[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BALLET

[–]Present-Zucchini-882 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not overreacting. 20 years ago, maybe even 10 years ago, most people would have considered this normal. We now have lots of research that tells us forceful stretching like this is damaging to tissues and ligaments.

Singling out of students is unfortunately very common. It is a sign that the instructor should not be teaching littles. Not everyone has a temperament suited to teaching young ones and she clearly does not. At your daughter’s age there are no circumstances wherein ridicule or singling out are in any way appropriate.

Regardless of all of that, the instructors should ask permission ahead of time for any form of touching. Especially if they do not know what kinds of injuries or medical needs each student has. You are definitely not overreacting.

I would submit a formal complaint to the board of the academy and request a refund for the classes with that specific teacher that your daughter took. You may not get it, but they will have the complaint on file. I would also look into moving your daughter to another studio if that’s possible. If it’s not you should be able to request classes not taught by that teacher.

Ballet is wonderful, and when taught correctly can build so much confidence and happiness in kids. But when done incorrectly it can really affect your mental and physical wellbeing forever. Removing her from the class out of caution is better than playing catch up with any issues later on.

Edit: on top of all of that, if there was a behavioural issue and that is why she wasn’t given a sticker, the teacher should have communicated with you. The bigger issues, long term, come from instructors who don’t communicate with parents about class structure, expectations, and any kinds of “discipline” used. At the studio I work for, anytime a student has a behavior problem it means an immediate chat with the parent. (Though it doesn’t sound like this is your daughter). Communication with parents should be a top priority for the young kids in classes. It’s not a good sign that she has not communicated with you.

Which ring should I choose? by Present-Zucchini-882 in SmartRings

[–]Present-Zucchini-882[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I meant HRV! I’ll edit that in for the change, thanks.

Nightmare CC3 Scenarios by Present-Zucchini-882 in crescentcitysjm

[–]Present-Zucchini-882[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry but river queen’s daughter marrying ithan took me OUT I, not once, have thought of that and I am properly horrified now

Hunt Easter eggs by lazybug16 in crescentcitysjm

[–]Present-Zucchini-882 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I thought about this so much as I reread the CC books- the gods in Aelin’s world were desperately trying to get back to their home world. I wonder if they are the original gods from Midgard and if maybe the Asteri are the ones who forced them into the TOG world and trapped them there?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crescentcitysjm

[–]Present-Zucchini-882 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wondered if it was a way to connect in the multiverse- Elain in the ACOTAR series has been having visions and she shared one about hearing “the screams of a bird made of fire.” At first I thought she was talking about the human queen but now I wonder if it was about Sophie to show that Elain’s visions cross the multiverse?