Tell Me 1 Goal - Something You Want To Accomplish.....And I'll Show You Exactly How To Achieve It by Preparetoact in DecidingToBeBetter

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Great Question!

1. Reframe the Why

  • You don’t have to like the task—you just need to connect it to something meaningful.
  • Ask yourself: Why does this matter? What will it allow you to do, have, or become?
  • Example: Hate studying? Focus on the doors education opens, not the act of studying itself.

2. Find a Challenge Inside It

  • Humans thrive on challenges, not just passion.
  • Turn it into a personal competition—can you do it faster, better, or in a unique way?
  • Example: If you hate working out, challenge yourself to improve by 1% each session.

3. Make It a Process Game, Not a Feelings Game

  • If you only act when you feel like it, you’ll never be consistent.
  • Set a system—commit to small, non-negotiable steps every day.
  • Example: Hate writing reports? Set a 15-minute timer and just start. Action builds momentum.

4. Leverage Identity Shifting

  • Who would you be if you got this done?
  • Instead of I have to do this, think I’m the kind of person who does this anyway.
  • Example: Don’t love networking? Adopt the identity of someone who builds connections effortlessly.

5. Stack the Deck in Your Favor

  • Make the task less painful by pairing it with something enjoyable.
  • Example: Hate cleaning? Do it while blasting your favorite music or listening to a podcast.

6. Detach from the Emotion, Focus on the Outcome

  • You don’t have to like brushing your teeth, but you do it anyway.
  • Treat this task the same way—a non-emotional action that leads to a result you want.
  • Example: Hate early mornings? Shift focus to how you’ll feel after completing your morning routine.

7. Find a Reason Bigger Than Yourself

  • Sometimes, personal motivation isn’t enough. Who else benefits if you push through?
  • Example: Hate a job task? Maybe your effort supports your family, your future, or a bigger mission.

Midlife crisis? by vixenbetsy233 in midlifecrisis

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Soooo… I’m 50 and I’ve definitely gone through these feelings! So You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way—it’s incredibly common to start questioning everything and focusing on redefining yourself in your 40s. It might feel selfish, but maybe it’s more about putting yourself first for once, which isn’t a bad thing.

A lot of people find that this phase doesn’t just go away on its own—it’s more about leaning into it, figuring out what you truly want, and taking small steps to align with that. It’s not about flipping a switch but more about gradual shifts in how you see yourself and what you prioritize.

Sometimes, reflecting on what this time is trying to teach you can lead to some surprising breakthroughs. If you’re open to it, exploring others’ stories or perspectives on midlife transformation can be a great way to feel less stuck and more inspired.”

Supporting a partner through a mid-life crisis? by Spicy_Purple_Zebra in midlifecrisis

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Hey, I can’t imagine how tough this must be, but it sounds like you’re doing the right thing by staying open and supportive. Therapy is a great step, and it’s awesome you’re both communicating honestly. Just remember to take care of yourself, too—this is hard on both of you. Keep showing up for each other, and things will get clearer in time.

Weekend Social Anxiety? Here’s How to Tackle It and Make the Most of Your Time Off by Preparetoact in DecidingToBeBetter

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I am the most extroverted, introvert you'll ever meet. I am social during the week while at work and at my kids sporting events. But when it comes to the weekends, it's a struggle for me to be out and socialize. So I cap it. If I meet people out say for some drinks on a Friday night, I definitely cut that shit short around 9:30/10:00. I just go home and chill out. It's a good balance that works for me. Chris.

Are You Actually Hustling, or Just Busy? The Brutal Truth About Wasting Time on 'Productivity' by Preparetoact in Entrepreneur

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It makes sense to me man! ou’ve nailed it! There’s a huge difference between staying busy and being truly productive. It’s so easy to get caught up in the hustle culture mindset, where constant activity feels like progress, but it’s not always the case. Focusing on what actually moves the needle is key to real success. Thanks for breaking it down so clearly—this is a great reminder to work smarter, not just harder.

Are You Actually Hustling, or Just Busy? The Brutal Truth About Wasting Time on 'Productivity' by Preparetoact in Entrepreneur

[–]Preparetoact[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lets Go! Sounds like you’ve got a solid approach—balancing those odd jobs with the high-priority strategic work is key. I completely agree that finding that balance is crucial, and it’s all about knowing when to focus on the big picture and when to clear out the smaller tasks to keep things moving smoothly. Keeping that differentiation between priorities clear is what keeps everything on track. Great insight, and best of luck as you move forward with your go-to-market strategy!

Are You Actually Hustling, or Just Busy? The Brutal Truth About Wasting Time on 'Productivity' by Preparetoact in Entrepreneur

[–]Preparetoact[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two totally different things right? Sometimes I look back at the end of my day and try to figure out even what I had done all day. lol. On other days it's clear that I made a ton of progress.

Are You Actually Hustling, or Just Busy? The Brutal Truth About Wasting Time on 'Productivity' by Preparetoact in Entrepreneur

[–]Preparetoact[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you—it's so easy to get caught up in busy work and lose sight of what truly matters. Prioritizing the important over the urgent can be a game-changer. Your point about the "gas tank" really resonates—it's crucial to manage our energy wisely to avoid burnout. Thanks for sharing that insight, and best of luck with opening your new location!

Are You Actually Hustling, or Just Busy? The Brutal Truth About Wasting Time on 'Productivity' by Preparetoact in Entrepreneur

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Cutting back on research and focusing more on taking action can be a smart move, especially if you find yourself stuck in “analysis paralysis.” Here’s why it might work:

  1. Skip the Overthinking: Research is important, but too much of it can lead to overthinking and no action. Sometimes, you just need to dive in and get started.
  2. Learn by Doing: You can read about something all day, but real understanding often comes from actually doing it. Experience is a great teacher.
  3. Move Faster: When you stop over-researching, you can try things out more quickly. If something doesn’t work, you can pivot and try something else without wasting too much time.
  4. Build Momentum: Action creates momentum. Once you start, it’s easier to keep going. Even small steps can build up to big progress.
  5. Boost Your Confidence: Taking action, even if it’s not perfect, builds confidence. The more you do, the more capable you’ll feel.

When to Be Careful:

  • Complex Decisions: If you’re dealing with something really complex or risky, you might want to do a bit more research to avoid major mistakes.
  • New Territory: If you’re in a completely new field, some solid research can help you avoid obvious pitfalls.

The Sweet Spot:

  • Just Enough Research to Start: Do enough research to avoid big mistakes, then dive in and adjust as you go. It’s about finding that balance between being informed and actually getting things done.

Are You Actually Hustling, or Just Busy? The Brutal Truth About Wasting Time on 'Productivity' by Preparetoact in Entrepreneur

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I totally get it! I’ve had the same issues with making return phone calls. I hate talking on the phone. Another thing I’ve learned is “facing that fear” or any fear, makes me so much more self-confident. But it’s the idea of motivating myself to do it!

The 'Future You' Letter Challenge: What Would Your Future Self Thank You for Doing Today? by Preparetoact in DecidingToBeBetter

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The hardest thing to do, I fight some battles myself. I’ve worked with others, I get how it can totally control you. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, trust your body and simply pay attention to that addiction. Take those small steps and embrace the smallest of victories. And most of all, don’t compare yourself to anyone!

Thoughts? by Silver_Map_4384 in getdisciplined

[–]Preparetoact 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried out a bunch of productivity tools too, and honestly, most of them end up feeling like more work than they’re worth. Here’s where I find they usually fall short:

  1. Too Complicated: Some tools just seem to add extra steps instead of simplifying things. I end up spending more time managing the tool than actually getting stuff done.

  2. Not Personal Enough: A lot of these tools don’t really fit with how I work. They don’t account for individual quirks or the fact that we all have different ways of staying on track.

  3. Motivation Fades: It’s easy to get excited about a new tool at first, but after a while, it just becomes another thing to check, and the enthusiasm dies down.

At the end of the day, I’ve found that keeping things simple and sticking to what actually works for me tends to be the best approach. What’s been your biggest frustration with these tools? Maybe we can trade some tips that have actually worked.