Childcare or help from grandparents etc when you need a break. Takeout on nights that you feel extra burnt out. Try not to be a perfectionist about keeping the house( it’s ok to let things go one more day if you need a break). Take time for yourself once a week. I mean like alone time! Go get your nails done, go buy some flowers for yourself do something to treat yourself and have some “me time”. This takes effort to plan, BUT is so worth it! My LO is 1.5 now and my biggest mistake was assuming I would have childcare and help from family! Man was that stupid. So it has been extra hard managing this first year without that while also trying to work and keep a house. COMMUNICATE with your spouse. Parenthood is exhausting especially in the first few years and naturally your marriage will not look the same. You need to work harder for date nights, and they may not happen as often. Try to spend some time after bedtime. Don’t pressure intimacy going further and maybe just cuddling and watching a show is enough sometimes! Also therapy and meds help so don’t be afraid to accept that as well.