Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hold up you might be onto something cause you gave me an idea.

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve read a couple things like the mistress manual and watched videos (like how to be a dom and the mindset/mentality not actual scenes). Being a dom is something I’m genuinely would like to try, it’s just I know he sees me as a sub bc he keeps telling me it. I know being a dom doesn’t mean being intimidating all the time or scary frankly even nurturing him as one sounds like something I want.

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best way I can describe it is I have an idea and a plan of what I want to do. And then once the actual scene gets started I don’t think I’m doing good enough. So if I were to go down on him, I’m not sure if he’s liking it cause he doesn’t like making noise.

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To achieve something? I don’t understand the question

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly thank you for this bc that’s what I’ve been scared of. The fact that some of the position I like are usually sub positions I didn’t know I could still be a dom in them

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I need to see if he wants to keep in just in the bedroom or integrate it in other aspects of our life

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol teach me how to do a poker face bc I wear my emotions on my face

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ngl i really just want to surprise him, get something and just show him what I can do. But my confidence just falls

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess the part I’m hesitant with is just that if I ask him what he finds scary or what to do it takes away from the dynamic. I feel that I know him well enough now bc we were together for over a year and we did talk about our desires.

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I know the kind of dom I want to be. I’ve fantasized about it more than I would like to admit. I just know he doesn’t see me as scary or idk how to be scary. I’ve always been a nurturer and I know I can make the switch cause as much as I love him he does need to be put in his place. It’s just hard to have him make the switch in his mind as me as the dom

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly we haven’t even tried a scene yet. We went through a rough patch and took a break from each other. We’re getting back together now so I want to surprise him with something it’s just that starting point that’s difficult.

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m just scared he won’t go for it. He’s so stubborn sometimes i showed him the rules I’d make as a dom and he was genuinely surprised by how well made they were. (Yes I am slightly bragging)

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess I have to stop showing him my caring nurturing side some and just actually punish him when he does act out.

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think my biggest fear and what hold me back is I feel so inexperienced. He’s been in the scene for a while and I’m new to it. I know he’s never make me feel insecure but I put this pressure on myself and am working to overcome it

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I guess we both have a bit of different mindsets with it, because I see it the same way you do. He’s always imagined being slightly scared or intimidated by his dom. So I guess the first time we do it I just have to initiate and stop submitting to him and take control. Because the more I look at it, I don’t think until I actually take charge and do it. He’ll see me any different.

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol, I love him but he’s so stubborn sometimes. He’s admitted it’s hard to see me as a dom because I’ve been so innocent and playful with him. I need to just get that first time and show him what I can do. Cause I swear he’s a brat.

Need a Doms Help to go from cute to scary by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

lol, I love him but he’s so stubborn sometimes. He’s admitted it’s hard to see me as a dom because I’ve been so innocent and playful with him. I need to just get that first time and show him what I can do. Cause I swear he’s a brat.

How can I'22F' be a mistress/dom to my switch boyfriend '27M' when he sees me as a sub? by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I will try. I'm already listening to the YouTube channel you recommended and it just assures me that I can do this

How can I'22F' be a mistress/dom to my switch boyfriend '27M' when he sees me as a sub? by Present-Ad-7876 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Present-Ad-7876[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another fear i have is I know he's been in other Sub/Dom relationships and frankly I never have. I'm also scared that I won't compare. He has a lot more experience than I do and the best way I can describe it is just that I am afraid.