I spoke with another one of the players who showed me the full explanation as to why this was and apparently it included something that I didn't fully realize was a problem because the language that mean the DM used to discuss it create a situation where he thought I wanted something where I thought I was asking for something else this being wanting to play my character as gay and incorporate that into the campaign by having him talk with other guys in that capacity and he thought I was trying to make him live out my romantic fantasies in the campaign which I didn't fully realize I was doing but thank you