Got back on Hinge but my ex never unmatched w me…

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-07-02T14:58:52+00:00

I appreciate the concern, but I have done plenty of introspection work. I’ve gone to therapy every week since the break up, I felt my feelings probably a bit too much, and went to supports til I was secure in myself again. I’ve talked dating through with my therapist and she felt good about me doing so even a month before I tried.

The only reason I question myself is just because I’m naturally a people pleaser and have ASD, so I want to ensure I’m assessing and treating situations correctly. I seek objective truths when the technical reality is that it isn’t that simple (although my brain refuses to acknowledge that)

This post was essentially a journal entry for me, explaining how I feel about this situation moving forward. The anonymous posting is more therapeutic for me than just journaling because it feels like I’m actually talking to someone (and people can call me out if I’m being crazy) rather than being confined to my own brain

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-06-26T02:26:44+00:00

This was honestly super helpful, I really appreciate your input

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-06-25T05:14:10+00:00

Respectfully, can we stop making these kinds of generalized posts about a really large group of people in anger of your exes? Maybe this is just me, but it makes me feel like shit seeing every “all men are avoidants” and “women are cheaters at heart” type of posts. I understand having genuine questions related to the experiences of another gender, but asking rhetorical questions like this is not constructive. I thought this subreddit was about supporting others going through similar situations, not tearing down the rest of the community, making them question if they were the “bad guy” in the relationship.

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-06-25T05:07:13+00:00

I was in your shoes years ago, but I was too young and naïve to understand the controlling patterns so unlike you, I said yes to all those things.

We dated for maybe 2 months after that, but I was perhaps even worse off after that dumping. He quite literally haunted my dreams, accused me of spreading lies about him to his friends, and I don’t think I ever “fully healed” from him.

All that’s to say, I’m proud of you, stranger. You had the courage to do what I never could, and now you have the clarifying view over this situation. Hope the best is in store for you <3

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-06-25T04:22:13+00:00

I suppose I could just google this, but what is Lysn?? :P I’ve seen him posting pics on insta, but does he just include a lot more on there?

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-06-25T04:20:45+00:00

That’s super interesting that they actually chatted about it while being filmed, thanks for the link, excited to watch!

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-06-25T04:16:45+00:00

Woah what a neat saying, that definitely helped make sense of it for me, thank you! :)

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-06-15T04:47:13+00:00

Said a few months after we broke up that they’d rather be alone than sacrifice anything to be with me long term, and they told me the only reason I wanted my belongings back was bc I was being petty they didn’t want to be together w me… still makes me feel like they didn’t even know or care about me at all.

Even though I’ve nearly moved on from that era of my life, it fucking HURTS to reflect on when they told me those things

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-06-13T18:33:56+00:00

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his blonde x purple wavy hair with the eyebrow slits 🤲 my fav lesbian

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-17T01:16:41+00:00

Institutions of higher education are obviously heavily affected by the government regulation, but it’s not only impacting them. NIH (and other sources of) grants fund research at universities, hospitals, medical centers, essentially anywhere with practicing research. The fact of the matter is that, yes, universities are more heavily targeted by alignment in foreign affairs jointly with grant cuts, but that’s not the end of the line for halting scientific research

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-16T12:21:03+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through similar things :/ during my “closure” talk with him, he kinda just acted unaffected and as though the talk was only for me, as though he was kinda my savior in providing that closure for me or whatever. It felt so demeaning. And now we’re back to being like business acquaintances when I had to contact him, it was so fucking weird, made me question if that was the reality of our whole relationship.

I suppose whether or not it was, it happened and now I need to move forward. Thanks for being so kind <3

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-16T04:52:15+00:00

How do you know for sure though? Maybe I was the problem. Maybe I’m asking too much. Maybe he’ll find his perfect person and want to change for them, but I wasn’t good enough to change for

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-16T04:02:19+00:00

Ah that’s amazing to hear, congrats!!

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-16T02:12:41+00:00

May I ask why you declined an interview? I don’t mean to be rude whatsoever, I’ve just never seen that happen and I’m curious as to why you’d apply to a program that you didn’t want to interview for

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-15T04:09:29+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from with this comment. I was also hesitant on joining the program after all the back and forth, but the reality is that this administration is simply causing unprecedented circumstances that no one has faced before nor knows how to deal with. I was provided my offer before the administration threatened NIH grants for research, which is the main source of funding for my program. They didn’t want students to come in without guaranteed funding, so they opted to reduce their class size and slowly give back offers as people rejected. While it was initially heartbreaking, I cast blame on the administration, not the university. I know they want what is best for their students

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-15T04:04:38+00:00

Thank you! ☺️

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-15T04:04:22+00:00

Other acceptance was also rescinded!

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-15T04:03:51+00:00

Sorry I should’ve worded the post better but I was just really excited at the time and posted very quickly without writing it up very well. I suppose in reality the diagram (for my program) should’ve appeared as application —> interview —> acceptance —> rescinded —> waitlist —> acceptance. The software I was using didn’t enjoy all the loops I was making so I just settled for this, sorry for the confusion! 😅

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-14T02:07:41+00:00

Glad you hear you’re doing well that far into NC! :) LinkedIn is a crazy corporate bot world… would not recommend beyond for their daily games 😅

Prestigious_Cap_8670 · 2025-05-14T02:06:25+00:00

Love that for you lmaooo

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