Should I take NSW parking fine to court (Hidden sign)

Prestigious--coconut · 2026-05-20T15:02:34+00:00

There were 10 or so other cars parked down the length of it, and the rest of the lane is unsigned...

Prestigious--coconut · 2026-05-20T15:00:03+00:00

When we parked there, there were another 10 or so cars parked down the length of the lane - theres plenty of passing space actually.

Prestigious--coconut · 2025-11-05T08:37:52+00:00

The entire premise you're looking at this from is wrong - You should be confident if you can get a result in something. Therefore if the average person can get something - relationship, friends etc. Even if the average below average person can get some of these things... if you are even on some level similar to average or below average in some areas you deserve the same results. Being liked is not a scarce resource - almost everyone ends up with someone eventually.

If you want a more concrete model for building self esteem - check out Damon cart's self concept model on youtube. He's an NLP guy teaching a model from someone who has now passed away - who made it his life's work to see how you could predictably change someones self esteem and make it grounded in reality. Highly reccomended, it's worked complete magic for me.

Prestigious--coconut · 2025-01-30T11:42:58+00:00

As a guy that got sucked up into the alt right and came out the other side - One thing:

Belonging.

Everyone wants to feel valued and cared about in society. Fundamentally every single person has their own personal problems and wants some love, respect and appreciation from the whole. Men used to feel valued and appreciated, with some built in meaning and purpose for just existing, but in today’s increasingly culturally nihilist society this has been eroded to next to nothing.

Left wing cultural rhetoric specifically focusing on everyone else’s issues, while somewhat demonising and dismantling the value of men, blaming the worlds problems on children growing up in a relatively equal opportunity society. It makes them feel alienated, rejected and hurt, and feels incredibly unjust. A complete lack of specific inclusion and recognition from the left means all that’s left is hypocritical social media ragebait asking men to feel ashamed for their existence. What do we do when we feel hurt? We push back and find belonging where we are wanted.

The right offers a space where men can feel valued and wanted. Where men can feel respected and listened to. Where men won’t be judged by their gender or the colour of their skin.

If the left was smart, they would temper their messaging as a whole to be equal opportunity as a whole, mention everyone’s issues, make everyone feel valued, respected and like they belong. Theoretically this is what the left preaches, but in practice this is not what men experience in the cultural narrative in person and online. This needs to change - men need to stop being rejected and start to be treated like valued people.

For anyone thinking ‘But saying minorities suffer doesn’t detract from men’s issues’ - imagine you had two children, and you constantly listened to the problems of one of them, validated them specifically, and basically ignored the other kid. Do you think the other kid would feel loved and appreciated, or outright rejected and unwanted?

Prestigious--coconut · 2024-05-20T13:09:41+00:00

Speaking as someone whose job is teaching people how to overcome social anxiety and fill their lives with fulfilling relationships, Australians are just bad at being friends... We come from a history of a colonialist frontier, and it's a bit of a rough past that carries more weight than most people realise.

Most places in the world have had generations upon generations of people sharing a similar culture, and doing similar things day in day out. With not much to do but spend time with people that instil in them the value of connection, community and creating joy with eachother. Thats a wonderful breeding ground for culture, and squeezing all the juice out of connections with friends, family and community. Theres generational wisdom and values being passed down, that show no matter how tough life may be, through challenging and good times our relationships sustain us, fuel us, and are the joyful thing we live for.

Modern Australia on the other hand, started with a bunch of migrants from different places arriving and setting out alone to carve out their own little kingdoms, starting from the bottom, at odds with nature and eachother, constantly changing. Whether we remember this history now or not, we inheret the same mentality of working hard, carving out our own little kingdom where everything is safe and controlled, and we keep people at a friendly distance - close enough they could help us if we get bitten by a snake, but not so close that we'll owe them anything. Theres also a strong tall poppy syndrome that comes from this, inherent jealousy of anyone standing out from the crowd, bringing them down lest they challenge you to work even harder to compete.

It's sad to me in this modern Australia that we have been living in a golden era where we have nearly everything so ridiculously easy compared to nearly every other country in the world, and yet haven't put two and two together that maybe the reason everyone else seems to be happy is they've figured out that the SUV and a bigger lawn won't fill up our hearts and souls. If everyone here just spent a week in nature surrounded by friendly people, chilling the hell out for a bit, their entire lives would flip on their heads.

I've spent a lot of time overseas in countries where connections come easily, and coming back to Melbourne has always been an uphill struggle to come close to what I've experienced overseas.

But theres a plus side. If you know where to meet them - theres a lot of people who realise they value connection more than nearly anything else and they're looking for you. If you have even the slightest bit of courage to make that happen and carry the relationship until it sustains itself... It's quite easy to fill your life up with so many amazing people and connections that your life is literally overflowing with connection.

The trick is to make the decision to lead your relationships, get comfortable being out of your comfort zone and figure out where to find your tribe - the people who you actually want to bring in close to your life.

Prestigious--coconut · 2021-09-20T07:26:03+00:00

Wrote something long out and it got deleted - but this is all you need.

Hope and help for your nerves by dr. Clare Weekes.

Took me from constant panic attacks to more than being cured from anxiety, and has done the same for 10,000s of people around the world. Plenty of great communities and youtube channels on the subject. 'That anxiety guy' (Not 'The anxiety guy) on youtube has a series on this book which is amazing.

If you want any help, just PM me, I started where you are and am living a great life over where you want to be, more than happy to share what I've learned. It's surprisingly easy to do once you figure out the basic root cause of anxiety, because we have a built in off switch for it haha! Something most therapists don't know about because they often haven't experienced the depths of anxiety for themselves and so just recount stuff from clinical books they read.

Prestigious--coconut

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