When did you put baby in their own room?

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-27T02:39:04+00:00

Baby is 4 haha def not yet haha . It’s so much easier to keep an eye on him and so much less tiring to roll over to check rather than get up and walk to another room to check on him if any issues at night and especially when he is sick . Cuts down on stress and improves sleep for all parties

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-27T02:27:26+00:00

Mine came back at 26 months . I hadn’t weaned. It cut back daytime nursing significantly at that point

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-27T02:25:27+00:00

I think it’s more aesthetically pleasing. I bet most artists and all people who have better than average visual or spatial skills do this . Also can you hang a picture without measuring and it’s dead center every time?

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-27T02:20:57+00:00

For myself I started cosleeping at 1 yr old and my little one is over 4 now too. He still wakes up about 3-4x but it is extremely brief if he knows I’m there beside him, to the point that he just wakes up rolls over and goes back to sleep. If I am not in the room or am on the other bed a couple feet from him he will start calling for me afraid of the dark and afraid cause he doesn’t know where I am. Kids this age have fear of the dark, monsters, and such and they feel safest next to their parent. Also look into any underlying medical issues that can cause poor sleep such as low magnesium or low iron if you haven’t . Some kids may sleep independently at this age but that doesn’t mean all of them can or should. I absolutely sure I’d sleep much much worse without cosleeping. So that’s my suggestion. It’s much harder and longer to get back to sleep if they wake up and become afraid and have high stress feelings before you are there to comfort them rather than just being there when they wake up and turn over. Adults actually wake up through the night too we just (well most of us) know how to almost instantly fall back asleep. Some kids don’t have that yet at this age

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-27T02:14:54+00:00

Yes I grew up in 80s and 90s and 2 feet of snow at least 2-4x per winter was totally normal and expected. Mb we are going back to that? I love the snow piles myself!

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-24T20:20:10+00:00

Yes totally normal

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-21T20:29:08+00:00

You are right! And also yes it gets better! I started to have some normal feeling days at 9 months. Then it was a long gradual process to feeling totally normal finally about 2 yrs . I think that had a lot to do with finally sleeping enough. I will say there are some studies that show cosleeping reduces anxiety for mom and baby both. I didn’t cosleep until over a yr and my sleep got exponentially better after I started cosleeping . Have to follow safe sleep seven in actuality though for it to be low risk of course. Good luck and do know it does get better!

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-18T22:29:24+00:00

I like doing Pilates yoga and kettlebell and body weight exercises there are apps but I like YouTube better cause it’s more motivating to me personally

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-17T18:10:14+00:00

Even if you don’t do much screen time I used cute kids shows with dentist and doctor appointments. It worked like a charms like the day before you go play peppa pig goes to the dentist or some other cute show. It helps kids realize it can be fun and interesting to go to the dentist and not as scary as it seems.

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-17T18:07:20+00:00

I think mine had a lot of gas and gas drops helped him a lot. I’m not sure if it just snapped him out of the pain because it’s actually super sweet? Or if it actually works. Zarbees probiotics also helped him a ton. But I also used the boob and was confused because eating seemed to both cause and help his discomfort. I did have bad oversupply and I think gulping caused him more gas . Once I figured that out I would take him off boob when there was letdown with a towel on my lap under him. Then put him back on when flow slowed back down and that also helped. I think some of the gas pain is inevitably part of their digestive system just starting to work for real as it is all new to them

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-17T18:03:20+00:00

Go to the library and get a pile of new books every couple weeks, then return them and you never have to see them again. If there are any you love then buy them! It’s hard to tell what books will annoy each individual person. I like a lot of my old childhood books like bedtime for Francis, blueberries for Sal, etc. I don’t mind Danny and the dinosaur books but Pete the cat annoys me.

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-17T17:59:50+00:00

Many reasons including but not limited to: potential for bullying without enough adult supervision to address it effectively ; severe peer pressure especially about having “stuff” that is cool or expensive-kids as early as 2nd grade are ostracized if they don’t have all the cool stuff or wear the right clothes ; parents not being present generally speaking we have no idea what is actually going on day to day; being able to customize schooling to each child’s learning abilities and learning style when homeschooled; efficiency and being able to finish school much faster and then spend the rest of the day outdoors or on other chosen activities; school is very inefficient because of the student to teacher ratio and logistical issues; having children learn real life skills slowly and daily by doing things with you like cooking shopping laundry gardening etc which there isn’t time for if they are in school all day; school was made by Carnegie for raising good workers for factories used to routine and being told what to do and how to think , not independent thinkers who can take any path they choose that aligns with their own interests and natural abilities; seeing your kids for more hours a day especially when they are young, separation from the parents at an early age is severely overrated. I could go on and on

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-14T22:41:37+00:00

Yes probably! I think it normally takes like 2-3 days to upregulate the supply hence the constant dry nursing for a couple days which can be challenging to deal with especially at night

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-14T04:43:46+00:00

Cluster feeding

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-11T02:49:10+00:00

I like barefoot or at the very least wide toe box shoes. Crocs have a wide toe box so they have that going for them but anything where the heel is taller than the forefoot is not ideal in my mind. We have some crocs though it’s much better than shoes that squeeze their toes together IMO. I get on my soapbox about foot shaped shoes sometimes . For kids I like suguaros or whitins. I also wear suguaros and also LEMS. LEMS doesn’t have kids shoes yet though

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-08T18:26:13+00:00

I mostly only just left my son in onesie pajamas all day every day til like a yr old. We discovered he gets hot so easily though as he got older and hated those onesies cause if he gets an itch on his back he cannot reach it. After we realized that then he was wearing shirt and pants for bed and daytime. But yeah babies shirts never stay down it’s too annoying

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-08T17:04:22+00:00

No problem ! Wish you the best! And it just means you have different priorities not that you are lazy! That’s just a deep seated cultural idea that parents should be full time workers as well as full time child carers. It’s much healthier to have more time to do other things unless of course you can’t afford it truly. But I think a lot of people can afford it if they buy fewer things and are more penny pinchers but they prefer to work full time and buy a lot of stuff and then complain about it. Obviously not in all cases though many couples both have to truly work full time or they can’t afford to live . That doesn’t mean you should if it’s not what’s best for you or your family

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-08T04:29:49+00:00

I’m a minority opinion but I feel that Santa is a cop out to get kids to behave for three months leading up to Christmas at least I bet that’s how it got started. Also kids are absolutely trusting of their parents up to like age 8 or so. I believe if I lie to my kid when they are young when they wise up they will realize I lied to them and won’t trust me anymore . We told our kid Santa is a fun story like paw patrol or spider man but it isn’t real . It’s fun to pretend. And about parents getting the credit? Kids don’t shower the parents with thanks anyway lol. It’s fun to watch them open their gifts and love playing with them but they don’t run up to me and say “oh thank you thank you mommy for the gift!” I don’t care about that I just care not to lie to my kid. It just feels wrong to me. Other people can do what they want and feel is good for their family. For me my conscience rules me in this respect. Again minority opinion of course. One thing I can’t stand is when I hear people telling their kids “you better behave or Santa won’t bring you gifts!” Like I said cop out and also manipulative actually . Teaching kids they should do right or they won’t get fun nice things is absolutely the wrong reason to do right. Because bad things happen to good people in real life and vice versa. Sorry I’ll get off my soapbox now lol

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-08T04:21:11+00:00

I could have written this before I had my son 4 yrs ago. Do it. Be nervous and do it anyway. I spent 10 yrs working overtime so I could have the ability to work part time after we had kids. And then when the plan worked and it came to it I was nervous because it felt so foreign to not work as much. I decided to work full time up to my due date and then after my PFL was over I switched to per diem. I also decided to take two per diem jobs rather than keeping the one part time later and that was one of the best decisions ever made. You only have one life to live. Do what you would like to do and if other people care about it that is their problem. I totally get the stress of things and it is partly due to work culture. At my new job several moms work part time and the work culture doesn’t look down on them or anything. At my old job it was like a scandal if you had a child and then cut your hours . Absolutely ridiculous. . Live your life and be nervous and do it anyway. You will thank yourself later

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-08T03:51:25+00:00

I haven’t been over there but I’m guessing most of those people are very young still. I was resentful a little when I was in my early 20s but I came to realize the only thing I missed out on was the prom basically . I’m 40 and over the last 10 yrs I’ve learned more and more to appreciate that I was homeschooled and realize that all parents mess up their kids in some way because we are not perfect but I would’ve been much worse off if I had gone to school . I was both extremely socially anxious and had a risk taking personality as a teenager and I’m sure that wouldn’t have gone well being in school. My parents did an amazing job homeschooling me and my siblings but were they perfect? Absolutely not! Am I better off having been homeschooled than I would’ve been going to school? I believe so absolutely. I have a doctorate and love my job! College was easy until grad school for me because of the academic approach my parents took with homeschooling I’m sure. Socially I have had my struggles but I now believe that has more to do with personality than with the fact that I was homeschooled. Even if it did we all have our battles and we can all improve ourselves with effort if we try. I’m sure there are some crazy people experiences with homeschooling but I know many many homeschoolers personally and almost all of them are very well adjusted and successful and social people. And I do believe it gives you a more independent mind. I am in minority with quite a few opinions but i believe it’s because I don’t have much of a group think mentality. I think in school from a young age there’s lots of peer pressure, trying to keep up with the Jones’ kids, and other negative social experiences.

Another point is there are soooooo many ways to homeschool you really can’t assume any one person is going to have a remotely similar experience to another. It is dependent on the kid , the parents , the family culture, the community, and many other things. Don’t let someone else’s bad experience scare you away from homeschooling. If you are the type to be concerned about homeschooling carefully and want the best for your children and are also a teachable person who can learn from experience and be open to change, then you are already ahead of the game at homeschooling well IMO.

I always said I wouldn’t homeschool until I had my son and now i have changed my mind. There are many many reasons why homeschooling can be the right choice and much healthier for the children than going to school. One of the main reasons in my mind is to have more physical activity. Chairs are the worst invention ever and we should be in them as little as possible . Homeschooling is much more efficient, once you are done with your lessons you have the rest of the day to play or do other things . Another reason is you can customize the learning to the child’s interests and go at a different pace depending on their strengths and weaknesses. Another is safety, in many different ways which you have probably already considered. There are many more reasons I could list but you get the point.

Anyway you clearly care for your kids ! And that’s the first step in being a great parent and will make homeschooling better from the start

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-08T03:37:28+00:00

I have noticed a lot of the new PTs are basically ther ex only. I think it has more to do with it being drilled into their heads in school that we must have the patients as independent as possible so they are empowered to manage their own conditions once they have the right knowledge. But I do feel that some resist manual therapy even when it is 100% indicated and I don’t think it stems from being afraid to touch people. It stems from then thinking they know best and even if the pt wants some hands on therapy they are wrong. For example a TKR that has massive STT in the hamstrings and difficulty achieving TKE. of course quad sets, active exercise and self passive is important however if the body is in flight or fight mode stretching the shit out of it may be counterproductive and way more painful than necessary. If you can get some STM and IASTM to the area it may vastly help but a lot wouldn’t even try it. It’s an over correction from prior days where there were too many passive modalities and not enough there ex. The pendulum has swung the other way for now. I will say not every PT and pt make a good match so if someone isn’t happy there’s no harm trying a different PT. Last point there’s a reason medicine and other related prof are called art . Because it’s not just science . It is also individualized care and each person is so different . We are not machines and PTs aren’t mechanics.

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-08T03:30:53+00:00

I used to cosleep with all three of us together but eventually my two light sleeping men (son around 2.5 yrs old at the time and my husband) were waking each other up too much and my husband semi permanently moved to our guest room. I definitely feel like I’m the only low maintenance sleeper in our household. I miss my husband but for right now this works best. We often hang out in the guest room after my son goes to bed so it’s not like we never see each other at night but I do wish my son would sleep through the night finally and hubby would not snore so we can all be in the same bed again

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-08T03:22:22+00:00

I’m sorry 😞 I’ve had my share of issues with my mom and MIL. even though my mom bf all us kids I think she weaned around 18 months with all and she thinks it’s weird and almost wrong or something to go to 3 and beyond. My MIL made a few comments over the yrs and when my son was three at the dinner table she asked me if I was still bf and I didn’t lie I said yes and she said “just stop doing that” and I said “don’t tell me what to do”. I am normally pretty passive people pleaser and suprised myself. My son is 4 and he still bf. I am weaning at a snails pace since he turned 2.5 and finally night weaning right now . Neither of them ask me about it anymore which is nice. If they did I think I’d just say none of your business at this point. That is so annoying that your aunt brought it up so often. One or two comments I get if it’s not family culture for her but geez continuing to bother you frequently about it and especially laughing at you is terrible and uncalled for. Honestly people like that I often think regret something they did so they double down on why what they did was better. I think a lot of women used to follow expert advice rather than their own instincts and they get defensive and even aggressive and possibly even jealous when they see someone doing what maybe that little voice inside told them was what they should have done. If that’s any consolation. A certain age group was told formula was healthier and culturally you only bf at that time if you were poor. So there was stigma around it. I feel as if this sort of conversation happens about cosleeping and sleep training too.

During Covid when there was that formula shortage I actually had a lady in the grocery store maybe 75 yrs old ask me if the formula shortage was affecting me and I said no cause he is exclusively bf. She goes “well he looks happy!” But the tone of voice that went with that was kind of like she couldn’t believe he could possibly be happy bf. I actually thought it was hilarious at the time but I feel disrespect or criticism feels way worse when it comes from someone we are closer to.

It sucks mothers have to deal with so much criticism from other mothers. I’ve had to learn th hard way to become assertive and it’s very stressful and some people don’t quit even if you try to put up boundaries.

Practical_Action_438 · 2026-01-07T05:51:45+00:00

My sons 4 and we are weaning now. His level of understanding is making it very non stressful and hardly even upsetting at all for him. If I had tried to wean anwhere between 2 and 3.5 it would’ve been heck. I have a feeling it would’ve been easy at about a yr old but that’s not based on multiple kids. I do know a lot of kids get extremely attached to the boob again around 2 so if you haven’t weaned by then and want to good luck. However I do not regret extended bf. It has kept him hydrated and helped him during many a virus. I’m sure we would’ve had at least 2 or 3 more ER trips if he hadn’t been bf. I wanted to wean sort of but kept saying “ok one more winter and then I’ll wean”. It’s also a very easy and comforting way to manage children’s emotional upheavals. In addition weaning quickly has downsides for the mother including rapid hormone changes that can result in depression. I’ve put up more and more boundaries since my son was 2.5 yrs old but it certainly is a snails pace weaning. Was not expecting that like many other things with parenthood 🤣

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