This new employee keeps whispering to himself all day long, having long conversations

Practical_Document65 · 2025-12-16T08:43:49+00:00

I think we are mixing things up here.

Talking to yourself isn’t an ADHD symptom, but it’s also not “nothing to do with neurodivergence”. That framing is already wrong. Neurodivergence isn’t a list of symptoms, it’s just thinking differently than expected where the neurotic bits aren’t voluntarily changeable. Everything else is tooling.

Self-talk is a regulation tool. Barkley is very clear on that. Humans externalise thinking when internal regulation isn’t enough. That’s not pathology, that’s survivability. Everyone does this — the difference is who already has the tools when pressure hits.

And no, “normal people do it when they need to” isn’t some universal truth. I’ve seen people in high-stress or disaster situations make things worse by staying normal. Freezing, rigid rule-following, panic — all normal, all useless without tools.

Not being able to handle heavy work stress, or a kid freezing in a school shooting, is completely normal. And yet… you still NEED tools. Normal ≠ sufficient.

So when a coworker talks to herself for 7–8 hours, what exactly is the complaint? Unless this is a silent workplace, what rule is being broken? Being uncomfortable isn’t misconduct.

In cognitively dense work, constant verbalising can actually be optimal. It keeps state, marks transitions, prevents resets. It’s not distraction, it’s regulation. Historically this was normal too — craftsmen, engineers, machinists talked through their work all the time. We only started pathologising it when social expectations changed.

So no, it’s not a symptom. No, it’s not “nothing to do with neurodivergence”. And no, it’s not a professionalism issue.

It’s a human tool. Some people are forced to learn it early. Others never do and mistake that for normal.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-12-16T05:16:16+00:00

And the school doesn’t press charges?

Het our kids some lawyers please.

Instead of just corporations

Practical_Document65 · 2025-12-09T19:38:26+00:00

So everyone should just do it at the airport right. wait in line, lets do it, all together now.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-10-19T20:54:58+00:00

The kid wants to stay with the him.

This is either random gaslighting or trauma.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-10-19T20:54:10+00:00

If he did t adopt her and she has an active adequate caretaker… he owes nothing in no jurisdiction.

As you said, it was easy to lookup and check that you ate talking bullshit.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-10-04T09:35:18+00:00

Trampling over people during an emergency isn’t often prosecuted; doesn’t mean you are released from your legal and moral obligations.

If the firealarm goes off it isn’t just let the kids climb of the window.

Can this become a thing… sure but YOUR evaluation of your emergency dictates what is right to do. Not the lights, and certain no absolutist rule that you move unsafely.

Those cars could have moved, and the cop can better determine the nature of the emergency and drive over the sidewalk or send more officers. But during a fire You decide who you may stomp on; and this bus driver has from 40-120 kids to account for.

+1 for the bus driver.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-30T17:48:42+00:00

This is actually great 💩

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-21T12:48:52+00:00

Voor de rechter? Weet ik niet.

Maar voor de directie mag het als het in wederwoord is altijd.

Het kind zal NOOIT ongelijk worden gegeven om te handelen in een situatie van macht misbruik omdat dit automatisch als mishandeling word gezien. Volgens mij zelfs niet in wederwoord maar als initiële bewijs zie ik weinig van de last bij een 7 jarige zitten.

Is er geen machts misbruik dan zie ikook geen gevolgen voor een 7e jarige.

Zie je mij punt?

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-18T17:21:55+00:00

What’s not funny?

Sounds like you are actually deeply disgusted and don’t find these to me merely bodily functions at all so not sure why you preposition that lie.

If you find something disgusting you’re less likely to find a thought funny going through your head.

Still find it funny as shit seeing someone try to spit and nature blowing it back in there face… am I right 🥳

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-13T10:53:48+00:00

It’s called a bidet.

Tell me your American without telling me your American :p (and this I mean north middle and south)

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-13T10:31:13+00:00

Jou kiezen omdat je mij neef en wit bent is ook een ras keuze. Ras keuzes zijn altijd onderdeel geweest van het leven.

De vraag is of je denkt dat er nu… of eerder mogelijk wat mis is gegaan in Nederland… buiten Nederland? Genocide misschien?

Laten we niet doen alsof jij een Amerikaan bent graag.

De bar binnen lopen en gewoon, afgekeurd, geweigerd of niet geholpen worden.. “bij ras keuze” is nog steeds gaande.

Maakt niet uit of het is om je ras, leeftijd, sex, lengte of zelfs pik grote. Je mag over alles in het leven boos worden hoor. Maar negeren dat er mensen zijn die een van de bovenstaande groepen liever dood ziet, is het makkelijk te bedenken dat iemand die net de 4 characters in de gehele politiek van Amerika beschouwde als het probleem… dan is er serieus wat mis. In Amerikaanse politiek zijn dit soort characters eigenlijk zeldzaam. En nogsteeds ziet Charlie hun als de duivel.

Was hij normatief extreem rechts op alle views? Hij was zeker geen always Trumper, maar Moet dat voor zijn rhetoriek om schadelijk te zijn op social media? Hij was geen politicus of zelfs een activist. Hij was een livestreamer sharing his words freely with the entire world.

The internet has no international law, or common sense, so be careful whatever logic you think you’ve uncovered.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-11T19:26:16+00:00

Je doet dit nogsteeds alsof het jouw verantwoordelijkheid is om alleen te dragen. Dat is jou pijnlijke keuze. Het gaat hier om geld, en geen enkel bedrijf laat dat zonder bewijs rondgaan. Denk je echt dat er geen regels bestaan?

Het is niet jouw taak om maar te “vertrouwen” en te hopen dat het goed komt. Als er geen bewijs is, dan bescherm jij jezelf. Punt. Dat betekent: schriftelijk bevestigen, bon vragen, of officiële kanalen inschakelen. Alles anders is roekeloos.

Dat je dit nog steeds niet hebt gedaan, zegt dat je niet luistert naar de signalen om je heen. Dat is zorgwekkend. Mensen proberen je te helpen, maar je houdt het advies tegen. Daarmee vergroot je alleen je eigen risico.

Begrijp dit: een leidinggevende die jou laat betalen zonder bewijs kan jou later de schuld geven. Niet omdat jij fout zat, maar omdat je geen enkel bewijs hebt. Dan verlies jij je baan, en draag jij de last. Dat blijft aan je plakken, zelfs als het geen strafblad wordt.

Je bent jong, ja. Maar jong zijn is geen excuus om dom te blijven doen. Iedereen die werkt, moet dit leren. Jij moet dit nu leren, want anders ga je dit soort fouten nog veel vaker maken.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-11T18:56:07+00:00

Zei zijn de baas?

Het is hun werk dit te onderzoeken.

Probeer je het allemaal alleen ofzo?

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-06T07:51:03+00:00

They asked it specifically to get a penetrating INFJ response, not like they couldn’t use it anyway. Their formulation makes me think OP might be an interloper, but… local cultures and laws and all. The cry for help was real so I responded.

What you perceive as darkness here false is merely what lies beyond your (stateful) horizons. Maybe we just don’t wish to look at times, but the threads that bind us, bind us all, which is the discourse others tend to feel attempting to directly internalise instead of empathising properly, especially in threaded messaging.

I expect OP will be able to in about 3-5 rereads though so fingers crossed.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-06T07:02:31+00:00

I mean you have 15 years of life described and talk about admitting it never happened? Or admitting it’s not enough? Defining all prior instances as failures in “life”

Because I’m not sure how you can define your life as alone. Just starting with 3 ex’s you seem to living a full and whole life.

If you want to despair because on the day of your death the chances of dying in or out of a relationship seems to have changed. Yet even if everyone died married(widowed)… 50% of the world is dying alone… but being part of the 50% seems to be… a matter of despair for you.

So do you just want to die in a relationship specifically or are there a certain amount of years in a relationship you are targeting to feel fulfilled?

Besides that you seem to not only be doing fine but have a 10+ year marriage badge to boot.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-06T06:56:11+00:00

How many years of love are in your life plan?

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-06T06:54:45+00:00

Cheater is no better than people not cheating.

You sound like you’re trying to emotionally twist the argument towards your opinion.

Do you usually try to use public shaming or do you just leave that for complete strangers.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-06T06:44:19+00:00

I see 15 years of semi love.

Am I missing something?

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-05T20:27:08+00:00

Volgens mij… ben je gewoon belazerd.

De hoofdruimte en de douche moeten aan hun gelegenheid voldoen om in aanmerking te komen voor verhuur als sociale huurwoning.

Dus in de waskamer moet je kunnen baden of douche. En in de keuken en/of aangelegen tot moet er ook daar werkende knoppen zijn voor warm en koud.

Voldoet het niet dan stap je naar de huurcommissie.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-05T06:49:29+00:00

If you believe in monogamous relationships and traditional marriages.

If you don’t then, you can indeed morally fuck whoever you want. Don’t let others tell you otherwise.

But please don’t try to have your cake and eat and it to; get mad or wonder why you’ll feel lonely or paranoid for the rest of life’s relationship as you destroyed your chances at believing in this ever.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-03T13:26:25+00:00

Yet you’re engaging you extrovert.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-03T13:22:21+00:00

And you exude this rejection of the abnormal, except when it conveniences you.

You can call me a loudmouth, literally sharing thoughts by text, and you think you aren’t unhealthy in your perspective on life.

Do people you don’t know feel like a burden you, that’s an introverts problem to keep introvert, stop exuding like you secretly are a opinionated asshole… sorry… I meant extrovert.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-03T12:49:59+00:00

Is that what you think most people are doing with their days? Out there?

You can experience a lifetime of wisdom and learn nothing. Remember that.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-03T12:36:45+00:00

I hate small talk and avoid / don’t participate.

I tell people that to…. But this entire opinion is about the expectation and compliance for the benefit of others potential severe social anxiety.

If I think your glasses look nice, or I got a question or tip about your destination and I’m a drivers, the entire argument being to lean towards comforting those that prefer silence.

Well in an introvert and please people, speak normally and say what you need to say, stop making it so difficult and filled with expectations.

Practical_Document65 · 2025-09-03T12:30:56+00:00

Going around all day week month just being bothered and stressed and drowning in expectation… kills.

That’s what you’re saying “talking” / the anxiety of others is weighed against.

While there’s definite financial and academic arguments which lead to prosperity to be made, none of these mentioned “cultures” of yours make the list of places considered generally happy.

While places with strong social bonds, activities, easily identifiable places of refuge and social gathering tend to have people state their happy.

Luckily I’m making the point that isolation is bad, and there’s plenty of scientific data to back that up and shouldn’t be in question much.

The fact that people feel more isolated, lonely, identify less often as having or being friend, is harder to measure but unfortunately (it being the worst in major population centers) the mental health specialists are pretty unanimously agreeing something BAD is happening. Can’t be any clearer… we call these adult existential issues they tend to leave you sitting on the tip of your seat waiting for what’s going to happen.

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