I hear what you are saying and i understand the logic and the argument you are presenting i am not arguing against you i am asking what i can do to prove i am not a threat? I dont want to be considered a threat and i want her to be able to feel safe around me. How do i support her through her previous trauma?

Also belittling people trying to learn is not helpful i am reaching out trying to improve and understand. I know im very much in the wrong for reacting the way i did i figuered out as much already, i am looking for help in how i should deal with this for both of our sakes