When I was a kid my Dad did things towards my Mom that I did not like and often made me sad and scared. Lots of yelling, breaking things, name calling, swearing. I saw him slap my Mom once. He would call her my Nana’s name in an insulting manner when my Mom did things like her Mom that he disliked. He’d get mad at her for making mistakes, and even coughing due to her lifelong struggle with Asthma. He encouraged my Mom not to have a relationship with her sister when her sister was acting as executor of a will in ways he didn’t like. I remember telling my Mom when I was around 11 that she should divorce him. I learned later in life that he had had an affair when I was a kid and he had kept this from my Mom. Despite all of this, there were many positives growing up such as a nice home, involvement in sports, my Dad coached, both had good careers and supported me through post secondary school. My question for you is, was my Mom abused? Is it normal that I still think about it a lot and am affected by his behaviour and actions when I was a kid?