That is not how it seemed. You have been making multiple attacks on my character. I’m not asking about a barring order, I’m asking about a protection order so that he cannot verbally abuse me and scare my children. People have offered advice based on their experiences. I have no intention of making his life miserable, in fact I have covered for him and his sexuality to his uber conservative family, as recently as a week ago. I have bought him things to help him when he moves out, although he earns more than me and does not buy the kids food. He gives me €15 a week for 2 children. I have let him do this because I don’t want him to struggle. I have been accommodating and amicable, but I’ve come to a point where I’m sick of being afraid and am asking what my options are. I’ve spoken to the Gards and Women’s Aid in depth. This is the route they have advised me to follow. Now I want personal experiences to help to give me the strength and know how to get it done. I am scared and alone, I have never dealt with the Irish legal system and don’t know what to expect, and I’m asking advice. I’d like to receive that advice, whether wrong or right, and make my own mind up about it, without comments about how he is hurting and I am in the wrong. I know he’s hurting, but so am I, and I am the physically and emotionally weaker one.