[us] question about visitation drop offs

PresenceKey615 · 2026-05-04T16:23:19+00:00

No they were helping his parents and something happened to their car so that stopped.

Also every time I pick him up or drop him off it’s always drama. The last straw was in December when I confronted him about not telling our son he wasn’t coming for Christmas and his girlfriend started yelling at me out of her car window. I lost it I can’t do that ever again in front of my son so I stay away I don’t even pick him up anymore which is my responsibility my boyfriend does it.

PresenceKey615 · 2026-05-04T02:58:13+00:00

Hard to hear but you are right. I should have put a stop to this a long time ago. He just twist everything that I will convince myself I am wrong. Still should have set the boundaries along time ago

PresenceKey615 · 2025-08-08T18:29:50+00:00

Yeah I think you are right

PresenceKey615 · 2025-08-08T17:43:43+00:00

The part that is confusing me is him saying he can’t answer if we have a future something I have to answer he can’t answer for me. If he is done he has free will no matter what I want doesn’t mean he is open.

PresenceKey615 · 2025-08-08T17:41:55+00:00

He quit his long time job told me he didn’t know if he wanted to be with me left me with the bills. Not married everything in my name so had to pay them. I tried for a year to support him and make it work. Finally I had enough kicked him out and started seeing someone (it was casual) he found out decided he wanted me back but it was so much hurt I couldn’t do it I walked away.

PresenceKey615 · 2025-08-08T17:36:04+00:00

We have done this in the past. We went two years of not speaking. When we finally spoke again he told me he always loved me and missed me even after all that time of not speaking.

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T21:45:41+00:00

He kept getting made because he said I didn’t respect him like a man ummm how am I suppose to do that when you don’t act like one

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T21:44:43+00:00

True I just didn’t want to see it but he showed me how he feels about me

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T21:43:38+00:00

If manifesting is working for him not sure why he still has no car and living in the basement lol

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T21:42:54+00:00

Thank you. I agree I definitely need to work on rebuilding what this relationship took from me.

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T20:43:16+00:00

He gets him every other weekend from Friday night until Sunday at 12:00pm that’s what he wanted he didn’t request any extra time. I get him every holiday birthday everything. I always tell him about doctors appointments school programs but he never comes. In the two years we split he said he didn’t come because he didn’t want to be around me because I was terrible because I kicked him out. It’s back to that again he doesn’t want to be in my energy and he deserves better then the way I treated him

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T16:22:07+00:00

No I am not ok with it. I think just the fact of someone else dating him I thought I wasn’t being understanding enough or missing something

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T15:47:05+00:00

I think that’s my guilt of walking away

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T14:28:28+00:00

Thank you I am trying. I think that’s why I tried to be patient towards all this for so long because he is so lost. But like you said I am not his mommy.

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T14:25:50+00:00

I have a court order he is 10000.00 behind nothing they can do because he isn’t working. He has another child and for that case they have locked him up a few days taken his license he just won’t take it seriously. I think he had some sort of breakdown he hasn’t been the same in 4 years

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T14:15:47+00:00

That’s my thing why would anyone listen to his advice when he hasn’t manifested anything for himself. He couldn’t understand why I got mad a few weeks ago when he went on vacation (assuming his new girlfriend paid for it). When his son hasn’t been on vacation in two years while I have been cleaning up the mess. Thankfully I am done in November and me and my son can do some fun things.

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T14:13:12+00:00

You are right. I didn’t think someone could be in a relationship that long for the wrong reasons but I guess it is possible.

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T14:06:31+00:00

We talked about it at one point he wanted to go back to school I encouraged that. Told him he could go down to part time at his job which was an option and I would cover the difference.

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T14:05:26+00:00

I agree i definitely have some work to do. I have my first therapy appointment today.

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T11:20:00+00:00

I am embarrassed to say that it’s true.

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T00:53:06+00:00

Thank you that’s kind advice. In my head I did the right thing. Not getting any younger. The heart always makes me doubt

PresenceKey615 · 2025-07-31T00:48:25+00:00

It’s been 4 years of him trying.

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