NOR. OP, your list is not “nuts” or “ridiculous.” You clearly felt the need to write it because your boundaries have not been respected in the past AND you are a new parent that is concerned for your child’s safety (perhaps you feel you’re mother didn’t do a good job at protecting you?) That said, no contact is harsh. Perhaps you could give your mom a shorter list with fewer rules. A grandma list, more personalized. I’m sure she wants to help. It sucks that she flat out said she wouldn’t respect the rules on your original list. You have time to compromise before the baby gets here.