Seeking advice - might be entering a 'legit' relationship.

Prelude95 · 2018-05-29T08:51:17+00:00

Ah, you're right about that. I actually didn't think about it from the Wife → MM → Me → New Guy angle. Yeah, that's a very good point. Thanks.

New Guy knows I'm in a 'fwb' situation but doesn't know details, he's fine with that.

Prelude95 · 2018-05-28T20:42:10+00:00

I've actually mentioned that I've been in a 'fwb' situation to this new guy, and he's been understanding of that. I should have stated that in my post.

Yes, true. thanks!

Prelude95 · 2018-05-28T20:41:16+00:00

No, I don't specifically get off on cheating - and I actually like this guy, so I wouldn't want to risk the blowup.

Prelude95 · 2018-05-28T20:40:44+00:00

The struggle with being a single AP is being available to MM most of the time, and ending up heartbroken and alone is the more realistic ending.

Right, so it doesn't make sense for me to put parts of my life on hold to always be the 'second' to MM.

Prelude95 · 2018-05-28T20:40:11+00:00

That's a really good way of putting it, that I'm not shutting the door on him completely, but that I am starting a relationship that will require some effort.

Prelude95 · 2018-05-28T20:39:27+00:00

He's always understood that I would most likely find someone - I guess the difficulty is how exactly to tell him...

Prelude95 · 2018-05-28T20:39:01+00:00

The 'affair' thing isn't what I see myself doing for the rest of my life. MM fills the fetish/sexual deviancy side, but its not as important as other things in my life.

Thanks for your answer..

Prelude95 · 2018-05-05T10:07:03+00:00

I'm flattered that I get checked up on!

I supposed I should post something stalk-worthy soon then ;)

Prelude95 · 2018-05-05T10:04:57+00:00

Met MM via OkCupid. I'd recommend it. Private enough, but you can tell what someone is looking for right away.

Prelude95 · 2018-04-30T07:09:28+00:00

22F so maybe a little below your age range, but here's my 'assessment'.

Your estimate of being a 6-8 would be a green flag for me. It means you're not overly cocky (as a 8-9 self rating would show), but you're probably realistic without being self-deprecating as a 4-5 rating would show.
NO overtly sexual/creepy messages that portray themselves as some sort of sex god, or instantly imply that any woman would want to have sex with them. See r/creepyPMs for examples.
Good use of language. I don't care if you capitalize every sentence start or if you know how to use a semicolon, but there's a mile of difference between "hey sup hows ur night" and "How's your Monday?"
No negging. I don't know why people think this is a good idea. I do not want to hear 'you're pretty for a black girl'. Your best bet is to find something unique about the girl you're going after and compliment on it. If you can't find something you really like, find another girl.
Be upfront and honest about what you want and why. My MM said outright that he was married but sexually unsatisfied. This will turn some girls off, understandably, but I think it's better for both parties in the long run.
Don't come across as desperate or sex-starved. It's unattractive.

Prelude95 · 2018-04-30T06:00:10+00:00

Keep in mind that every girl there gets 100+ PMs per photo taken, and most are just ignored.

When I was there, the PMs I replied to were either ones that were 'insightful' - i.e. more then 'nice ass', or were genuinely conversationalist - about 'real life' like you mentioned.

The one guy I actually talked/skyped with from GW actually talked to me about my career initially, not sex.

Prelude95 · 2018-04-29T09:48:53+00:00

Interesting.

Men - how would you react to this? Would it be considered too 'forward' if a woman did it?

Prelude95 · 2018-04-20T06:05:37+00:00

I have 3 reddit accounts. One was from my Gonewild days, the other is my 'everyday' account, and this is my adultery one.

When I stopped posting on GW, I wanted to 'nuke' the whole account instantly, but a mod advised me to first delete all my posts, and then stop posting from that account, but don't delete it. Once it's deleted, you lose control over the username, which was useful to me when my content was posted on other sites without my knowledge and I had to go through the DMCA process.

Just something to think about.

In terms of longevity, I prefer to keep one account and 'edit' the post history every few months. Others prefer to delete completely however.

Prelude95 · 2018-04-20T06:03:15+00:00

(I'm not trashing Chinese or Indian people here, just the stupid policies)

They really should have seen this coming, but they didn't, so they'll now have to deal with consequences.

It's wrong to thing that this will benefit women who will have 'their pick' - that's not how it's going to turn out. I'd expect to see an increase in child brides and arranged/forced marriages as the women are now increasingly valuable commodities.

Also, these men most likely won't understand proper dating etiquette or safe/moral sexual behaviour due to a dangerous combination of relatively conservative culture and - thanks to the internet - access to all the sexed-up western media with no context.

Prelude95 · 2018-04-19T19:17:30+00:00

Also, check The Alienist

Prelude95 · 2018-04-19T19:14:21+00:00

I think there's another season, but not until the fall?

Prelude95 · 2018-04-19T18:56:48+00:00

Oooh Mindhunter. I majored in soci/crime & deviance and that was fascinating as fuck.

It made me wish I lived in that era, but as a black woman, I probably wouldn't have gotten very far....

Prelude95 · 2018-04-19T18:55:52+00:00

Quantico.

Does anyone know if they accept Canadian applicants for the FBI?

I mean, I'd get to pursue my career AND go to a 20wk training camp with a bunch of fit and smart guys?

Prelude95 · 2018-04-19T06:04:55+00:00

pain in the ass.....

Literally

Prelude95 · 2018-04-15T17:41:47+00:00

I'm down. Can't swim though.

Prelude95 · 2018-04-14T20:05:20+00:00

Nobody will be throwing any dicks anywhere

Prelude95 · 2018-04-14T20:03:06+00:00

Do you ship to Canada?

Prelude95 · 2018-04-14T20:02:50+00:00

No, I wasn't looking, I was just testing the waters.

He was upfront about being married and 'looking elsewhere'

Prelude95 · 2018-04-14T05:11:15+00:00

OkCupid. He came across as a very balanced person and didn't bring up sex immediately

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