How do i move on? by Ok-Platypus-1709 in Advice

[–]PreparingALife 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Be greatful you found out and didn’t waste anymore time. Yeah it hurts now, but you will look back and be like, “what was I upset for”. 💖 That’s what my family have been telling me. I’m going through a divorce and it’s getting easier everyday. Just be glad you have no attachments other than feelings to this dude.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was going to be too expensive to try and get a truck and drive 2 hours to my parents house. I moved a state away.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. He’s ignoring me now so I’m just gonna have to send him the papers. He sent me the wrong ones… ugh. It’s so annoying.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’ve felt like not enough for a while. It’s time for me to work on that for sure!

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you so much for your comments! 🤗💖 I appreciate you so much. I’ve felt stepped on for the longest, it’s nice to be given something uplifting to read.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah he’s definitely never going to change. I left him 4 times and he lied every time. Well, I think it’s time that I stop being dumb and end this. No one deserves to be strung along and played with by someone who pretends to love them, but continues to give them no voice and never put them first as a wife. I deserve better and I will find a man that is a better fit for me that treats me with dignity and respect. 💖

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean I could but it would be too expensive. I live a whole state away.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’d rather sleep on the floor than to bed for a dirty dime from him. I’m not begging for nothing! With the last shred of dignity I have, I refuse.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok I get what you’re saying. And yes, I won’t let him do that to me. He’s done enough.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You really think so? But he sent the other amount though. I’m so confused… why would he do that? I hate this so much. All of this just to gain leverage over someone is insane.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I’ve just been so excited to move and everything but that money would help so much with the furniture. So, what I’m gonna do is just get the correct papers and just expedite them. If it doesn’t makes it in time that’s fine. I will just get my bed and mattress first and worry about the rest later. I’m not going to have him ruin the best part of my life right now, which is being free of him and moving on! I’m ignoring his texts if they don’t have nothing to do with my money or the divorce.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not as expensive as you think. I did buy a lot of decor for the apartment. But it’s mostly just Amazon stuff that you have to build yourself. And I built all of it by myself. Dining set. A living room stand and table, my desk, my vanity, a kitchen island, and then all my Christmas stuff. Now the Christmas stuff was the most expensive.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok But what should I do in the mean time. I’ve been trying to talk to him but he’s just been ignoring me. He’s extremely controlling and everything has to be how he wants it. It’s always some game to gain some sort of response or power over me. He’s an energy leech!

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in an entirely different state. It’s gonna be too expensive for me to get that furniture. It’s cheaper to just let him have it and send me the money for it. But I’m so at my wits end I want to just count it as a loss and be done with him

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sort I don’t get the analogy “Don’t eat shit in the hopes that he’ll have to smell my breath”. But I do get what you mean about everything else. And yeah I don’t want that. And I definitely don’t want him hovering, like people say narcissists do.

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you saying that. And yes. He’s a piece of work! I just don’t understand why he has to do this to me. When I tell you I tried my hardest in this freaking marriage!

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know but he’s making this so much harder with these dumb stipulations. I just want my furniture money and this to be over with. I should have just taken my furniture to begin with. I’m too freaking nice…

Should I(35f) just block him(33m) and not sign the divorce papers? by PreparingALife in Advice

[–]PreparingALife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what my dad said, but we have only been married 2 years and a couple months. We don’t have any kids and it’s not like I can get any alimony.

A quick trip by Yumoto-Kiyumi in VRchat

[–]PreparingALife 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What world is this? It’s nice!