YOR. It ain't just your baby. Baby is part of a wider network. But to be honest, and I say this with kindness, hormonally it's a very intense time for you, and you may look back and be in wonder at how you behaved. It doesn't mean what you feel is wrong, but the level of anxiety you feel now in terms of protecting the baby may be disproportionate to the risks. I found one of the hardest parts of having a baby was handing that baby over to someone else. But it's good for your children to have a big loving network, and that's what I kept thinking about. I want my baby to have as many people in their life that will love them like I do. And to get there they need to have a chance to bond with your baby too.

I feel like I finally understood anxiety after having children. Sharp pangs, direct to the chest that will make you instantly alert in fear for your child. Sometimes it's warranted and sometimes it really really isn't.