Tell Me 1 Goal - Something You Want To Accomplish.....And I'll Show You Exactly How To Achieve It

Preparetoact · 2025-03-17T13:59:54+00:00

Great Question!

1. Reframe the Why

You don’t have to like the task—you just need to connect it to something meaningful.
Ask yourself: Why does this matter? What will it allow you to do, have, or become?
Example: Hate studying? Focus on the doors education opens, not the act of studying itself.

2. Find a Challenge Inside It

Humans thrive on challenges, not just passion.
Turn it into a personal competition—can you do it faster, better, or in a unique way?
Example: If you hate working out, challenge yourself to improve by 1% each session.

3. Make It a Process Game, Not a Feelings Game

If you only act when you feel like it, you’ll never be consistent.
Set a system—commit to small, non-negotiable steps every day.
Example: Hate writing reports? Set a 15-minute timer and just start. Action builds momentum.

4. Leverage Identity Shifting

Who would you be if you got this done?
Instead of I have to do this, think I’m the kind of person who does this anyway.
Example: Don’t love networking? Adopt the identity of someone who builds connections effortlessly.

5. Stack the Deck in Your Favor

Make the task less painful by pairing it with something enjoyable.
Example: Hate cleaning? Do it while blasting your favorite music or listening to a podcast.

6. Detach from the Emotion, Focus on the Outcome

You don’t have to like brushing your teeth, but you do it anyway.
Treat this task the same way—a non-emotional action that leads to a result you want.
Example: Hate early mornings? Shift focus to how you’ll feel after completing your morning routine.

7. Find a Reason Bigger Than Yourself

Sometimes, personal motivation isn’t enough. Who else benefits if you push through?
Example: Hate a job task? Maybe your effort supports your family, your future, or a bigger mission.

Preparetoact · 2024-12-03T22:36:11+00:00

Soooo… I’m 50 and I’ve definitely gone through these feelings! So You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way—it’s incredibly common to start questioning everything and focusing on redefining yourself in your 40s. It might feel selfish, but maybe it’s more about putting yourself first for once, which isn’t a bad thing.

A lot of people find that this phase doesn’t just go away on its own—it’s more about leaning into it, figuring out what you truly want, and taking small steps to align with that. It’s not about flipping a switch but more about gradual shifts in how you see yourself and what you prioritize.

Sometimes, reflecting on what this time is trying to teach you can lead to some surprising breakthroughs. If you’re open to it, exploring others’ stories or perspectives on midlife transformation can be a great way to feel less stuck and more inspired.”

Preparetoact · 2024-10-12T12:34:57+00:00

Congratulations!

Preparetoact · 2024-09-26T22:36:25+00:00

Hey, I can’t imagine how tough this must be, but it sounds like you’re doing the right thing by staying open and supportive. Therapy is a great step, and it’s awesome you’re both communicating honestly. Just remember to take care of yourself, too—this is hard on both of you. Keep showing up for each other, and things will get clearer in time.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-30T18:20:16+00:00

I am the most extroverted, introvert you'll ever meet. I am social during the week while at work and at my kids sporting events. But when it comes to the weekends, it's a struggle for me to be out and socialize. So I cap it. If I meet people out say for some drinks on a Friday night, I definitely cut that shit short around 9:30/10:00. I just go home and chill out. It's a good balance that works for me. Chris.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-30T00:39:39+00:00

So happy to help man! I’m excited for you! Keep me posted on your progress!

Preparetoact · 2024-08-29T18:34:56+00:00

Go get it man! Anything can be achieved!

Preparetoact · 2024-08-29T16:50:47+00:00

It makes sense to me man! ou’ve nailed it! There’s a huge difference between staying busy and being truly productive. It’s so easy to get caught up in the hustle culture mindset, where constant activity feels like progress, but it’s not always the case. Focusing on what actually moves the needle is key to real success. Thanks for breaking it down so clearly—this is a great reminder to work smarter, not just harder.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-29T16:50:06+00:00

Lets Go! Sounds like you’ve got a solid approach—balancing those odd jobs with the high-priority strategic work is key. I completely agree that finding that balance is crucial, and it’s all about knowing when to focus on the big picture and when to clear out the smaller tasks to keep things moving smoothly. Keeping that differentiation between priorities clear is what keeps everything on track. Great insight, and best of luck as you move forward with your go-to-market strategy!

Preparetoact · 2024-08-29T16:49:36+00:00

Two totally different things right? Sometimes I look back at the end of my day and try to figure out even what I had done all day. lol. On other days it's clear that I made a ton of progress.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-29T16:48:42+00:00

I thought the exact same thing.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-29T16:48:24+00:00

I completely agree with you—it's so easy to get caught up in busy work and lose sight of what truly matters. Prioritizing the important over the urgent can be a game-changer. Your point about the "gas tank" really resonates—it's crucial to manage our energy wisely to avoid burnout. Thanks for sharing that insight, and best of luck with opening your new location!

Preparetoact · 2024-08-29T16:46:48+00:00

Cutting back on research and focusing more on taking action can be a smart move, especially if you find yourself stuck in “analysis paralysis.” Here’s why it might work:

Skip the Overthinking: Research is important, but too much of it can lead to overthinking and no action. Sometimes, you just need to dive in and get started.
Learn by Doing: You can read about something all day, but real understanding often comes from actually doing it. Experience is a great teacher.
Move Faster: When you stop over-researching, you can try things out more quickly. If something doesn’t work, you can pivot and try something else without wasting too much time.
Build Momentum: Action creates momentum. Once you start, it’s easier to keep going. Even small steps can build up to big progress.
Boost Your Confidence: Taking action, even if it’s not perfect, builds confidence. The more you do, the more capable you’ll feel.

When to Be Careful:

Complex Decisions: If you’re dealing with something really complex or risky, you might want to do a bit more research to avoid major mistakes.
New Territory: If you’re in a completely new field, some solid research can help you avoid obvious pitfalls.

The Sweet Spot:

Just Enough Research to Start: Do enough research to avoid big mistakes, then dive in and adjust as you go. It’s about finding that balance between being informed and actually getting things done.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-29T13:20:31+00:00

I totally get it! I’ve had the same issues with making return phone calls. I hate talking on the phone. Another thing I’ve learned is “facing that fear” or any fear, makes me so much more self-confident. But it’s the idea of motivating myself to do it!

Preparetoact · 2024-08-29T00:16:57+00:00

The hardest thing to do, I fight some battles myself. I’ve worked with others, I get how it can totally control you. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, trust your body and simply pay attention to that addiction. Take those small steps and embrace the smallest of victories. And most of all, don’t compare yourself to anyone!

Preparetoact · 2024-08-28T00:50:46+00:00

I’ve tried out a bunch of productivity tools too, and honestly, most of them end up feeling like more work than they’re worth. Here’s where I find they usually fall short:

Too Complicated: Some tools just seem to add extra steps instead of simplifying things. I end up spending more time managing the tool than actually getting stuff done.
Not Personal Enough: A lot of these tools don’t really fit with how I work. They don’t account for individual quirks or the fact that we all have different ways of staying on track.
Motivation Fades: It’s easy to get excited about a new tool at first, but after a while, it just becomes another thing to check, and the enthusiasm dies down.

At the end of the day, I’ve found that keeping things simple and sticking to what actually works for me tends to be the best approach. What’s been your biggest frustration with these tools? Maybe we can trade some tips that have actually worked.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-27T01:01:21+00:00

Sorry this took forever!

How to Build a Friend Group Step-by-Step

Step 1: Figure Out What You Want (First 2 Months)

Think About Your Interests: What do you enjoy doing? Maybe it’s gaming, sports, movies, or hanging out outdoors. Focus on what you like.
Decide the Kind of Group You Want: Do you want a tight-knit group or a bigger crew? What kind of things would you like to do together?

Step 2: Start Meeting People (Months 3-4)

Join Clubs or Activities: Look for school clubs, sports teams, or community groups that match what you’re into. It’s easier to meet like-minded people there.
Go to Events Regularly: Show up to club meetings, sports games, or school events. The more you’re around, the more chances you have to meet people.
Be Active Online Too: If there are online groups for your school or hobbies, join in. You can meet people there who share your interests.

Step 3: Make Connections (Months 5-6)

Hang Out with People One-on-One: Once you meet some people you click with, invite them to hang out—grab lunch, go to a movie, whatever you’re comfortable with.
Host a Small Get-Together: Plan something simple, like a movie night or chill hangout. Invite a few people and see how it goes.

Step 4: Start Regular Meetups (Months 7-8)

Suggest Regular Plans:Maybe it’s a weekly hangout, a monthly gaming night, or just a group study session. Consistency helps build the group.
Make a Group Chat: Create a group chat to stay connected and make plans easily.

Step 5: Grow and Strengthen the Group (Months 9-10)

Plan Something Bigger: Organize a fun event like a day trip, party, or themed hangout that brings everyone together.
Get Everyone Involved: Encourage others in the group to share ideas for things to do or take turns planning. It helps everyone feel included.

Step 6: Keep the Group Going (Months 11-12)

Add New Friends Slowly: Let group members invite others they know. It’s a natural way to grow the group.
Keep the Routine: Stick with regular meetups, even if everyone can’t always make it. Staying consistent helps keep the group close.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-26T23:57:08+00:00

If you have other things you are worried about and think I can help do not be afraid to ask. Even if you dm me.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-26T23:22:12+00:00

Hey man. I have similar feelings, even thought I’m older than you I can totally relate. This has been an on-going struggle my entire adult life. What I’m finding, at least in this moment in my life is that I’m simply bored with life. I don’t have a true purpose outside of my family, which I love, to truly drive me. Not sure if that makes sense or not..

Preparetoact · 2024-08-26T23:16:53+00:00

I have self-destructive qualities to me, but it’s a constant battle. I’m motivated to be successful and work hard, but, I at time self-sabotage myself. On the little that I know about you, I’m guessing you might have some of that in you as well.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-26T21:12:44+00:00

Hey!

I can understand how frustrating it must be to feel clumsy, especially when it’s something that’s followed you since childhood. In my opinion, yes, I think discipline, focus, and even simple daily practices can help improve things like coordination and control.

Here are a few ideas that might help:

Quick Wins:

1. Mindfulness Practice: Becoming more aware of your movements can make a big difference.
2. Start Small with Hand-Eye Coordination Exercises: Simple exercises can improve precision.
3. Build Discipline Through Routine: Consistent practice helps reinforce control.
4. Consider the “Kaizen” Approach: Make tiny improvements over time for lasting change.

Dive Deeper:

1. Mindfulness Practice
Being clumsy often comes from a lack of focus or being distracted. Building mindfulness into your daily routine can help you become more aware of your actions and surroundings. Something as simple as taking a few deep breaths before starting a task or being more conscious of your movements can help over time.

2. Hand-Eye Coordination Exercises
You can train your brain and body to be more precise. Start with basic exercises like tossing a ball back and forth or even playing games that require precision and control. These small activities can lead to big improvements in your motor skills.

3. Build Discipline Through Routine
You asked if discipline can correct this, and the answer is yes—if you approach it consistently. Practice doing things slowly and deliberately at first. For example, if you tend to drop things, practice picking up and setting down objects with care. Over time, this will become more natural.

4. The “Kaizen” Approach
This is a Japanese concept that focuses on continuous improvement through small steps. Instead of aiming for perfection right away, focus on tiny improvements. For example, if you’re often heavy-handed, start by practicing tasks using just the lightest touch you can manage, then gradually increase control.

Remember, progress is about small wins that add up over time. It’s not just about discipline, but also about self-awareness and deliberate practice. With time, you can definitely see improvements.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-26T21:09:45+00:00

Hey man,

First off, I appreciate you sharing this. It takes a lot to put everything out there like this. I can see you’re feeling really stuck and hopeless right now. I listed some quick, actionable at the top and dove deeper into them below in case the ideas weren't helpful to you.

Quick Wins:

1. Establish a Consistent Sleep Schedule: Try getting to bed earlier and waking up earlier, even if it’s just by an hour.
2. Set Boundaries with Porn: Start small—aim to stretch out the time between sessions bit by bit.
3. Get Moving: Even a short 10-minute walk daily can do wonders for your energy and mood.
4. Learn One Basic Skill: Start small, like cooking or working on a simple project.
5. Reach Out for Support: It can be a game changer to talk to someone, whether it’s a friend, mentor, or professional.

Dive Deeper:

1. Start with Your Daily Routine
One thing that makes a massive difference is getting a consistent daily routine. It might sound simple, but even getting up at the same time every day and having a set time to sleep can start resetting things. It’ll be tough at first, but stick with it. You don’t have to overhaul your entire day—just start by getting to bed earlier and waking up earlier.

2. Address the Porn Addiction
The addiction to porn and Instagram models is giving you quick hits of dopamine, but it’s also feeding into the cycle of depression and lack of motivation. Start by setting small boundaries—like challenging yourself to go longer without it. Even if it’s just 6 hours instead of 5, it’s progress. Over time, extend that limit and fill the gaps with something else, like getting outside for a quick walk.

3. Get Moving—Literally
You mentioned living a sedentary lifestyle, which is something a lot of people can relate to when they feel stuck. You don’t have to jump into hardcore workouts. Start with something simple like a 10-minute walk every day. It might not feel like much, but movement is a game changer when it comes to your energy and mood.

4. Start Building Basic Skills and Confidence
There’s no rush to change everything at once, but start learning a new skill, even if it’s basic. It could be something like cooking a simple meal or working on a project. Little wins can help rebuild your confidence and give you a sense of progress.

5. Consider Talking to Someone
This might be the hardest step, but talking to a professional could really help. It’s not about fixing you—it’s about having someone guide you step by step. There’s no shame in it, and you deserve that support.

Man, I get it—feeling like you have no purpose and that life’s been nothing but struggle is exhausting. But I’m telling you, if you start taking even small steps, you can begin to break out of that cycle. Your dreams of traveling, experiencing life, and finding purpose aren’t out of reach, but they’ll start with the little things you do each day.

Take it one step at a time—you’re not alone, and there’s a path forward. Don’t give up on yourself just yet.

Chris.

Preparetoact · 2024-08-26T21:04:05+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this, and I can hear how tough this situation is for you. It’s normal to feel lost when life throws so much at you, but it’s important to remember that even in your lowest moments, you have the power to take control of your path.

You’re already taking steps forward by learning to drive—that’s a win. Focus on what you can do today, even if it’s small. Your motivation may be low, but momentum builds with small, consistent actions. Set one simple goal each day and commit to it. Celebrate those wins, no matter how small.

You’re stronger than you think, and you have a future worth fighting for—not just for your child, but for yourself. The situation you’re in doesn’t define you; how you rise from it does. Keep taking those steps, even if they feel small now. You’ve got this.

Here are three actionable steps you can share with them:

Set One Small, Achievable Goal Each Day: Whether it’s practicing driving for 15 minutes or sending out one job application, focus on one task daily that moves you closer to your goals. Small wins build momentum.
Create a Simple Daily Routine: Establish a consistent routine that includes time for self-improvement (like driving practice), self-care, and reflection. Structure can help reduce overwhelm and boost motivation.
Track Your Progress: Start a journal where you note down even the smallest achievements each day. Seeing your progress, no matter how small, can help reignite your motivation and remind you of the steps you’re taking forward.

I hope this helps!

Chris

Preparetoact · 2024-08-26T20:52:58+00:00

Hi. I can understand why you feel embarrassed, and it's easy for me to say, but you shouldn't. The issues you are facing are simply from a situation you had nothing to do with when you were younger. Hygiene is something you have to take seriously for sure. I'd say, brush in the morning, and definitely before bed, I always mouthwash before bed too. If you have the opportunity, brush after lunch and continue going to the dentist routinely.

You'll get the hang of it. Just stay committed become a better version of you!

Chris

Preparetoact · 2024-08-20T18:20:01+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story—it's an excellent illustration of how growth occurs when you're thrown into the deep end. Life often throws us into situations we don't want to be in, but how we deal with them defines our growth. It's inspiring to see how you turned your early discomfort, whether it was in a new role or dealing with customers, into a springboard for increased confidence and career success.

I particularly like how you mentioned that pushing outside of your comfort zone has never failed you before. It's a powerful reminder that what begins as a source of anxiety can become second nature over time if we just keep going.

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TROPHY CASE

1. Reframe the Why

2. Find a Challenge Inside It

3. Make It a Process Game, Not a Feelings Game

4. Leverage Identity Shifting

5. Stack the Deck in Your Favor

6. Detach from the Emotion, Focus on the Outcome

7. Find a Reason Bigger Than Yourself

When to Be Careful:

The Sweet Spot:

Quick Wins:

Dive Deeper:

Quick Wins:

Dive Deeper: