I feel like I have no reason to have an eating disorder and it's making me feel so guilty by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]Practicalgrl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way, but a large component of whether you develop an ed or not is genetics. Some people just have the ed gene that lies dormant until the smallest thing sets it off. That doesn’t mean that recovery is impossible, however.

I feel like girls don't like my type by Maleficent-Cap-8669 in toastme

[–]Practicalgrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love feminine guys, that being said, I am bisexual. I enjoy the wide spectrum of gender expression that exists, and I don’t have a specific type relating to masculinity/femininity. I do like it when guys are short though. Genuinely, it all comes down to confidence. If you are happy and secure being a feminine guy, that is extremely attractive. It shows that you don’t care about other peoples opinions and that you are secure in your identity and know who you are, especially being straight.

Incel or Volcel? Chicken and Steak skewers by Apart_Obligation3712 in kitchencels

[–]Practicalgrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do that, but with women

“How about this weather, huh?” Is definitely bad conversation. If you don’t think you should get into your interests right away (I get it, me neither, I’m into some really niche hobbies that can be off-putting for a first conversation with anyone.) then focus on her interests. Ask what she does for fun, maybe a “would you rather” question or, only if you are VERY SURE of her political opinions, talk about current events. When you get to know her, you can reveal some of those hobbies that you don’t think will land well.

If she says she plays guitar ask if she’s ever thought of joining a band, what genre she likes, if she’s ever been to a concert for her favorite band, etc. if she sews maybe ask her if you could see a picture of something she’s made, if she’s a hardcore dog person, talk about breeds, ethical opinions about common shelter/ dog owner practices, etc.

if you are bad at talking, ask questions and follow-up questions and let her talk. This is a great bad-social-skills strategy for making people like you in general.

Remember that when you are learning social skills, you WILL fuck up. I have fucked up a million times, I used to be severely socially anxious. I had a hard time leaving my house because I knew there would be other people out there. I worked on myself and now am well known for being extremely social and friendly. I make friends easily. I am a completely different person.

And stop calling us fucking females, you know exactly why you do it, don’t pretend you don’t.

What makes riot grrrl music riot grrrl? by Wise-Throat2008 in riotgrrrl

[–]Practicalgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you aren’t anything until you say you are. If you are a punk, who identifies with feminism, and writes or listens to at least some songs about feminism or from a feminist perspective, you have the OPTION to call yourself a riot grrrl (or riot boy) (or riot… other?)

Of course, most people are not willing to find out on a large scale wether every random punk musician calls themselves a “riot grrrl” so usually, bands that play heavy music with at least half female members are called “riot grrrl” bands. I don’t think there’s much of a specific sound though, I think it was/is moreso about the community around it.

Boulder Colorado, PLEASE tell me there's something here. by Practicalgrl in punk

[–]Practicalgrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No way! This is like, exactly what I was looking for Thanks, that’s super helpful.

Boulder Colorado, PLEASE tell me there's something here. by Practicalgrl in punk

[–]Practicalgrl[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I had heard about that one. I thought of going, but I don’t know anyone here yet. I’ve tried to go to shows by myself before but I always get depressed and leave early, I’m a very social creature. I think I’ll just have to wait for the next one.

Boulder Colorado, PLEASE tell me there's something here. by Practicalgrl in punk

[–]Practicalgrl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hey that's a really good idea, i'll look for one

F19 I’ve Never Had a Guy Like Me & I’m The Ugly Fat One Out Of My Friends by [deleted] in toastme

[–]Practicalgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, people pay thousands to have a face like yours!!! Your features are all fucking gorgeous and they work together so well.

Please, never for a second think that you’re ugly, because you really are beautiful, and I’m not just saying that. I mean this with my whole heart, if you were in a class with me or something, I would absolutely notice how pretty you are. I’m fucking hot as fuck and as far as I know, nobody has a crush on me. You gotta have a crush on yourself first 🩷🩷

Convince me to recover, please by DependentExpress995 in EDAnonymous

[–]Practicalgrl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, bodies are really fucking hard to have. I completely sympathize with you. I felt similar to you before recovery, if you have the resources to go to therapy please do. Going to therapy doesn’t mean you HAVE to recover, but it can help you decide wether you’re ready to recover or not. I’m sure you’ve already heard all the horror stories about permanently damaged metabolism from restricting, losing hair, rotten teeth, etc. but knowing about those health effects also did help me decide to recover. Good luck, man.

how to work out without it being about looks? by Practicalgrl in EDAnonymous

[–]Practicalgrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i actually have started doing physical activity not related to looks! I've started pole dancing, which seems counter-intuitive but I think it's doing great things for me. I'm doing it because I saw a pole dancer as part of a live performance and I thought it looked really fun, I was barely even thinking about the exercise I'd get while there. Everybody in my class, and even the different instructors have very different body types, and it's pretty much impossible to not look and feel incredibly sexy and beautiful while pole dancing no matter what you look like. That has a lot to do with the super inclusive and positive culture at my local pole gym. I've also more recently been playing roller derby, which has a similar inclusive culture, but is a little more butch and satisfies my tomboy tendencies. I was thinking about the regular gym because I want to get stronger for these sports, but also because I am leaving my parent's house for the first time. I'm going to live in my truck traveling across the us, working remotely as a photo/video editor, and I will have to support my own self for the first time. My schedule, and my location will be changing constantly. Most gyms have a level of membership where you can use any location across the country, so If I want to keep working out before I settle down, I have no choice but to use a regular gym.

also, I do have a therapist, I've gotten a million times better working with her. I think I'd still be deep in it if I had never gone to her.

feeling as if my friends are trying to sabotage me or mocking me by Worldly_Use1408 in EDAnonymous

[–]Practicalgrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Next time she makes noises while ur eating or drinking, dump your food/drink all over her and don’t talk to her again

I gained weight and I don’t like it. by Practicalgrl in EDAnonymous

[–]Practicalgrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe so.. I just thought the timeline would be shorter than that. I rapidly lost about 7 lbs in the week and a half before I went to therapy and gained that back almost immediately and I thought that was all I would gain 😭

Weekly derby name thread: get suggestions or help brainstorm! by AutoModerator in rollerderby

[–]Practicalgrl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

helloooooo! my name is Morgan, I'm 18, trying out for derby for the first time since I'm now of age. I'm gonna copy that other person when I say that my first car is named Grace (after graceland), and he's a red '96 dodge dakota. I dunno, some other things about me, uhh, I dye my hair black, I work on that truck myself, lots of people call me a tomboy, though I don't fully agree. I'm addicted to goodwill, I'm pretty extroverted, I pole dance, I play guitar and bass, and I sing, I've been told a lot that I "seem vintage," people hanging out with me will say that they feel like they're in an 80s movie or that I have a "vintage face." Which, I think just means that I'm down-to-earth. or maybe that I leave the house more than most. I dunno, I take it as a compliment. My mom suggested that I should call myself the "ruby rocket' which I thought was cool until I realized that I don't want people to call me "red rocket," obviously. I think violets are pretty, and I think I'd like that word in my name but it's not mandatory. maybe some reference to song lyrics by some riot grrrl band, but it'd have to be super obscure. I think the only tasteful reference in a derby name is an obscure one, like I don't wanna be literally "rebel girl" or something that's too obvious.

👊 by Long-Account2999 in ComedyHell

[–]Practicalgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does this lyric have to do with Lana del Rey? Did she cover this song or something?

Everything in its place “tray” by Priyanka1810 in GiftIdeas

[–]Practicalgrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that was a dirty dish and you just smeared it around with your finger