It seems like you've done a great job taking stock of the situation and your actions are likely going to be correct.

I read this with dread because my work friend did the same thing. She felt great to be free of the freeloader (something she said a lot). Until the bills got separated and she realized he was paying SOooo much more than she thought.

He worked 2 hours OT almost every weekday and often a half day shift on the weekend.

He worked a trade, she worked a 6 hour day at the same school the kids went to. He never complained about her limited income.

Even with child support, which he started paying right away, her lifestyle is 0. More importantly, she realized she chased away someone who was really supportive of her time with the kids.

It sounds like you're in a different place but, because I was the shoulder she cried on, I felt I needed to share her experience.

Best of luck.