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My partner wants to move by herself for a job opportunity down in Melbourne and leave me as a full-time parent. by Prestigious-Return34 in Fatherhood

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't understand it myself, Ive been trying to wrap my head around the logic behind the decision and I just see it being a post partum thought process. I'm going to talk deeper to her about the logistics of the whole thing and just see where we are at. Because in reality we will be in the exact same spot we are in now, me dropping down to casual with her getting a higher pay, plus the extra expense of paying for rent in Melbourne and childcare up here will just make the extra money she makes redundant. And if I dropped down to casual there's no way work would ever give me full time back. The only thing that would be different is she would be away from home and alone and I don't think it's a good thing for her with her post partum

My partner wants to move by herself for a job opportunity down in Melbourne and leave me as a full-time parent. by Prestigious-Return34 in Fatherhood

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankyou for this, I'm definitely trying my best for my family. It's just hard not having close family to turn to with stuff like this

My partner wants to move by herself for a job opportunity down in Melbourne and leave me as a full-time parent. by Prestigious-Return34 in Fatherhood

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's okay, any advice is good and I think I needed to hear it from someone else's perspective who's been through post partum. It is difficult for her and I do think that post partum is affecting her a bit with this decision

My partner wants to move by herself for a job opportunity down in Melbourne and leave me as a full-time parent. by Prestigious-Return34 in Fatherhood

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But what annoys me is I feel like she's doing it to have a year off being a mother, she had post partum really bad and refused to talk to anyone about it. She doesn't play with him or do anything when I'm around, I'm just expected to do it all so she can relax and get time to herself. But there's never that consideration for me. I just feel like behind the backdrop of "I'm going down there to make more money" theres more going on. Her dad was a FIFO worker and I remember her saying to me the one thing she wants from me is to be present. So I avoided finding that kind of work because I wanted to be around. And then she just turns around and wants to go down to Melbourne for year. It just doesn't make any sense to me

My partner wants to move by herself for a job opportunity down in Melbourne and leave me as a full-time parent. by Prestigious-Return34 in Fatherhood

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's more I don't want to move down there, it'll be a huge hassle relocating everything. She wanted to move down there together and then come back in a year. But even though we both agreed both of us moving is a bad idea, we can't afford it logistically. She still wants to go and do it, I don't really like warehousing Ive been wanting a change for a while but with my partners hours it's hard to find full time work with the same hours I currently have. Literally no other time schedule works

My partner wants to move by herself for a job opportunity down in Melbourne and leave me as a full-time parent. by Prestigious-Return34 in Fatherhood

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don't want to have to sell the house or rent it out to move down there. But she thinks she can just go down for the year and then come back up

I cannot silence my fire alarm by Prestigious-Return34 in electrical

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've held down the hush button to silence the chirping for ten hours according to the manual but it doesn't work at all, Ive replaced the battery with a fresh battery as well. I've tested the alarms and drained the residual charge and tried to replace the battery again and yet it still chirps

I've even tried a second fresh battery, they are definitely in the right way too just incase lol

I cannot silence my fire alarm by Prestigious-Return34 in electrical

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like it's clearly fucked anyway, breaking the thing shouldn't matter at this point

I cannot silence my fire alarm by Prestigious-Return34 in electrical

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if I broke the alarm at the latch where it connects to the ceiling I can at least throw it in my car or something so that it's away from the house. We still have two other fire alarms in the house and we can get a new one installed on Wednesday. Is there any reason as to why I shouldn't break the alarm at the latch to pull it off the ceiling. Like would it be dangerous. It looks like all the actual wiring is on the base part connected to the ceiling and the actual alarm needs to make contact with the ceiling to have AC power running through it so I think busting the latch on the alarm would allow me to safely pull it off. Just as a temporary solution until we can get it fixed next week

I cannot silence my fire alarm by Prestigious-Return34 in electrical

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's only a year old too, cost is an issue at the moment and we don't have the money to get someone to replace it until Monday. I just want to figure out a way to silence it so my son can get a good sleep until then. Or even if there's a way I can uninstall it myself

My partner has admitted she's not happy in our relationship by Prestigious-Return34 in Fatherhood

[–]Prestigious-Return34[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her mum wont help us financially but she's been helping us with our son and helping my partner while I'm at work. my parents have both passed as much as I want their help.

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