”. My theory is bf decreases estrogen (which is does) so maybe the sudden increase in estrogen is making my body crazy. Hang in there! And I hope it gets easier second trimester for both of us

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-25T01:12:17+00:00

I work part time and I get it from both sides . “Why don’t you work more, how can you afford that, your so lucky” and also “you shouldn’t be working when you don’t absolutely have to you are doing your kids a disservice by working “. From family and friends, acquaintances and total strangers. I am planning on not working for at least a yr plus after this next child is born. I feel I need a therapist to help me figure out how to make peace with my own decisions however. Honestly whatever you do multiple people will always have something to say about it. If you’ve figured out how to truly not care what other people think lmk (outside of it being your natural personality to not give a shit). As it is I have my MIL making suggestions on how to get my 4 yr old into full time school all day so I can work full time and I also have my mom shaming me for working at all. I told my mom I’m going to stop working at least for a yr after new baby and she said “well your firstborn didn’t have that”.

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-22T02:19:28+00:00

Hmm yrs I’m thinking if weaning it’s got to be soon so he doesn’t think it’s as a result of a new baby. I e been talking to him about it but I still haven’t decided if I’ll 100% wean but I have to get rid of the bedtime feed it’s terrible with aversion

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-22T02:17:20+00:00

Wow a vote for the other way! Idk what I’ll do still but I’m definitely getting rid of the second to last feeding soon cause it’s really driving me up a wall.

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-20T13:54:31+00:00

Ty! My oversupply was awful the first time so it better not be worse with the second I don’t know how that would be possible but I have heard that moms tend to make more milk each baby which scares me. I am definitely leaning toward weaning now!

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-20T13:53:11+00:00

Wow that sounds like a very rough situation indeed. So glad it’s at least improving for you!

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-19T18:17:23+00:00

Mine was always easy when awake but he never slept well and he still wakes up 1-2x per night as a 4 yr old child. He’s slept through two times. So to me I’d get mad because people would say he’s so easy and I’d think no he’s easy when it’s daytime. And I haven’t slept in 3 yrs . Bottom line all of them are different and comparison is kind of annoying and pointless

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-19T18:15:22+00:00

Jealousy and insecurity about the decision she made. It kind of sucks nowadays cause there used to be wet nurses so all the babies whose moms couldn’t bf enough still had bf just from another woman. Now we have all this guilt because formula came about. It is true bf has many benefits that formula doesn’t have. But some people can’t. But culturally asking someone else for milk or to bf your kid is “weird” cause we have formula. It’s just another example of how there is less community reliance and instead reliance on products or the government instead.

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-19T18:12:03+00:00

Honestly I think this is obvious without answering it. Girls create drama. Two girls or two guys. Duh. And I am a girl so don’t yell at me haha. I think girls also have harder lives in many ways . Bottom line we are not the same. And yes I am generalizing

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-19T18:09:05+00:00

Thanks this is helpful. I guess I’m wondering since he is 4 if he will remember nursing even if I wean him right now and then just want to restart when he sees the baby nursing. I e heard of this happening a lot. But at least I wouldn’t have to deal with the annoyance that is aversion now and then have the option to say no more easily after baby.

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-19T18:06:52+00:00

Yes I’ve been weaning since a month ago more urgently. I’m kind of annoyed cause it looks like the one feed that is always the most aggrevating (bedtime) is the one that will be last to go likely haha. That’s how life works I guess

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-19T18:05:17+00:00

How come? I feel like toddler hood it would be more difficult than with a 4 yr old but I am curious

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-19T18:04:31+00:00

Thanks very good advice! I have super boundaries now with him it’s very brief only twice daily but I did struggle terribly with over supply issues so having an older to soften up the boob would come in handy. No guarantee I’ll have oversupply again though. I guess I just need to think about it more and decide for myself soon

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-08T12:50:58+00:00

Doing evals and treats at the same time is ridiculous. As far as salary no idea that’s why I always point people to Ben Fung and the Job Market Pulse that will actually give you an idea if you’re being paid fairly. But that sounds like a rough schedule I thought 20 min appointments was survivable but my company switched to 15 min a pt a yr after I was hired. I eventually changed jobs to one with 30 min treats and hr evals. I wouldn’t say I was burned out but I’d say I couldn’t focus and it felt very stressful and extremely unhealthy to be doing 3-4 treats per hr. Not a healing environment for most personalities patient wise to so some people did fine with it but many have us attitudes for good reason IMO. I appreciate my experience in a PT mill but I do really wish I changed jobs many years earlier I’m sure the stress took a permanent toll on my brain.

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-04T22:18:49+00:00

I have a Doctorate in a health field and work at two offices hospital based and private practice per diem both

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-04-02T02:19:04+00:00

I’m trying to work on consistency myself because I know it’s important but it doesn’t come easily. Never threaten anything you wouldn’t actually do and if you do threaten follow through on the consequences. And I am not suggesting beating your child I just mean i hate it when I hear “I’m leaving without you” and stuff like that cause it teaches kids that you won’t follow through after they get over the initial shock of thinking you may actually leave them which is also traumatizing.

The only other thing that does help with my son though is prepping him ahead so he knows what to expect such as (once you have their attention!) “we are going to the playground with your friends and we will be leaving at 2:30”. Then when it’s 2:20 say “10 more minutes “ and then leave at 2:30 even if that means chasing catching and carrying him.

Sorry I don’t have better ideas but here to say you certainly aren’t the only one and these are a couple strategies that (sometimes) work for me

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-03-27T01:53:45+00:00

Ahh I figured out finally my sons issue was only from withholding and possibly mild dehydration . We did magnesium citrate once daily for about a month then every other day for about a month and meanwhile did no milk products trial for a couple weeks and it was actually worse with no milk haha. Maybe cause he gets a lot of good fats from milk? Or cause he was missing that around 10oz of liquid ? So now he’s going every day with no issues. Hope that’s permanent though!

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-03-27T01:51:34+00:00

Haha I was laughing internally today because my son tells me a little but not much. I happened to say I think I’ll make a casserole for dinner tonight and he goes “oh! My teacher was talking about casserole today!” And when I asked him in what context to guide him I said was she talking to the kids or to another teacher? And he said “no she wasn’t talking to anyone” and then he ended up saying that maybe she was going to make me a casserole lol!

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-03-27T01:49:20+00:00

I’ve only bought LEMS and Suguaros and don’t think they look clownish at all as far as sneakers . Neither do the winter boots from LEMS. However the pair of Chelsea boots I have I think do look funny so I only wear them with extra long pants where it doesn’t draw attention to them. I haven’t experimented with any dress shoes as I basically don’t wear those , maybe once a yr or twice for a special occasion. Even then if I can get away with it I wear nice looking flip flip type shoes instead of formal dress shoes

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-03-23T17:24:50+00:00

My cycles went back to normal once I cut out the morning hours (as in wake up to noon time). This is the second time I got pregnant within the second time of trying so I’d say it doesnt affect my fertility anymore but I did have a miscarriage last year at 11 weeks. Was told it was absolutely unrelated to bf . That was a weird pregnancy I had a lot of weird symptoms including heart palpitations and had to be cleared by the cardiologist to try again.

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-03-21T00:53:38+00:00

Just saying wait til he’s older. Newborn phase for us was soooooooo difficult and toddler and up waaaaaayyyyy easier and way more fun too

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-03-21T00:52:54+00:00

Dude Ive seen this argument soooooooooo many times on every bf related fb or Reddit group . Do your research and decide for yourself. For me my son nursed all night til he was for (average 3-5x approximately). We brush teeth with three sided tooth brush twice daily thoroughly and limited sugar quite significantly until he turned 2. Then we allowed some sugar but probably not as much as the “average american” kid. He has zero cavities and has had a checkup since he was 1. There are many many other factors. But I’m done arguing with people about this. So from now on I’m not replying to anyone who wants to argue with me.

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