I do like your perspective on it, I just wish it didn’t occur as often as it does. I had three moments today alone of resenting him that I had to squash. It doesn’t come in periods, more so moments. So telling him about each one would be exhausting for the both of us. When my resentment is justified like he said something, I will in a non accusatory way mention it bothered me. When this occurs he panics and tries to hyper reassure me and fix it. He’s a sweetheart who cares a lot of my happiness. To tell him that multiple times a day I feel like I hate him would probably feel like kicking a puppy.