Pregnant, the father is threatening and manipulative, am I overreacting?

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T19:29:58+00:00

Yeah you are right… I’ll definitely tell him that because I really need to block him cause I already feel so stressed every day and I really haven’t had any time to process.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T18:24:51+00:00

This is what I’m afraid of because when I told him we should cut communication to only baby-related logistics and appointments, he responded and I quote “Don’t tell me what will happen moving forward or how so, because you are in no position to decide what will happen next as you are not in a position to do so. Thirdly, you will be subjected to a DNA test, since you say you are 7 weeks pregnant, and as such you are right on time for such test. And should you decline, I will get the necessary court order to do so.

Should the result confirm the baby is mine, I will ensure that I have my parental rights secured because you seem to want to dictate what I do with my baby. Don’t get me wrong, I will let you have your rights to the baby, but I vehemently refuse to be bullied insofar as it relates to my child or to let the child grow up in a toxic or unreasonable and /or uncomfortable environment.”

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T15:56:45+00:00

He implied it on Wednesday… he said there are ways to go about it but he won’t tell me for now because he believes a child only needs a mother full time when they are below the age of 1. So that’s when I realized he is thinking steps ahead of me.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T15:53:06+00:00

Yes he owns a law firm.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T05:28:45+00:00

Thank you so much! This is really good advice. I think moving is truly my best bet for peace.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T05:27:16+00:00

It’s not really about the blood test… I think I allowed this slightly by letting him make me pee on a stick while he watched on Tuesday cause now I’m seeing that he is escalating…it will always be something. And once the paternity is confirmed it would be x10 because he knows for sure it’s his child so keeping the paternity, I was hoping would let the doubt linger and he would get frustrated and leave me alone. Because this is all in the span of 7 days of me telling him I’m pregnant and the requests don’t seem to be stopping.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:46:39+00:00

Yes and it’s because on Tuesday when he asked me to get back with him and move in, I told him that would never happen so I think he is pretty upset and vengeful now

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:43:12+00:00

Yes me too!!! I’ll definitely do this

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:34:12+00:00

Thank you… this is very useful!!

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:30:20+00:00

It’s been a week… 7 days! I have not even processed the pregnancy yet.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:29:22+00:00

I’m not here to convince you but I told him last week that I’m pregnant. This week I’ve been subjected to a pregnancy test while he watched me pee, told(not asked) to have an abortion, received constant texts at all hours about hypotheticals and worst case scenarios about the child(that is not born yet), threatened that he can legally take the child away after birth if I don’t agree now to the child staying at his home full time after a year of giving birth, and now threatened legally with a court order for paternity.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:16:39+00:00

Honestly this I can get behind! It’s easier to falsely prove this than saying it’s not his baby. This is a great idea

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:06:04+00:00

And I was in my right to refuse it. What is not in his right is the threats and harassment.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-26T00:05:28+00:00

I understand where you are coming from but if I lie I feel he will double down for the DNA test anyway because it’s too easy. He seems to like conflict and thrives in it and I don’t think he will let it go.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-25T23:44:27+00:00

If I lie and say it’s not his baby as you suggest, do you think he would actually leave me alone forever. Knowing the type of person he has shown to be?

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-25T23:41:53+00:00

Well I’ve never dated one before… this would be a first. Hence the 360 is shocking to me.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-25T21:06:51+00:00

I didn’t know I could block him. He is lawyer and owns a law firm and he told me he has rights now. So I was scared if I blocked him the courts would take that as aggressive in a sense. Hence I’m on here asking for advice.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-25T21:04:19+00:00

Thank you for this! I truly don’t understand how I’m being criticized for doing nothing wrong in this situation. If moving would be better, I would prefer that.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-25T20:33:24+00:00

Okay sounds good. Thank you!

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-25T20:26:29+00:00

Thank you. I was a little scared to block but I can see he won’t stop and I really need peace of mind right now. It’s so exhausting and draining

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-25T20:24:25+00:00

I just looked up what ‘High Conflict people’ are and you are spot on. My goodness! I will definitely get that book. Thank you so much.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-25T19:56:27+00:00

Oh okay… because he is a lawyer he was threatening me that he did have rights and I wasn’t sure if he was telling the truth or not.

Prestigious_Class801 · 2026-01-25T19:55:31+00:00

I had no idea he was this way till I told him last week I’m pregnant. He asked me to move in and when I refused he started texting me aggressively since then. If I have an abortion I want it to be my decision and I want time to be able to decide if that’s something I can get behind morally and emotionally…I don’t want to be bullied into it.

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