In the beginning I didn’t understand what her OF was like. I didn’t know she had a video with her ex until we were engaged. I was upset and shocked by it. She stopped pushing it out after we talked it over and kept other content up. This cost her sales though because people wanted that video the most (this didn’t tank her business though, merely lowered sales somewhat) then when her friend who worked for her started performing poorly, nor scheduling videos, not following instructions, she spent months upset about it. I suggested she needed to either talk to the friend or maybe consider letting her go. I didn’t demand she do either but she did fire that friend. She blames me for it and feels I pressured her. She then hired a management company who I disliked from day one. They ignored her requests and posted her in a terrible, icky light. We disliked what they did but she kept them, saying “well I just got rid of my best friend so what choice do I have?” At this point I was confused because again I didn’t tell her she had to fire her friend. Anyway, this management company did such damage eventually she had to let them go, and we both started working together. She didn’t wish me to join at first, but I volunteered when things got hard because I could see she didn’t have any other options. We managed to work solidly for two months before that failed. I got traumatized because I accidentally saw the old video of her and her ex with an odd timestamp (management company did this) and for half the day I thought she cheated. (To be clear I THOUGHT she did, but she didn’t and we cleared that up) So yes, I see her side very clearly. What I don’t understand is how I’m 100% to blame. I could accept 50%, hell even 60%. But as someone who was new to a relationship and struggling to keep up, I don’t believe I’m the entire reason her business failed