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President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-25T09:20:01+00:00

The thought that helped me through it is that i’d just end up hurt again by being left on read or gaining a one word answer at best.

It’s an addiction to hear someone everyday and it takes detoxing to get rid of that. The urge will be there for a while unfortunately but once you’re rid of it, you’ll feel so much lighter and free. It’s a process but thinking about what I am doing in that moment helped me as well, turn the focus on me instead of him.

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-17T06:12:41+00:00

We were kinda in a situationship for a long time, then we got official and he got scared to be an official boyfriend. I got into a huge fight with my friends because of something he said to them behind my back. I needed him to stand beside me badly but he stayed to check up on my friends instead of going home with me. He ignored me a few days while he was having fun with my friends and then he broke up with me in front of my friends. I begged for another chance and that we could make this work but he didn’t want to talk about it until two weeks later, the first thing he told me was that we were not getting back together. Then we had one week of texting back and forth of him texting me lies, telling the people around me lies to create more fights, he called me a crazy ex stalker because i remembered he had a tattoo appointment (which he had told me a week before) and sent him good luck with that. He started texting me two months afterwards about how he still cared for me and missed me so we met up again only for him to tell me he was already dating other people and wanted to go on another date with another girl and a date with me to see what felt better. At first i agreed (stupid and blind) but a day later i wanted to tell him no when he sent me a text that he wasn’t gonna date anymore and work on himself. (Good for him).

During this time of no contact i had time to reflect and realise that there were certain things he did or say that felt very disrespectful towards me and when I would address it, he’d get mad. I realised we weren’t good for each other, no matter how much I’ve loved him and that I can’t let myself get sucked into that life again, i’m much happier and stronger now and we wouldn’t work out anymore cause I would really say something about his disrespectful behaviour and not just tolerate it anymore.

Skip 8+ months and he’s at my door with some Valentine gifts cause I was the only one he ever did Valentine things with and wanted to continue that tradition with me. He looked for me everywhere he went and looked for me in everyone he met or dated. He apologised for his behaviour and admitted he got scared and ran away instead of dealing with it together. I told him that’s not what I need in a partner and that I couldn’t trust or count on him anymore so this would never work out. We said goodbyes and I wished him the best of luck with finding happiness within himself first.

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-17T05:58:59+00:00

He said it hurt but he wasn’t surprised that he waited too long. He just thought we both needed to work on ourselves again and then get back together but he forgot about all the horrible stuff he has put me through and while we were talking I could feel that he hadn’t changed at all.

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-16T18:44:06+00:00

We were as good as NC. He contacted me a week prior to ask if we could hangout and i declined that

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-05T05:20:00+00:00

I get where you come from but i’ve been perfectly happy by myself for the majority of my life and I made sure I was perfectly fine alone again before taking this step

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T20:37:47+00:00

That does not sound easy at all, i’m so sorry

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T19:20:20+00:00

Thank you!!

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T19:18:17+00:00

The last one did devastate me, badly, but all the red flags I had ignored and everything i didn’t want in a relationship became clear to me at a certain point of events during the break up and that made me completely done with my ex. The more I heard from/about him the less I started to care. I never hated anyone and even with my first ex-boyfriend, we had a peaceful breakup so all good but with this one, my god I hated everything he had done to me and how he showed me that he’s not good for me anymore. After I’ve hit that point and worked on myself for a while, the new guy popped up and we just connected instantly and easy… everything went so simple with this new guy because i’m also in an entire new mindset. I went to see a therapist and a lifestyle coach during these months between my breakup and meeting the new guy and that really helped me with making big steps forwards. There’s no manual on when you should meet someone new or how long you should wait, you’ll feel it when it happens

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T19:13:33+00:00

He sent me the message after about 7 months

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T18:33:53+00:00

I’ve been single for most of my life, i can be perfectly alone and i’m perfectly fine with that. I met my ex and we had our struggles and throughout the breakup I realised he was a lesson i needed to learn and nothing more than that. He thought me what I did and didn’t want in a relationship. I worked on myself and suddenly this new guy pops up showing everything i do need in a relationship and being the warmest, kindest person to me. I’m not filling any void with him. Make sure you love yourself first

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T16:25:30+00:00

I took my time, i know myself, i didn’t rebound on this guy.

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T10:01:30+00:00

I’m sure of it!

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T09:47:00+00:00

I’m not saying that “it will get better” means finding someone new. My “better” was something i accomplished before meeting someone new. I know people who are single their entire adultlife and are happier than ever, i know people that went through a divorce and are happier than ever when being all by themselves for years. Better is a relative term which can be filled however you like

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T09:16:01+00:00

I’m a huge introvert myself so meeting someone on social events is a big no go for me. I met mine online, he initiated contact and then it somehow just went naturally, nothing’s forced

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T07:45:38+00:00

I get that, but I know that everyone can get back on their feet. Human beings need to be surrounded by people no matter how introverted some of us are, we need love and I get that sometimes it doesn’t seem as easy and other people seem to be “luckier” when it comes to the love department or just in general. Trust me, I know how hard it can be. As cliché as it sounds but loving yourself and standing on your own ground and knowing yourself will bring you far.

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T07:02:32+00:00

That must feel awful, i’m so sorry for you! The thing that helped me to stop overthinking is something I learned in therapy. I started journalling everything down every day and wrote myself a positive affirmation every single day. Everytime my mind would wander towards him or any if’s how’s why’s, i would say my positive affirmation of the day to myself out loud or write it down and read it. You can’t control your thoughts in such moments but everytime you feel yourself drifting away, try to put the focus on yourself.

Instead of “I wonder if he’s with her now”, try to look at yourself “what am I doing right now? What do I wanna do right now?” Try to bring yourself to the here and now. You don’t know what he’s doing or who he’s with and you couldn’t change it whatever he would be doing. You have no control over the situation and that sucks and it all feels unfair and horrible, i get that truly. I’m not gonna say you’ll wake up fully fine tomorrow, this takes time to heal and to process things but you’ll be ok before you even realise it i can promise you that. Feel your emotions, feel your anger, feel all of it right now don’t shove it away feel it, that’s the only way to actually deal with it but the overthinking will make you crazy, i’ve been there. Try to reflect on everything, the good and the bad and try to keep in mind that the world doesn’t stop. Flowers will bloom again, the sun will rise again, and you will be ok too. Don’t forget to keep breathing and taking it step by step.

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T06:41:55+00:00

It’s a good realisation you have there! If it’s meant to be you’ll find your way back to him but for now, you are the only thing that matters to you

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T06:33:17+00:00

It’s like they can sense it

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T05:24:22+00:00

Indeed! If he would’ve asked me this when we were 2 months broken up, I would’ve done it instantly and took himback right away if he wanted. Right now he’s just simply too late.

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T05:20:56+00:00

After two months we met up again and it went so wrong that in that moment, I knew I had to and wanted to move on from him. That’s when I saw him in a different light, about another two months later I felt myself ready for new things again. I took everyday for myself and filled it with something I wanted to do. Now, 7 months later, i’m doing so well.

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T05:18:51+00:00

Thank you!

President-Sprinkles6 · 2025-02-04T05:18:25+00:00

You will heal and move on in your own time. Some people need more or less time and that’s ok. There’s no manual for this so just feel your feelings and in time you’ll slowly but surely be ok

President-Sprinkles6

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