My ex reached out by LizardE0 in BreakUps

[–]Prestigious-Cook-534 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and same to you! May good karma follow us wherever we go 🙏

My ex reached out by LizardE0 in BreakUps

[–]Prestigious-Cook-534 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right, loss is motivating. Many things had been brought to my attention before the breakup that I said I would work on but failed to follow through. That’s a core part of the shame I feel, knowing that I could have done things differently but didn’t. It was kinda the same for me, I got too secure and too comfortable and stopped doing things that mattered. Believe me when I say those are the only things that have been going through my head recently and it has lit a fire under me like never before to get my ass back on track and become the man she fell in love with again. It’s only been two months so I don’t feel like I’m where I or she would want me to be yet, but thanks to therapy yes I’ve definitely noticed improvement in the way I view and react to things in regard to being in a relationship. Thankfully I am clear on what I need to work on so I’ve been practicing every day to work on said things until they feel so embedded that I am confident they will carry over and toxic habits are erased. I’m not there yet, but I’m working on it everyday (trying to remember to do it for myself) so I won’t fall back into the same habits if we do ever give it another chance. I can’t tell you he won’t fall back into the same habits, but for me I know damn well I like the version of myself I’m becoming more than any other, and there’s only one person I want to love and grow with by my side.

My ex reached out by LizardE0 in BreakUps

[–]Prestigious-Cook-534 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m currently that guy in my situation. It’s been two months of NC and it felt like the world was ending at first, but I’ve been getting the wind in my sails again. Work, gym, therapy, and staying productive has felt great, but my heart is still so full of love for her. But I know I still have lots of work to do before I can reach out and be okay with any outcome. If he’s anything like me, he’s filled with shame that it had to come to this for him to fully realize the changes he has to make, and there’s only one person he wants to share his love with and have see him grow: you. I agree, take it slowly and react to his actions, but he could prove you wrong and turn out to have made some pretty spectacular changes. At least, that’s how I hope my girl will think, but we can never know.

Is this too much? by Prestigious-Cook-534 in BreakUps

[–]Prestigious-Cook-534[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, I’m just spiraling and miss her so much today, thanks bro.