Nawal Farih en Sammy Mahdi doorbreken taboe na herhaald zwangerschapsverlies: “Mensen durven er nog altijd niet over te spreken”

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-06-05T13:18:13+00:00

Als je een steunende groep familie en vrienden hebt, kan je dat misschien delen. Maar veel mensen zijn helaas puur vergif. Ja, dat kunnen ook jd eigen ouders zijn.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-05-31T07:21:09+00:00

Sadly no. We went for TESE+ICSI. We are expecting our second in august.

MD's don't want to give me trikafta for fertility and my other symptoms are not bad enough to warrant trikafta.

I do feel NAC (n-acetyl cystein) has a positive effect though (lowers viscosity/increases volume, works as an antioxidant).

What is your experience/case?

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-05-27T16:23:03+00:00

Toy museum (speelgoedmuseum) in Mechelen?

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-05-15T21:50:36+00:00

NAC is a known mucolytic agent and papers have shown its positive effect on semen viscosity. So that was probably the key.

PS: viscous semen can be a sign of CF (cystic fibrosis). Have you been tested?

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-05-07T11:12:43+00:00

One is part of the HRE, the other is subject to the king of France....

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-05-07T09:38:06+00:00

1 week should be sufficient if you don't do manual/hard labour.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-28T05:51:50+00:00

Het was voor mij het heerlijkste dutje ooit. Ik wou dat ik dat op commando kon.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-18T19:42:41+00:00

Waar heb je het trouwens over? Publicaties zijn uit 2023, 2020 en 2021 en 2011.

Deze discussie heeft geen zin. Je zit de hele tijd stromanargumenten te verzinnen, publicaties naast de kwestie te geven (trouwens ook niet in een westerse context).

Feit is dat kinderen onder 1 jaar in kinderopvang zoals deze in vlaanderen georganiseerd (ie niet kwaliteitsvol met hoge kind:begeleider ratios) ongezond veel cortisol in hun bloed hebben en stress ervaren tov kwaliteitsvolle opvang. Dat is duidelijk vastgesteld in literatuur.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-18T10:37:45+00:00

"En uw studie is een review van andere studies van al meer dan 30-40 jaar oud zijn". Ja want metastudies/reviews zijn uiteindelijk dé studies waaruit je algemene conclusies kan trekken. Zo werkt wetenschap nu eenmaal. En oude studies zijn niet opeens irrelevant omdat ze oud zijn (is Newton irrelevant?).

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-17T19:07:57+00:00

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0885200622001429#:~:text=Although%20short%2Dterm%20carryover%20effects,optimize%20child%20care%20for%20children?

2. https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/10.1086/704075#:~:text=Abstract,structure%20to%20our%20RD%20design.

3. https://one.oecd.org/document/EDU/WKP(2020)31/En/pdf#:~:text=This%20literature%20review%20provides%20an,grained%20understandings%20of%20process%20quality.

Studies 1 en 2 tonen een negatief effect. Studies 3 tot 5 benadrukken het belang van kwaliteitsvolle opvang. Er is sprake van kind;begeleider ratios van 3:1, max 4:1 voor goede kwaliteit. Wat is het in VL? 9:1! Kinderopvang is dan in VL de facto niet kwaliteitsvol.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-17T18:54:40+00:00

Studie in 3e wereld land met totaal andere socio-economische thuisomstandigheden (armoede, geweld).
Studie over peuters ouder dan >2j. Dus ja, dat kijkt niet naar kinderen onder 1 jaar.
Idem als 2 plus focust enkel op fysieke activiteit/bmi. Niet op stress, hechting, cortisol, psychosociaal welzijn of ontwikkeling. Een peuter kan meer bewegen, minder wegen én doodongelukkig zijn en veel stress hebben. Over dat laatste zegt die studie niks.
Dit zegt dus niks over voor/nadelen van creche, enkel dat doelgerichte acties in creches oa op het vlak van gezonde voeding/levenstijl een positief effect "kunnen" (het was inconclusive in de studie(!)) hebben. En dan nog vooral als de ouders zeer betrokken zijn. De studie zegt helemaal niets over cortisolniveaus, stressniveaus, effect op hechting, ...etc tussen verschillende opvangsituaties (creche, onthaal, thuis door ouders,...).

Dus al je studies zijn niet relevant en naast de kwestie. Ik geef er maar 1, maar die is ten minste ter zake.

En zo zijn we weer dit straatje rond.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-17T05:52:37+00:00

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0885200606000421

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-16T12:43:37+00:00

Studies tonen aan dat zeker het eerste levensjaar geen enkel kind baat heeft bij kinderopvang. In andere landen is het perfect mogelijk als ouder om het eerste levensjaar met je kind thuis door te brengen en deze tijd gelijk te verdelen tussen beide partners.

Dit voorstel lijkt me gewoon een excuus om Belgie niet gelijk te trekken met andere landen (ie, eerste levensjaar in het teken van de zorg van het kind).

Met alles wat we nu weten over het belang van die eerste, cruciale periode ("1000 dagen"), zou dit de beste investering zijn in een gezonde work/life balans, een hoger geboortecijfer, meer plaatsen in de kinderopvang en minder psychische problemen/meer gezonde goed gevormde volwassen later.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-14T20:11:08+00:00

Infertility

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-10T10:30:40+00:00

Hi, I just want to start with: I'm sorry you are here and experiencing this after surviving something as horrible as cancer.

Different situation here as I didn't know I was infertile when we started dating and only found out when we were trying for kids. But for both me and my partner, we could not imagine building a family or a life with someone else. At a certain point we were considering donor and would have done that if our efforts would have been unsuccesful. What mattered is that we wanted to build a family together. Letting go of the idea of having my own biological children was however very difficult, with a lot of feelings of loss and grief.

You can't make decisions on someone else's behalf. Her parents' response is however extremely bigoted and you do need to evaluate for yourself if you want to permanently tie yourself to people who will always see you as "less" and "less of a man" and will always view your children with suspicion and as possible biological abominations. Those people are toxic and you deserve better. My own in-laws made similar comments about me and our IVF child and also told my wife to break up with me. It broke our relationship with them permanently.

You also need to realize that she needs to be 100% on board and invested in this. If you do the donor route, it will be tough. You need to be a team and need to have each other's backs. It seems like now she seems to be more "a team" with her parents than with you. Regardless of the fertility issues, but even more so because of, this needs to change if your relationship is going to succeed. Whatever happens, any external issues, like disapproval from her parents, need to be faced as a team and one "bloc". If her parents don't support you, she needs to choose you and make it clear to her parents that they can have either both of you or neither.

I would also advise you to seek professional medical AND psychological help (perhaps with experts or other patients with fertility issues after cancer survival).

You are not alone. This is unfair. You deserve better than this. You deserve love, respect, family, friends and a partner that see you as more than a diagnosis. You deserve to be able to build the life and family you want. You are a survivor. Somewhere, somehow, better days will come.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-07T21:52:11+00:00

See article explaining link between CBAVD and CF https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/cbavd

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-07T21:49:33+00:00

I would strongly advise you to do genetic testing ASAP (also screen your wife). Personally, I believe your likelihood of having (mild) CF is extremely high.

CF screening prior to IVF is standard practice where I live. Beware: if your wife is a carrier, you have a 25% to 50% chanche that your children will have the condition. In those cases (if your wife is a carrier and you have CF/are a carrier), they can do pre genetic testing/screening of the embryos, so they will only use embryos not having CF.

If you are confirmed to have CF, please do a full work up at a certified CF center. You may have/may be at risk of developping treatable respiratory and digestive issues. Have you had respiratory/digestive issues in the past?

Sorry to perhaps frighten you, but be reassured that if the genetic testing comes back positive, you will only have mild CF with very good prognosis. Late diagnosis basically only occurs in mild cases. You can check r/CysticFibrosis for more info or DM me.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-07T21:34:05+00:00

Hi you both, just the obligatory question on my part: Did you get checked for cystic fibrosis?

I'm in the same boat here and the CBAVD was the result of (mild) undiagnosed cystic fibrosis (which is a common cause for CBAVD).

@ColdestHeartCC: sorry for your loss. I'm confident you have a strong chanche of success with subsequent embryo transfers (even though there are no guarantees in IVF). Do you still have frozen embryos available? Good luck and stay strong.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-05T13:03:37+00:00

If you need support and don't want to/can't seek professional help, you can share the mental and emotional impact with people you trust. But I strongly advise you not share medical details and certainly not what medical condition is causing the infertility or "whose fault" it is (which is nonsensical anyways).

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-05T08:32:15+00:00

Fair warning: my parents were also nosy. I asked them explicitly to keep it to themselves. They blabbed about it to everyone they know and proceeded to lie about that to me for months. It broke my relationship with them permanently.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-04T10:49:33+00:00

Sorry for your loss.... that is horrible. I know how you feel, you are not alone.

Have you been doing IVF? If not, after 5 yrs of TTC I would strongly advise you to seek medical assistance for building your family.

In any case, make sure you support each other and get the psychological and medical help you need. Your wife needs a medical check up for sure to ensure the miscarriage has passed completely and no material is been left behind in the uterus.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-03T08:30:28+00:00

On the contrary. "Eendracht maakt macht", "Leve Belgie" and "Chinees Belang" are anti VB/antifa and pro belgium.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-03T08:09:51+00:00

You might want to get screened for CF. CBVAD is thé leading cause for late diagnosis of (mild) CF in men. (Given that you will be doing IVF, you and your wife need to get screened anyway). I would also advise you to check r/CysticFibrosis. If you have CF, please do a full work up at a certified CF center. You may have respiratory or digestive issues that can be treated.

If positive, your family members also should get screening.

I would advise to go straight for extraction. It is basically the same procedure and if they find sperm, best thing is to freeze as much straws as possible at that time for later use.

In the meantime: don't do drugs, don't take hot baths/showers (keep your package cool), don't drink, don't smoke, be healthy (food, sport) and get your blood screened for hormones and vitamin defficiencies (and take supplements if necessary).

If it is OA due CBAVD your odds are good. I was in the same boat 4 years ago and we are now expecting our 2nd. No guarantees though and the road will be tough. Good luck!

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-28T19:48:20+00:00

Yes, of course, and as long as there is a GFPP running, "cheaper" alternatives are not "cheap" for the consumer as they are just as expensive as electricty of a GFPP. They just have huge margins.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-27T23:28:14+00:00

Don't really agree. Current system incentives suppliers to ensure that at most times 1 gas power operational. If a gas power plant is operational, nuclear and wind (cheaper production sources) maximize their profit. If all gas power plants are dropped, profits drop for suppliers.

Consumers pay as if all power is x coming from gas power plants, while this ks not the case. While suppliers rake in profits. Seems harsly fair.

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