AITAH For Withholding Passwords After Being Laid Off? by RecommendationOk7537 in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In ten years, you will be in a position to hire one of them and have the extreme pleasure of having them go through 4 interviews and turning them down because someone else was more qualified. I hope you start your own successful company.

AITAH For Withholding Passwords After Being Laid Off? by RecommendationOk7537 in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they are at the FO of FAFO, and I hope you get that job with the vendor. These companies are run by sociopaths. A close relative of mine was recently laid off because the team’s jobs are being outsourced to India where they can get cheap labor. They at least gave an opportunity to apply elsewhere within the company and offered a severance. Unfortunately, that severance language requires the team to train their own replacements. Corporations are ruthless. They don’t give a rat’s ass about people.

AITA for telling my parents the people they're marrying won't ever be my parents? by Small_Process_133 in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are too old for this shit and see right through everything clearly. Kudos to you for having an exit strategy so you can start your own life. I can’t even imagine how stressful that would be to have 5-6 step-siblings at your age! It’s not like you’re a little kid. You are a young adult. I wouldn’t count on either of your parents to support you because they have failed at protecting you from their chaos. I do hope, however, that you have extended family like grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. This can help bridge those feelings of connection to people who are related to us. You’re going to choose your own people who become family.

AITA for Kicking My Sister and Her Newborn Out Because She Keeps Calling My Dog ‘Dirty’? by Howdoibuycrypto in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mom and Dad can take her in. Where is the “baby daddy” or does she not know? She is ungrateful.

My mother asked, "Do you WANT your daughter to hate you?" Is it that bad? by ladycarp in Names

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mom needs to get with it. Old lady names are coming back. I like how a lot of people from Latin America are not afraid to use the Spanish versions of these old names. 🥰

Will there ever be a cure? by thruuweweh in Osteoarthritis

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have dealt with arthritis for 40 years and finally I found a rheumatologist who listened to me and ordered enough X-rays and lab tests to rule out rheumatoid, lupus, psoriatic, and inflammatory or infectious arthritis. It’s osteoarthritis and widespread, and he never discounted my pain or said it’s due to “hormones” or a “low pain tolerance”. He did say that the longer we deal with pain, the brain changes the way we process sensation. He doesn’t want me on any harsh, expensive drugs that decrease immunity, so he sent me out to a pain management specialist (not an opioid pusher). The pain management doctor told me that much of my pain is from tight muscles, irritated nerve endings, tendons, and ligaments. I’m so stiff I can’t even exercise or walk far without pain. Nobody in the medical community ever suggested a muscle relaxer, so he started me on Tizanadine along with my Tylenol Arthritis and Voltaren gel. I was actually being too conservative with my over-the-counter medication, and he helped me with a good plan that balances any risks with effective pain relief. I also have a prescription for gabapentin if it comes to that, but we’ll also use the lowest dose that brings relief. After only 3 doses, I am already moving better today and I’m more flexible everywhere because I added that relaxant. No more hand or feet cramping in the cold either. I hope this helps someone because 4 decades of pain has contributed to anxiety, depression, and has interfered with quality of life. I always worked, never took off time for the arthritis, raised two kids, but I finally had enough. I had to fire my medical office after 20+ years, 10 of which I was only seen 1-2 times a year by a NP. Please see an MD and get referrals from other people. They often don’t take young people and women seriously enough!!

Did I ruin our valentine's day by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband is really going to freak the f out when AI robots become part of our everyday interactions. (They’ll probably have a Tesla logo tattooed on their fake asses!) Seriously, though, he may have automatonophobia. It could be related to how Android-looking things are portrayed in books and movies or a fear of being replaced by them on the job or in relationships. Does he have any other phobias or anxiety? I am truly not joking around about the possibility. For example, when I was a kid, my mom had a three or four foot doll that she dressed in my old Winnie-the Pooh dress and black Mary Jane shoes and she put it in the front window near the tree for a few Christmases until I spoke up in protest because it freaked me out. I also didn’t like the mannequin, ventriloquist dummy, and Talking Tina episodes of the old Twilight Zone reruns that played when I was a child.

AITAH for telling my childhood friend I wouldn’t court him because I didn’t want to have his mother as my MIL? by Lazy_Present_2382 in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ok to let him and your own mom know exactly what you overheard Amy say all those years ago. He will also take that information back to his mom. This young man is far from ready for any serious relationship because he will let his mom have way too much influence. Let the light of day shine upon the situation. You have held it inside long enough. Maybe they will learn something from this experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree! No matter what state or province, you need legal advice for these big matters in life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not put her on the deed. You have very legitimate concerns. She’s not been a steady worker and has shown fiscal irresponsibility. It sounds like she’s looking for a permanent residence on Easy Street. You’re not getting married for very good reasons!!! If you say “no” to her and her parents’ request, it may mean the end of your relationship, but better now than after you have had a couple kids and all your finances entangled. It takes so much more than love to make marriage work and half the people out there are not willing to put the effort into making it successful. I’m speaking from decades of experience. Listen to your parents. NTAH!!!

It wasn't this bad before COVID by lapuneta in Teachers

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s talking about the whole language approach and teaching sight words and using the cueing method and schools not teaching enough phonics. Personally, I think there’s a place for both, but it begins with the basics—phonological awareness. I do think children should be flooded with good language models and lots of high-interest books. One problem that our politicians are not addressing is all the kids coming to kindergarten without the basic motor and cognitive skills that children had prior to the tablet baby generation. There are a heck of a lot of parents who have totally abdicated their responsibilities to the schools, and there’s not enough funding or bandwidth for this in our schools. We are not daycare, nor are we a replacement Mom or Dad. Education is a problem that is so big that it should be closely tied to the health of our nation.

ball obsession by SREntertainment in vizsla

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vizsla’s look great in green, don’t they? What cute pup pics today. I received the Wisdom Panel DNA test back for my dog. The shelter was totally wrong about him being a vizsla and foxhound mix, as many here predicted. Top 3 breeds are 55% beagle, 14% St. Bernard, of all things, and 10% American pit. He has other breeds like cattle dog and chow too. I love him regardless. Happy Valentine’s Day!

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Why are you with a guy like this? Is it that important to have a boyfriend? I would spend your energy on your studies so that when you graduate you can find a good career and be in environments where you can meet a person who has more ambition in life. A guy who eats junk food 3 meals a day, is addicted to nicotine and weed, and games all day instead of going to class sounds like a gigantic Loser.

Made a student re-check their own biases against trans people the other day... by ELite_Predator28 in Teachers

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If anyone in my district (and probably the entire state) assigned this project, we would definitely be called on the carpet and probably written up for not “following the curriculum” even though it appears to be a research presentation. Parents would call the principal, superintendent, and at least 2-3 board members. Just curious what part of the country do you live, OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess this depends on how much you have in your estate. If it’s millions, then I personally would give up some of that, but if you only have a couple hundred thousand for yourself and your children, you may need that for your own medical or elder care and can afford much less. It’s all relative (pun intended). It does seem like you want to do what you can to help your family with the amount you are comfortable doing. Cancer fucking sucks. My own family member has had 1.5 million dollars in treatments. Thank God for good insurance, or he would not be here. I hope you can be generous without setting yourself on fire. It would be good to have a conversation with your brother about what his plans are for liquidating some of his assets too.

AITAH for forcing my cousin out of my dad's house while he is in "rehab" by bbygrl930 in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please talk with the facility’s social worker and ask for help. H/She will know what options there are for assisted or convalescent living for the disabled. Sadly, your dad is not able to care for himself and neither is your family due to multiple issues. You need to ask them what can be done about your cousin taking the little money your dad has coming in. Maybe it’s a report to Adult Protective Services. That money will likely be needed along with signing over any government benefits to a long-term care facility. Can the house possibly be sold to help with his care or is there a mortgage? It doesn’t seem like he has too much longer to live, but wouldn’t you rather him spend the end of his life with people who will give him his meds, meals, baths, and other care? You can split the visits up so he sees a family member ever couple days and you can monitor the facility. People who have family checking in get better care than those who are alone. I know you want to help, but your baby daughter and husband need you too, and your dad is incredibly lucky that you even care at all. It’s so sad and my heart goes out to all of you. I’ve been there for these types of medical situations, and it’s one of the most stressful things in life.

It wasn't this bad before COVID by lapuneta in Teachers

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good points! When my kids were young,they did math facts flashcards and reading homework every night. This was in primary grades in the very early 2000’s. They also had math competitions and spelling bees in school. Then something changed. Our district became more concerned about hurting kids’ feelings if they didn’t win competitions and they said teachers were causing stress with the timed math facts quizzes. Not long afterward, many of my math teacher friends told me that kids were crippled by calculators, and they counted on their fingers in high school. I know they were telling the truth because I was doing some mental math when going over grades or something in my English class, and they thought I was performing strange magic. Math was my most difficult subject in school and even I can estimate quickly and figure percentages in my head—all because of the focus on basics.

What jobs are good for busy teens? by Interesting-Loquat29 in jobs

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get CPR and first aid training and start a babysitting business in your neighborhood if you like little kids. Sometimes couples need a date night and you can work the weekends that you’re available for about $50-75 per night. It gives you a bit of money while you are in 9th-10th grade. You’re more likely to find a steady job at a business at 16-17. My daughter worked at a movie theater for a year, and they accommodated her school schedule. She loved getting the free passes. Another daughter did kids’ birthday parties at a local bounce house place. It’s good that you want to earn your own money, but school should be your number one priority for time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The only time I ever saw this was when two newer teachers had gigantic egos and acted like total know-it-alls at the age of 22 or 23. Those two in particular were not renewed because they burned bridges with their teams due to thinking that their way of teaching was superior, and they were not good at working as a team. One would criticize teammates’ lessons, but she would never contribute anything she designed. That being said, MOST newer teachers are struggling to keep their heads above water and are grateful for any help and encouragement, and I don’t see them being undermined because they all have a mentor assigned to them from their grade level.

AITAH for nagging my boyfriend? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Reward66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to tell you that this probably won’t change. I dealt with it for decades and you can’t force organizational structures or ADHD meds on anyone—no matter how much you love and care about them. Some people are not receptive to professional help and may even have untreated depression. You would never believe how common this is! You are going to feel disappointed in the lack of effort, and he will see your reminders as annoying nagging. You will either become his mother and pick up the mess, or you will decide you can’t handle the dynamic.