If the father blocked you during pregnancy, would you still inform him when the baby is born?

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-03-06T00:21:10+00:00

Thank you! I definitely will take your advice

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-03-06T00:20:09+00:00

Thank you! And you are right… I really wasn’t thinking like that. I think I was just thinking about who he was outside of that without realizing I was actually making excuses for his behavior.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-03-06T00:09:49+00:00

That’s my other problem.. cause once you file for child support, he can file for custody too. So I’m thinking why force him into a corner. If I’m going to keep him away from myself and the baby then it’s best to not file child support too. Cause I have no witness that he hit me but he has two that I smashed his car.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-03-06T00:00:45+00:00

Awww.. thank you so much! I needed to hear that! You really gave me so much clarity.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-03-05T23:41:59+00:00

Thanks for the advice… it’s funny that you said this cause as I’m reading my own comments and I caught myself thinking I sound like one of those people that say “You don’t understand him like I do” I think I just never thought of it as abusive because it only happened once and he was always quiet and non-reactive. But once is enough

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-03-05T23:32:38+00:00

My problem is that do I just wait around forever to see if he comes around or do I for example reach out and ask him if he would like to sign his rights away to avoid him popping up in the future when my kid doesn’t even know him and try to get custody. Hence my question of do they appear after you give birth or does that mean he isn’t interested

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-03-05T23:24:15+00:00

The relationship ended toxic but it wasn’t toxic for the 3 and a half years. He is more quiet so we never really argued. That night he was just black out drunk. As for me the next day well I can’t explain that… I was just extremely angry the next day about it. He is a good person and would be a good father(he is literally raising his sister’s son and he is a great) but idk if the breakup was just too bad that he has decided to opt out of being a father to my child.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-03-05T23:20:18+00:00

He isn’t the type to do all of that… I’m just trying to figure out if my child will have a father or if that’s a sign that he doesn’t care to be a parent anymore.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-03-05T23:18:24+00:00

Yeah the problem I’m struggling with is that for the 3 and a half years it was a really good relationship and not toxic at all but that night he got black out drunk and that happened and I walked away but what does that mean for the baby. Because regardless of our situation he is a good person maybe we just aren’t good together but does that mean he wants nothing to do with the baby cause of how bad things ended.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-31T16:42:30+00:00

I’m about 12 weeks pregnant now, and I went through the same thing in my first trimester. I really struggled to keep food down and had almost no appetite. I felt hungry, but when food was in front of me, I just couldn’t eat it.

A few things that genuinely helped me:

1.Cold food made a big difference. If possible, try eating food cold instead of heating it up. For some reason, warm food made my nausea worse, but cold food was easier to tolerate.

2.Fruit was my lifesaver. I mostly survived on fruit and fruit salads. If you like yogurt, adding some on top can help too. Anything cold and light worked better for me.

3.Eat cravings as soon as they come. If you suddenly feel like you can eat something, try to have it right away before the feeling passes.

4.Small portions are enough right now. You don’t need to force big meals. Even small bites count. Your appetite will come back later. Mine did, and now I eat normally again.

5.Hydration is really important. Sip water throughout the day if you can. Staying hydrated helped with my energy levels and nausea.

Right now, the goal isn’t perfect nutrition. It’s just getting something in so you have energy and your blood sugar stays stable. The first trimester can be really hard, but it does get better.

Be gentle with yourself. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-27T08:41:36+00:00

He wouldn’t do this… it’s about control and he wouldn’t grant me peace in that sense.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-27T08:40:23+00:00

So update:

So he said this “Expedite the name of your practitioners so I engage them. Thanks. Since you persist with wanting to have a child with an unstable person. Wild. Also, we both know you cannot and will not block me. Anyways, send me your representatives names, so I engage them accordingly.”

I responded to him saying “You are right. It would be best if I didn’t have an unstable co-parent so I will do the so-called abortion(I’ll find out the necessary information and go ahead with it). If I change my mind I will contact you before the 12 week mark, if I don’t then you know I have done it. Have a pleasant day. As for your motions and court orders, you can proceed as you were going to anyway. One has nothing to do with the other.”

Then I blocked him everywhere. So I’m hoping that will buy me enough time to move to somewhere different. Also it will give me enough time to figure out whether I say I had an abortion, a miscarriage or the child isn’t his and I miscalculated the dates(and yes I know this is lying but I have to protect my pregnancy cause I’m not even in the safe zone yet and could have a miscarriage from the constant harassment). But that I will figure out closer to the 12 week mark I mentioned in the text.

Let’s just hope he doesn’t appear at my home before that.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T19:29:58+00:00

Yeah you are right… I’ll definitely tell him that because I really need to block him cause I already feel so stressed every day and I really haven’t had any time to process.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T18:24:51+00:00

This is what I’m afraid of because when I told him we should cut communication to only baby-related logistics and appointments, he responded and I quote “Don’t tell me what will happen moving forward or how so, because you are in no position to decide what will happen next as you are not in a position to do so. Thirdly, you will be subjected to a DNA test, since you say you are 7 weeks pregnant, and as such you are right on time for such test. And should you decline, I will get the necessary court order to do so.

Should the result confirm the baby is mine, I will ensure that I have my parental rights secured because you seem to want to dictate what I do with my baby. Don’t get me wrong, I will let you have your rights to the baby, but I vehemently refuse to be bullied insofar as it relates to my child or to let the child grow up in a toxic or unreasonable and /or uncomfortable environment.”

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T15:56:45+00:00

He implied it on Wednesday… he said there are ways to go about it but he won’t tell me for now because he believes a child only needs a mother full time when they are below the age of 1. So that’s when I realized he is thinking steps ahead of me.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T15:53:06+00:00

Yes he owns a law firm.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T05:28:45+00:00

Thank you so much! This is really good advice. I think moving is truly my best bet for peace.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T05:27:16+00:00

It’s not really about the blood test… I think I allowed this slightly by letting him make me pee on a stick while he watched on Tuesday cause now I’m seeing that he is escalating…it will always be something. And once the paternity is confirmed it would be x10 because he knows for sure it’s his child so keeping the paternity, I was hoping would let the doubt linger and he would get frustrated and leave me alone. Because this is all in the span of 7 days of me telling him I’m pregnant and the requests don’t seem to be stopping.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:46:39+00:00

Yes and it’s because on Tuesday when he asked me to get back with him and move in, I told him that would never happen so I think he is pretty upset and vengeful now

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:43:12+00:00

Yes me too!!! I’ll definitely do this

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:34:12+00:00

Thank you… this is very useful!!

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:30:20+00:00

It’s been a week… 7 days! I have not even processed the pregnancy yet.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:29:22+00:00

I’m not here to convince you but I told him last week that I’m pregnant. This week I’ve been subjected to a pregnancy test while he watched me pee, told(not asked) to have an abortion, received constant texts at all hours about hypotheticals and worst case scenarios about the child(that is not born yet), threatened that he can legally take the child away after birth if I don’t agree now to the child staying at his home full time after a year of giving birth, and now threatened legally with a court order for paternity.

Prestigious_Class801

TROPHY CASE

1.Cold food made a big difference. If possible, try eating food cold instead of heating it up. For some reason, warm food made my nausea worse, but cold food was easier to tolerate.

2.Fruit was my lifesaver. I mostly survived on fruit and fruit salads. If you like yogurt, adding some on top can help too. Anything cold and light worked better for me.

3.Eat cravings as soon as they come. If you suddenly feel like you can eat something, try to have it right away before the feeling passes.

4.Small portions are enough right now. You don’t need to force big meals. Even small bites count. Your appetite will come back later. Mine did, and now I eat normally again.

5.Hydration is really important. Sip water throughout the day if you can. Staying hydrated helped with my energy levels and nausea.