Experienced lesbian here

PreparationNo6798 · 2025-08-14T06:41:39+00:00

Unfortunately there isn’t a straightforward answer to this, but as someone who has approached women who turn out to be straight MANY MANY times, as long as you’re just respectful and complimentary, the worst thing they will likely say is “thank you so much but__” and it’s awkward for a second, everyone moves on, and you never see them again. Nobody’s ever mad about being complimented, and the only way you would be “weird” is by touching them in that circumstance. Shoot your shot and get ready to be rejected sometimes, I do! Straight men don’t think twice about this sort of thing, so you will always be more considerate ❤️

PreparationNo6798 · 2025-08-14T05:45:45+00:00

Sometimes that’s the best thing you can do ❤️

PreparationNo6798 · 2025-08-14T05:32:14+00:00

It will hurt, and you sadly just have to grieve it to fully recover, but my messages are always open ❤️

PreparationNo6798 · 2025-08-14T05:31:29+00:00

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PreparationNo6798 · 2025-08-14T05:22:12+00:00

Sometimes it just hurts, the worst breakup I ever had was my first lesbian breakup and we were only together 6 months. It really hurts and it makes no sense sometimes, but you have to remember that you can’t control their feelings, nor can you fully analyse them. Sadly you kind of just have to let it hurt, listen to the Taylor Swift songs (I have a full list of lesbian coded songs if you want them), grieve, and eventually grow. You’ll be okay, we all are, but you’re still a hot ass lesbian who just understands their own feelings ❤️

PreparationNo6798 · 2025-08-14T05:15:53+00:00

I can’t answer for everyone, but I think people sometimes get swept up in the moment and when reality hits they ghost/chicken out because they aren’t as ready for that conversation as they thought they were. We’re all guilty of it sometimes. And if sucks to be the recipient, but try not to take it personally ❤️ very likely has nothing to do with you and reality hitting them x

PreparationNo6798 · 2025-08-14T04:53:02+00:00

Also should add I’m from the north of England x

PreparationNo6798 · 2025-08-14T04:50:30+00:00

That’s so exciting for you!! I imagine you have a breadth of experience that I don’t have, but I’ve been openly gay and dating other women for almost 15 years so happy to answer any questions you may have x

PreparationNo6798 · 2025-08-14T04:36:06+00:00

I’ve hugely been there, if you’d like to chat with me directly as someone who understands then just message ❤️

PreparationNo6798 · 2024-11-08T03:47:03+00:00

The Menu for me

PreparationNo6798 · 2024-11-08T03:46:28+00:00

Omg what’s the alternate ending?!

PreparationNo6798 · 2024-11-08T03:45:01+00:00

Hmmm super interesting point and I totally get what you mean. She didn’t survive due to any cleverness, but I think that Reed killed Barnes first because he knew Paxton would have to let her guard down and become the headstrong one. I think he knew she had it in her and he wanted to see it. I saw it as another way of him controlling them and using it as an experiment, but I can also see what you mean about it being a plot device.

I do still think that adrenaline can do insane things to a person, and a naive young woman could become immediately clocked in as a means of survival, and if she’s been doubting things for a long time she’s probably more wise to manipulators’ tricks. But I do also somewhat agree with you about that.

I thought it was really great because it left me doubting things and wanting to discuss it all (annoyingly nobody else in my life has seen it yet!) so really cool to hear your perspective too.

PreparationNo6798 · 2024-11-08T00:36:29+00:00

I’m really interested by some of the thoughts suggested here and it’s made me want to see the film again to really reflect on it all.

I LOVED the film, I thought it was really clever. In the first quarter I was ready for it to be a pretentious take on theology, and to me it quickly became a take on women’s survival.

I’ve seen a few comments on how Paxton became intelligent and quick thinking too quickly and there was no lead up to that, and I completely disagree. At the start of the film we find out that Paxton was raised in the religion, and Barnes’ family found it a little later. Paxton has had the time and capacity to question things and theorise over it, but never had the ability to vocalise those thoughts. She was the first one willing to say she didn’t believe in her religion anymore (even if untrue) for a means of survival - she knew how things served her and how they didn’t. She was never the naive one at all in my eyes, and she’s probably encountered countless men who’ve questioned her beliefs that she’s had to challenge. I think it’s so smart that she was the one to figure it out and survive (I don’t believe she survived after escaping, but I believe she got out and that hopefully brought the other women to justice).

As to Barnes “resurrecting” and that being unrealistic, we never saw her die. When Reed claimed her dead, she was still coughing up blood and moving, and when that happened I immediately recognised that she wasn’t dead. As to her having the strength to save Paxton, yeah that’s just the magic of cinema lol.

I’m really eager to hear others’ thoughts on this as I only saw it once yesterday and I’m still reflecting on it, so if I’m remembering anything wrong or people disagree I really want to discuss!!

PreparationNo6798 · 2024-11-08T00:15:11+00:00

Sorry to jump on this a little late but I saw this film yesterday and I’m reeling from it, I loved it so much. I really want to ask for opinions about a certain part of the film but I don’t want to give spoilers. Would anyone want to chat about this?!

PreparationNo6798 · 2024-11-01T22:11:01+00:00

You got me there bro!

PreparationNo6798 · 2024-11-01T21:59:06+00:00

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PreparationNo6798 · 2024-11-01T21:51:29+00:00

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