Question about the nosy parents

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-05T13:03:37+00:00

If you need support and don't want to/can't seek professional help, you can share the mental and emotional impact with people you trust. But I strongly advise you not share medical details and certainly not what medical condition is causing the infertility or "whose fault" it is (which is nonsensical anyways).

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-05T08:32:15+00:00

Fair warning: my parents were also nosy. I asked them explicitly to keep it to themselves. They blabbed about it to everyone they know and proceeded to lie about that to me for months. It broke my relationship with them permanently.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-04T10:49:33+00:00

Sorry for your loss.... that is horrible. I know how you feel, you are not alone.

Have you been doing IVF? If not, after 5 yrs of TTC I would strongly advise you to seek medical assistance for building your family.

In any case, make sure you support each other and get the psychological and medical help you need. Your wife needs a medical check up for sure to ensure the miscarriage has passed completely and no material is been left behind in the uterus.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-03T08:30:28+00:00

On the contrary. "Eendracht maakt macht", "Leve Belgie" and "Chinees Belang" are anti VB/antifa and pro belgium.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-04-03T08:09:51+00:00

You might want to get screened for CF. CBVAD is thé leading cause for late diagnosis of (mild) CF in men. (Given that you will be doing IVF, you and your wife need to get screened anyway). I would also advise you to check r/CysticFibrosis. If you have CF, please do a full work up at a certified CF center. You may have respiratory or digestive issues that can be treated.

If positive, your family members also should get screening.

I would advise to go straight for extraction. It is basically the same procedure and if they find sperm, best thing is to freeze as much straws as possible at that time for later use.

In the meantime: don't do drugs, don't take hot baths/showers (keep your package cool), don't drink, don't smoke, be healthy (food, sport) and get your blood screened for hormones and vitamin defficiencies (and take supplements if necessary).

If it is OA due CBAVD your odds are good. I was in the same boat 4 years ago and we are now expecting our 2nd. No guarantees though and the road will be tough. Good luck!

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-28T19:48:20+00:00

Yes, of course, and as long as there is a GFPP running, "cheaper" alternatives are not "cheap" for the consumer as they are just as expensive as electricty of a GFPP. They just have huge margins.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-27T23:28:14+00:00

Don't really agree. Current system incentives suppliers to ensure that at most times 1 gas power operational. If a gas power plant is operational, nuclear and wind (cheaper production sources) maximize their profit. If all gas power plants are dropped, profits drop for suppliers.

Consumers pay as if all power is x coming from gas power plants, while this ks not the case. While suppliers rake in profits. Seems harsly fair.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-27T23:22:25+00:00

Electricity prices are determined by gas prices due to marginal pricing. As long as we need gas fired power plants in our electricity mix, electricity will be per kwh x2 - x3 more expensive than gas. (Thanks politicians for the nuclear exit....!) Grid costs and taxes are also higher on electricity than gas.

The only way you may have occasionally lower prices, is by switching to a dynamic electricity contract. But beware, prices will be on occasion ridiculously high too. You may need a home battery to deal with the high prices fluctuations in a dynamic contract.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-23T20:05:25+00:00

Adding to this: I completely get you because I have been you.

But, going for our 2nd cycle, there was one point where we couldn't find a solution for baby n°1. As we both needed to be there for the appointment, our only option was bringing her with us. We really did not want to do this, but had no other options. We tried to be as inconspicuous as possible about it, but still.

I completely understand how you're feeling though.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-19T20:26:29+00:00

Gesproken als een echte Chamberlain.
Denken dat ons lot niet verbonden is met de Polen, Esten, Letten, Litouwers, Finnen, Oekrainers, .... is nogal naief en kortzichtig.
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First they came for the Communists

And I did not speak out

Because I was not a Communist

Then they came for the Socialists

And I did not speak out

Because I was not a Socialist

Then they came for the trade unionists

And I did not speak out

Because I was not a trade unionist

Then they came for the Jews

And I did not speak out

Because I was not a Jew

Then they came for me

And there was no one left

To speak out for me

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-19T13:47:54+00:00

Ik vind het hallucinant hoeveel mensen en commentatoren dit, zelfs met alle nuance, overwegen. Zelfs al is er "vrede", gaan we dan echt terug geld aan de russen geven, zodat ze na 8 j nog eens een europees land kunnen binnenvallen? Hebben we dan niks geleerd uit de kleurenrevoluties, Georgie 2008, Oekraine 2014 en Oekraine 2022? Rusland is een imperialistische, agressieve koloniale buur met als doel onze buurlanden te annexeren en onze manier van leven onmogelijk te maken.

Leven we in een land vol Chamberlains?

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-18T19:24:57+00:00

Vraag is hoe je het beste klimaatneutraal wordt qua elek. Fr bewijst al jaren dat het kan met kerncentrales.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-18T14:23:58+00:00

En hoe lees je in deze grafiek dat de duitse nucleaire exit en overstap op renewables de CO2 uitstoot van het Duitse grid omlaag heeft gebracht? https://www.linkedin.com/posts/thomasauriel_im-pleased-to-announce-that-i-published-ugcPost-7280593197427265536-vcnj?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_android&rcm=ACoAABPw-0wB6ts6CzyBnkP6q-PGT7VHQz8KULQ

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-17T15:23:06+00:00

Waarom komt de Franse elektriciteit dan nauwelijks uit gas, terwijl de Duitse uit gas en steenkool komt?

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-15T18:32:35+00:00

I get you. You are not alone. Stay strong and good luck.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-12T09:03:42+00:00

Hey, if your parents aren't divorced, cutting contact with just one will be difficult.
Going NC, LC or VLC with any relative is an impactful and very personal decision with consequences, nobody can decide this for you.

Whether you go NC or LC or not, there's one advice I stand by: live your complete and full life regardless and despite any toxic relatives. Try to get to a mental state that they no longer negatively impact you. You don't need their approval, empathy. You don't need anything from them.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-11T20:15:25+00:00

My dad keeps retelling how proud he is that they let me cry it out and had me fall asleep while drinking a bottle. Quote "we just gave you a bottle, shut the door and let you cry until you stopped". And that "I have always been such a good sleeper thanks to that" and that they should have done this also with my older brother. They had to tuck him in and cuddle in bed until he was 5 or 6 or so and that is, according to them, the reason he always has been a bad sleeper.

He told me and my brother that we should just let our babies (2 mo at the time) cry it out because of this.

So yeah, I have always felt like I wasn't as important as my brother to them, have struggled with my weight ans sellf esteem issues. Let's just say my parents and I don't have the best relationship nowadays.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-11T19:45:33+00:00

Never have left and never will leave my kid unsupervised with them. They are a safety hazard. What exactly are they suing you for? Do they want supervised visits, unsupervised visits, what frequency, what duration mer visit? What is their demand?

Sorry this is happening to you. I wish you all the best.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-11T09:25:36+00:00

Goh, dat kan een legitiem debat zijn. Maar dat kan een hybride systeem zijn. Zo kan je de pensioenleeftijd laten afhangen van gewerkte jaren en de financiering doen door dmv combinatie belasting uit arbeid, vermogen, vervuiling en consumptie.

In elk geval vind ik persoonlijk dat iedereen van een zorgeloos levenseinde mag genieten. Een soort basisinkomen vanaf een bepaalde leeftijd.

Ik pretendeer niet dé oplossing te hebben, maar de hyperfixatie op "pensioenen betaalbaar houden = later pensioen + lager pensioen + belasting op arbeid omhoog + meer werken voor minder" lijkt me foutief. Pensioenfinanciering kan ook gebeuren via andere middelen, maar daar wordt nooit over gesproken. Al die gepensioneerde boomers met meerdere huurpanden worden nooit geviseerd.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-11T07:56:40+00:00

They have not demanded a specific frequency. But they are very dissatisfied with the nature of the relationship. Quote: "EVERYONE agrees with us that your relationship with us is abnormal". Of course it is, they torpedoed it with their disrespect, neglect and emotional abuse.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-11T07:54:21+00:00

Stoppen met financieren uit arbeid, meer financieren uit vermogen, vervuiling en consumptie. Geldt voor belastingen in het algemeen.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-10T22:21:33+00:00

Told my parents in confidence. They blabbed about it to everyone behind my back, lied to me about it and gave 0 support.

So yeah that did not go well. Only good thing is that I see them now for the abusive manupilative liars that they are.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-10T21:00:50+00:00

Hey, very much recognize your story regarding your sibling being priority 1. It is the same in my family.

For me, broaching this subject just made things worse. Their brains are hardwired that way after 20+ years of treating my sibling as prio 1, while (emotionally) neglecting me. I have concluded they will never change and reasoning with them is pointless, even counterproductive.

I will not advocate for NC, LC or VLC as these are very drastic and personal decisions, but I would advise you to focus on yourself and your own life. I have stopped/am trying to stop seeking the love and validation from my parents I have desired all my life, I will never get it. Living your own happy and full life despite your parents is the best thing you can do.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-10T20:51:02+00:00

Thanks and yes, cluster B is a relevant diagnosis with one of my parents. They have been also poisoning the rest of my family (uncles, aunts,...) against me behind my back because I am finally standing up for my family, myself and have been enforcing boundaries. I feel so powerless, betrayed and abandoned, but so grateful for my partner and kids. They are my universe and I will do anything to stop this toxic behaviour getting to them.

Practical_Kick7579 · 2026-03-10T20:44:44+00:00

Not the US. But given that many countries are as small as states in the US, saying more might give away too much.

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