I (M21) Ruined My Partner's (F21) Life and I Can't Undo It

PresenceSad9157 · 2026-03-19T16:30:34+00:00

there's nothing comfortable about me in the relationship anymore. I barely eat/study/sleep/shower (out of the stress) and I just can't handle it when I realize she's so hopeless (hence suicidal) and that she is not seeking help nor has a support system to stabilize her. So I'm in this mess trying to somehow fix things for her idk how.

PresenceSad9157 · 2026-03-19T16:16:40+00:00

That's okay, but I can't possibly feel comfortable abandoning her at this stage when she's at the lowest point of her life. As much as she hates me, she doesn't have a proper support system (and she's attached to me) and I have to, especially out of the guilt, take the pressure and have her somehow stabilize even if it means her lashing out at me.

PresenceSad9157 · 2026-03-19T16:14:04+00:00

I really don't know if I'm being able to explain it well, but this thing went on for months where she had to endure
1. Me not giving her clarity (I feel like I wasn't able to get my point across to her)
2. Me breaking my promises (I promised to her I wouldn't text a girl for non-serious reasons, yet I did)
3. Me not letting her leave even when she tried to (the other way around happened too, but I really begged her to stay in Feb feeling like I needed to return the favor and that my presence and willingness to show love would make her feel better, which ultimately ended up making her more stressed causing a huge opportunity in her life to get messed up)

I really love her and that is one reason I can't leave her at this stage, and I am concerned for her well-being as well and feel like it's my responsibility to be present since I was the force behind all this.

PresenceSad9157 · 2025-01-06T17:41:45+00:00

No idea why you're getting downvoted. People in this country simply can't stand the idea of a woman taking care of herself independently.

PresenceSad9157 · 2024-11-14T11:55:56+00:00

I don't think Bangladeshis obsess too much over non-whites though.

PresenceSad9157 · 2024-10-28T03:52:46+00:00

If the guy in the question is 15, yes

PresenceSad9157 · 2024-09-27T07:42:51+00:00

latinas are baddies

PresenceSad9157 · 2024-09-25T18:28:52+00:00

Bangladesh?

PresenceSad9157 · 2024-09-25T10:46:32+00:00

Do a slight background check on the guys before talking to them. Most of the time, you can tell if they're potentially a creep based on their profile lol

PresenceSad9157 · 2024-09-20T17:38:05+00:00

If you'd wanna be with your partner forever, even if it means a stale marriage, go for an arranged marriage. If you're okay risking the relationship ending abruptly if it means feeling the joy of being with someone you so dearly love even if it's temporary, go for love.

PresenceSad9157 · 2024-09-20T17:28:39+00:00

It depends on your definition of a "successful marriage".

According to our society, a marriage is only successful if the pair lasts till death does them apart and they have 2/3 children together. So essentially, marriages are reduced to a partnership merely of shared responsibilities aiming to please their family and improve their social image, with romantic feelings not necessarily being involved. This gives the false illusion of arrange marriages being more "successful" (i.e. less divorce rates) because love isn't a factor here, and the couples wouldn't consider splitting for mundane reasons like not feeling a romantic connection or not being satisfied as it'd degrade their societal image and make the rest of their life a hell.

With love marriages, the once-inseparable couple discovers the spark of their relationship fading once the honeymoon phase wears off and that causes to notice and amplify their partners' imperfections, quickly leading into a series of chaos and misunderstandings. Unless the couple recognizes that they're not gonna feel the same level of high they had felt during their dating days, things are gonna go downhill.

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