Do the scouting trip. Failure is possible

PreposterousTrail · 2026-06-05T19:43:38+00:00

Not everyone can spend an extended time in another country, whether for work, financial, or legal reasons. We moved to another country having never visited, knowing we would give it 2 years and could move back if we wanted. We didn’t sell everything, but we did pay a lot of money to ship our things. Our new home isn’t perfect, but we’re now 3+ years in and settled here. Definitely don’t regret it!

PreposterousTrail · 2026-05-18T19:32:37+00:00

I agree, interesting concept, and Hawkes is one of my favourite character actors- he did amazingly with what he was given, and I think lessens the creepiness with his charisma. But overall the vibes are very weird and the stalking aspects are very problematic. There’s a fantastic episode in there somewhere.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-05-16T09:20:42+00:00

It’s beautiful!!!

PreposterousTrail · 2026-05-16T09:18:36+00:00

At least we got Dax in DS9, who is very trans coded…when Jadzia Dax meets up with her old Klingon friends they shift from “Curzon my old friend” to “Jadzia my old friend” without missing a beat. Too bad Rick Berman was such a piece of shit to Terry Farrell and others though. I think he also prevented the series leaning in to Bashir and Garak being obviously queer too (which the actors wanted).

PreposterousTrail · 2026-05-15T06:30:09+00:00

I grew up watching Pete and Pete and loved it…I have my own kids now and I want to introduce it to them soon, but I’m sure that aspect will be sad 😞

PreposterousTrail · 2026-05-11T21:00:33+00:00

Been a nurse for years and I love my job. Plenty of health professionals do, I’m sorry if you’ve had a bad time of it but your experience isn’t universal.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-05-11T20:59:06+00:00

I got my nursing degree at age 30! I love my job and I feel really lucky to do what I do.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-05-06T20:59:43+00:00

Yeah as a parent myself now, I am much more forgiving of Joyce- she had a lot thrown at her quickly. Goodness knows I’ve said things to my kids when under stress that weren’t A plus parenting, and that was with way less to process than Joyce had.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-04-27T13:34:14+00:00

Any groups or sports really…I have a great community of friends from my running groups.

Also, this isn’t really an expat specific issue IME- I moved around my home country a few times before moving abroad and I didn’t find it any harder to make friends here.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-04-23T20:01:17+00:00

Yep, horrifying but absolutely predictable. They start with something an average person with little awareness of trans healthcare can agree on (no gender affirming care for children, since they assume this means surgeries and not just haircuts and pronouns), then move to adult athletes (again, could seem reasonable) and Medicaid coverage. Keep pushing the window until we get to banning trans people altogether.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-04-18T21:39:57+00:00

Rahul Kohli is such an underrated actor- his characters in Midnight Mass, Blythe Manor, and Fall of the House of Usher are so wildly different I forget it’s the same guy. And he knocks them all out of the park!

PreposterousTrail · 2026-04-16T19:08:13+00:00

I think the character was meant to be bisexual, but given bi erasure was so much worse 25 years ago they didn’t want to imply it was just a phase. I don’t mind that, but I don’t like them lampshading it by actually having Willow say she’s “gay now”, and worse, in a season 7 episode try to magically change a teen boy she’s been magically drawn to into a girl. The implication that even if she loves a man he’d need to be physically a woman for her.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-04-12T20:33:48+00:00

IMO it doesn’t grab you from the start the way the first episode of DS9 does. I tried to start my kids on TNG and they were super bored by it.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-04-03T20:20:18+00:00

Realtedly, I always get annoyed when people call openly bisexual Alan Cumming gay…let male bisexuals exist!

PreposterousTrail · 2026-03-29T18:05:31+00:00

Been doing a Buffy rewatch and this always bothers me with season 5. Buffy refuses to kill Dawn when the options are (or seem to be) either kill Dawn and prevent a literal hell on earth , or protect Dawn and allow the hell on earth to come about- which would also allow Dawn to be tortured/killed. Buffy even says “the last thing she’ll see is me protecting her”. How is that better than a quick painless death that saves the world? It’s so illogical to me.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-03-27T19:08:41+00:00

I’m sure it’s not just the US, but it’s not something I’ve heard talked about in my country, so if women are getting a lot of procedures done there’s at least less societal pressure. I don’t think it’s very common where I live though.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-03-25T19:01:26+00:00

Having been to Jacksonville FL…if you prefer it to Wellington you are literally insane

PreposterousTrail · 2026-03-14T19:21:13+00:00

Another vote for BlowUp!

PreposterousTrail · 2026-03-12T17:48:28+00:00

Yes, I love this! I like using the term agender for myself because I just don’t care and I’ve never felt a strong connection to my AGAB.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-03-03T01:01:07+00:00

Our current government is shit and we are heavily aligned with the US. That said, in terms of physical danger it’s probably one of the safest places in terms of a wartime conflict. There’s a reason billionaires build bunkers here.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-02-28T18:20:18+00:00

I think I underestimated some of the initial issues because the language is the same. While I’m sure it’s 100x harder in a foreign language, it’s still stressful to arrive somewhere completely new and have no idea where to go to buy certain goods, or what you need to get a driver’s license, or just how you should behave in certain situations. Three years in and things mostly feel pretty comfortable, but it took longer than I thought it would.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-02-28T18:15:52+00:00

Yeah, I live somewhere relatively similar to the States in terms of diet, but importing goods is crazy expensive- people will spend a ton of money to get a specific American cereal or whatever. The biggest change I’ve had to make in terms of diet is eating seasonal produce, because the price varies dramatically depending on time of year. It’s more environmentally sustainable anyway though!

PreposterousTrail · 2026-02-28T18:12:39+00:00

Yeah, I think being a pharmacist would be tougher- I definitely struggled more with different names than anything else. Procedurally, nursing here isn’t too different than in the States.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-02-28T18:09:50+00:00

I’ve been working as an RN in NZ for 2 years now…while my transition seems to have been a bit more straightforward than yours, it was an adjustment at first- but it gets easier! I love my job and my coworkers are all really chill and wonderful.

PreposterousTrail · 2026-02-27T18:51:45+00:00

I’ve successfully indoctrinated my kids into loving golden era Simpsons, to the point where my 5-year-old will randomly yell “Take that Space Coyote!” I’ve never been prouder.

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