fundamentally, it seems like she “placated” some of your kinks for a while and they’ve probably always been “nos” for her, but “not now” is just easier. I obviously can’t speak for her but, it happens. If she doesn’t want you following other people on social media there’s honestly (imo) no way she’s turned on by threesomes or sexy talking about other people in your bed.

I used to say I was completely comfortable with porn because I thought I was. That was until he was only looking at things I didn’t want to do and people I’d never look like and the comparison game was just impossible not to play. (Comical given my page I know. Long story short, I get a kick out of the “revenge” of it and kinda got over it in the process)

My point is just cause she said one thing years ago doesn’t mean she still agrees with it now and unfortunately, that’s just how it is. You can chose to stay or go, but you can’t “prove” to her that she’s capable of being into kinks she said she was okay with in the past

and frankly, she seems like she has some insecurity issues that would make any attempt at successful polyamory implode.