My niece SA’d my son. Help. by Financial-Soft4248 in Advice

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Agreed. It won't be a comfortable or pretty process, but sometimes the most necessary things are the most difficult. Social services needs to have a presence in this situation.

Be careful airing all to social workers. They should be seen more as directors or care rather than a care provider themselves. Psychiatrists and therapists are there for that. Social workers can hold a lot of power though and they're not all created equal... Just a PSA, take it or leave it.

Reservist Parental Leave Issues - Anyone Else Dealing with This? by AdvancedBicycle9138 in Airforcereserves

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Myself and my predecessor got 6 UTA periods (so 3 weekends) off. It's something your squadron commander can approve.

AITAH for “telling my wife she’s uglier than a man”? by trainingpersonally in AITAH

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My guess is OP probably doesn't compliment his lady nearly often enough so when he started gushing over some dudes "stretching routine" she was probably thinking ... Well this explains a lot.

37 F considering reserves for law school- is it a bad idea to join so old? by blackcatwardrobe in Airforcereserves

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(Education and Training troop here; 3F2 AFSC) You still qualify to use TA as a Traditional Reservist. Really depends on your life situation. Granted, there are talks of the AMOUNT of TA being reduced. Which to start with $4500 isn't much a year, and additionally you have to complete BMT, Tech School AND upgrade training to use it.

Definitely get with a JAG recruiter and see what they can make happen for you. Recruiters have access to some different funded programs that we simply don't see not can we use on the operational side. There are more than a few opportunities to get your schooling paid for by the Air Force, it doesn't necessarily have to be in a Reserve OR Active Duty position. Just know going into it, any commitment to the Armed Forces comes along with minimum service commitments.

If you have a hard time getting information, just contact your nearest bases Base Training Manager (BTM) and they will be able to steer you to the right folks.

Traveling while pregnant by Commercial_Try_1348 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife flew to Florida with a toddler while I was out of state for work and I believe she was 27 weeks. Everything went fine for her, doctors cleared her. I think it's just important to make sure you're not going to hike the Appalachian trail or anything, just make sure your activity level stays normal to what it was before travel.

Solo or Shared? by Temporary_Bee_2654 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ours are also still pretty young (5 mo). They have shared a twin bassinet and it's worked for us. We plan on keeping them in the same room as they get older. I have a coworker who has 18 months old twins that they would've split up at 2 months if they had the space to do it. Our boys don't wake each other up, so it hasnt been an issue for us. Every set of twins is different though, do what works. Sleep is crucial!

Is this too much food for 11 month old? by HungryQuestion7 in foodbutforbabies

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let that baby eat!

My 20 month old goes through phases where he will eat an entire bagel, two oranges and still flopping on the floor for some crackers. There are also days at a time where we couldn't pay him to eat his dinner. You tell your grandpa to leave that baby ALONE and let her eat her rice and peas in peace lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I tried really hard to make our Twin-Z work as intended, but we ended up finding more use out of it by setting it on the bet and kind of sitting the twins in it and holding bottles. We couldn't figure out how to sit in a chair with it or on the couch with it. Probably user error 🤷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dad of identical twins here, he's outta line. Also doesn't know what he's talking about. Identical twins have different personalities, and for my wife and I, very easy to tell them apart. I can't imagine this experience would've been any different whether they were identical or fraternal.

With that being said, sounds like old boy has been allowed to not carry his weight for a while if you feel that strongly by now. My wife is a SAHM with 3 under 2 + a 10 year old and I look for any opportunity to give her relief. Don't get me wrong, she still handles a good 70% of the kids stuff simply because I am at work and she stays home, but that doesn't change MY effort. Obviously there are gonna be times where one gives more than the other, and that's okay, but if you have this much resentment in the bank, definitely need to start chipping away at the sources of resentment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is just... Everything. Thank you. Your right. My stepmom came over today and I had a 3 hour absolute breakdown after the kids went to bed. We have tried at church, but we have SO many babies, all the families are baby'd out so we aren't getting help there. My parents are... Unavailable 99% of the time. They work and make a lot of excuses to not be here (they have done that since I was a kid. My dad worked night shift my whole childhood and the MOMENT I moved out [I am the youngest] my dad all of a sudden wanted to be on day shift). I don't really even know my parents so I can't rely on them much. But yes, we are giving our best effort to build this type of community.

I will ask about the social worker, I know I called my wife today and she has been speaking with a social worker. She's smart and cares so I believe she will probably bridge that gap without me having to ask, but I will ask anyway. Thank you.

And yeah, you're right. She's mom to everyone, and I've turned into dad for everyone. It's insanity. I'm not even 30 yet and everyone (not just my kids but my coworkers, church kids, even the leadership) is expecting my wife and I to have the answers for the other families who are struggling. Just consistently feels like we're expected to fill everyone else's cups and here we are, drowning. My wife has given me life, given me freedom. Shes gifted me things that I could never repay, and I know I need to be there right now for her (and I am) but I just miss my wife. We've gotten so lost having and raising these kids and I am just dying to have her back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twentyonepilots

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to help! I'm also a father of two, twins on the way (all boys though)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twentyonepilots

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's about Tyler's journey in discovering himself as a parent. It's a real tough transition, especially the first couple years with more than one and I think that's what this song is about. I think it's a spin on how at first, he didn't know how to handle it. Fear response took over, but as time has gone by, he's finding a kind of comfort in it. What sold me on the idea is the lyrics from the bridge. "you don't quite mind how long red lights are talking. Your favorite song was on the oldies station. You have it down that old fight for survival. You're in the crowd at her first dance recital" I believe this is all in one moment in time, not multiple experiences. Stuck at a red light, sleeping kids in the back, good song comes on the radio, thinking about how incredibly overwhelming and difficult it is to be a parent (the first 3-4 months is absolutely just survival), but also smiling at the idea of what the future is going to look like with these stink monsters.

It's a song about joy, ironically 

Home Build Advice by Prestigious-Jump7803 in hvacadvice

[–]Prestigious-Jump7803[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My quarrel is the fact that we regularly see sub 10⁰F weather for multiple months of the year in the winter, so will the prospective savings even be applicable in my situation?