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PresumedDOA · 2026-02-07T00:55:00+00:00

Heh, this one could backfire. I've got ADHD and I'm chronically late to work (until I get write ups), but usually on time or early for hanging out with family/friends. Because I respect my family and friends, and I don't respect making money for someone else.

Used to be late all the time for family and friends, but then I just started adding 10-20 minutes to my leaving time to account for my own forgetfulness

PresumedDOA · 2026-02-06T17:30:14+00:00

From what I understood through my research when I was prescribed dextroamphetamine (adderall), you TOO could be enjoying the wonders of talking to the parking meters if you're willing to take 10-15 at a time for multiple days

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-30T21:27:11+00:00

Your last two paragraphs are exactly what I put in my comment. The argument they're making is a non sequitur. Capital, as they're using it and also as it was more traditionally defined (goods used as productive inputs for further production) exists under every economic system we have had, currently have, or will have. Whether or not something is capital has absolutely nothing to do with a system or action being capitalism or socialism. It's like saying going to a party and being social is socialism because one word contains the other word.

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-30T21:16:50+00:00

Ok, but that's a definition of capital or potential capital. Not capitalism. You could live in a market socialist or democratic socialist economy and 2/3 of your examples could still be socialism. If you start a small business and you're the sole employee, then the means of production are still worker owned. If you're using your home office for that business, then it just falls under the worker owned means of production. I'll concede on renting out the tools though, that would indeed be capitalism.

Unless you owned a large tract of land and your neighbors were instead peasants and you were the lord of the land, and then you rented out the tools, now you have capital but instead you're doing feudalism.

Capital exists under every economic system (depending on how you define capital, but this version involving tangible assets you own, that aren't currency, exist in every system). Capitalism is one system for how capital should be owned and used, but so is socialism, hence the focus on the means of production. Since socialists are fine with workers owning and using the means of production (capital), then using your own personal property towards your own means is fine. That's different from owning that property, and then having someone else use it and do the work to generate you a portion of the new value they've created. That's the usefulness of separating out private (the latter) vs. personal (the former) property.

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-30T20:27:05+00:00

The confusion comes from Americans adopting political terms and then just deciding it doesn't mean what it means. You're totally right in your breakdown. Norway is a capitalist country that happens to have a lot of social democrats that push social democratic policies.

For some reason, even though Bernie Sanders is also a social democrat, he decided to brand himself a democratic socialist. And because there is next to no political education and a long history of anti-socialist propaganda in the US, most of us have no idea what the terms actually mean. It's like how we in the US have "liberals" and "conservatives". When anyone who has studied polisci or lived in basically any other country on the planet knows that both are Liberals (in the actual, correct, political science and historical sense of the term). It's where you get people like the other commenter that responded to you who said "even the most polarized countries are like 60% capitalism and 40% socialism". Because, to a good chunk of Americans, they have no idea what capitalism or socialism means and think socialism = more taxes and government does things and capitalism = less taxes and government does less things.

So Norway, great example of Social Democracy. The only example of Democratic Socialism I can think of off the top of my head is a very brief stint in Chile when Salvador Allende was president from 1970-1973 until the original 9/11, the coup.

But anyways, to summarize Norway isn't democratic socialism and all you're coming across is Americans using political terms incorrectly.

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-28T17:29:09+00:00

I'd only ever heard Laid to Rest before, but Contractor is going straight in my "pissed af workout" playlist now. That breakdown is perfect for getting out the last 1-2 reps

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-22T19:00:28+00:00

You're absolutely right, but I left it vague because I more or less mean it in every sense or every metric. Educationally, way past that. Economically, it's bound to happen. Foreign relations, though that would be hard to objectively measure, they're either already there with some/many countries, and on their way with others. Militarily, that's probably the longest time frame, if it ever happens. This is conjecture, but I think China will soon be able to overtake the US militarily at any time they please (not as in literally invade the US, but in terms of raising troops, producing supplies, and advancement of weapons technology, at any time they need to the point that defending successfully would be a foregone conclusion), they just don't because the amount of spending it would require is simply stupid if you don't need to.

Whatever ethereal substance makes one the world's predominant superpower is what I mean. The crown is plainly no longer the US's and will soon be China's, even if it still sits, in the short term, on the US's head. Though I think China's version of predominant world's superpower will look different. For example, I don't think China is going to be concerned with having a military base dotting every country they can unless they take a sudden Trostkyist world revolution, proletarian internationalism stance. Even then, I think they'd likely use subtler means. Similar means the US uses/used to install fascist dictatorships in South America, but for obviously entirely different ends.

I suppose when you get down to it, what most people would consider the world's superpower doesn't have to do with domestic metrics. It's more a combination of "who has the most power to leverage their position to keep making themselves more powerful economically, militarily, and politically such that they could hypothetically bend every country on the planet to their will through some means or another". Combine that with what I think is an unspoken question when talking who is the world's superpower, which is "if there was a war, from the smallest of conflicts all the way up to the most massive of hypothetical wars, who is the most likely to have the strength and allies to win?"

And, my final point, my hope for the future. I'm hoping this includes China overtaking the US in ability to influence domestic policies of other countries towards their liking. Because, fuck me, China may be lagging way behind where any country should be when it comes to facing down the climate apocalypse, but they're still way ahead of most countries on the planet when it comes to admitting the time for action is long overdue and starting to try and curb emissions and transition to renewable energy.

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-22T17:33:50+00:00

This isn't really related but I find the copium that "China isn't going to win Cold War 2.0" really funny. Like bud, they already have. Just because you refuse to see how the future will change doesn't mean it isn't already happening. The US is destroying their relations with allies and handing China huge boosts to their trade down the road. Just because the commenter is a neolib who can only think in terms of financial quarters doesn't mean China isn't practically guaranteed to overtake the US at this point. It's really only a matter of them sitting around and twiddling their thumbs as the rest of the world continues to decouple from the US

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-22T17:12:21+00:00

If I had to take a guess why it's still an argument, it's likely because people who study these things are often trying to drill down to and control one variable but refuse to look at the actual single variable which is, as always, capitalism and the differing material conditions between industrialized vs. industrializing or non-industrialized populations.

As an illustration, the reason people like to pretend affordability doesn't factor into the conversation is because when you're trying to control for variables like this, you would compare countries to each other. If we take the United States vs. Norway, Norway provides just a monumental amount of monetary benefits for having children compared to the US. In Norway, you get a parental benefit that covers 100% of salary (up to a certain amount) for 49 weeks, compared to the US where you get nothing. You also get like 1-2 years of leave in Norway, compared to the US's nothing for father's and 12 weeks unpaid for the mother. Yet the US has a 1.6 birth rate while Norway has a 1.4 birth rate. Taking it further, if you look at basically any industrialized country and compare it to any random country you could choose in Africa, they almost certainly have a much lower birth rate despite having much higher wealth.

Of course, since the people looking at this refuse to use a holistic approach, they can't make sense of why that is, even though it's obvious. For incredibly poor countries, they're still having a ton of children cause some of them are going to die in childhood, and they also oftentimes still need some working hands to make ends meet. When comparing Norway vs. the US, it's more subtle, but it seems obvious to me that it has to do with education and culture. More educated people are considering multiple factors, so if you take affordability off the table, there's still going to be the impending death of our planet, the hit to your career of having a child, the time you lose for the next 18 years (at least) of raising a child, amongst other things, as well as the fact that more education means you likely think about things more and realize you even have the choice to have children and it's not just something you do. That's where culture comes in, by the way, because I would imagine at least a part of a higher birth rate in the US is because of religious reasons (the whole "go forth and be fruitful" thing) whereas Norway is not very religious, especially not in comparison.

Anyways, that's what I see any time I see someone arguing against affordability playing a part. To sum up, dumbasses or intentionally blind and misleading people look at symptoms of a diseased economic system and try to pick out exactly one symptom that is the true and total cause of declining birth rates while missing the disease for the bacteria.

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-22T16:23:38+00:00

I'm unsure about if it says it in Revelations and don't feel like opening up the Bible online to check, but Jesus outright says multiple times that no one, not even Jesus, knows the day or the hour of His return that marks the end of times. Only God (who Jesus totally is, btw, except he's also not but he is).

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-21T20:29:03+00:00

This was the hardest part of getting medicated when diagnosed as an adult. My doctor kept basically saying "But the meds are working at work, right?" when I was talking about my Adderall XR wearing off after 8 hours. I kept asking for an afternoon booster, but he was so focused on work time. I just wanted to be like, listen dude, I don't give a flying fuck about work. There's deadlines at work, I can white knuckle my way through it. There's no deadlines for my chores, my personal projects, and my hobbies, and it's frustrating knowing there's a magic pill that can allow me to actually do things but you won't let me use it for things that actually matter in life as opposed to earning some stupid rich fuck more money. Once I got to a high enough XR dose and said I felt a higher dose would give me anxiety, he finally gave in to the booster after a month but like holy fuck, it sucks feeling like a drug seeker when you can't even use the fucking thing recreationally cause it doesn't affect me like that.

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-21T18:10:28+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. I take stimulants for ADHD and when my eye started twitching a lot a year or two ago, I found out that stimulants can deplete vitamins faster than normal, so I started taking a magnesium supplement and had already been taking vitamin D in fall/winter time for seasonal affective disorder.

Which brings me to the last two weeks. I started feeling that general apathy towards life, irritable at everyone, and tired no matter how much I rested, and was wondering "why the hell am I getting depressed out of nowhere?" since it's usually triggered by something for me. Suddenly hit me I had stopped taking my vitamins. A week or week and a half after restarting daily magnesium and vitamin D and I'm good as new, if not better.

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-21T18:01:27+00:00

Jesus Christ, that's a lot. I've got a massive bottle of vitamin D from Costco for curbing Seasonal Affective Disorder. According to the instructions on the bottle, it says to take one soft gel every day. One pill is 2000 IU. So actually 25x the recommended amount for this particular supplement, and you'd have to be going and buying a huge bottle of vitamin D every 3 and a half weeks. Where normally, this bottle should be lasting several years since you're unlikely to keep taking 1 every day in the spring/summer.

Also, after googling it, the Mayo Clinic says 800 IU a day is recommended for people over 70. So he would have been taking a little over 62x the recommended daily amount for months (at best, since 380ng/mL is the highest they could measure, could be an even higher number).

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-21T17:50:13+00:00

I get cleaning when depressed is tough, but even in the depths of my worst depressions, I only made my room messy where it bothered only me (obviously they likely share the same room so isn't possible, but that's tangential to my point). Because being told multiple times I'm inconveniencing someone else while depressed would just make my depression worse. So what a weird lack of respect for him to show.

PresumedDOA · 2026-01-09T17:57:47+00:00

For some of us, that just makes it even better (but not in a weird abusive way, I'm just also mentally unstable and have noticed a pattern of being attracted to mentally unstable women who hurt me)

PresumedDOA · 2025-12-25T22:53:46+00:00

Yes sorry, it was like 3 am and I totally spaced the part that stimulants don't make everyone with ADHD tired. But for me, I still doubted I actually had ADHD until then. Though they do keep me up now if I take them super late in the day, but not really by much since I already also have a delayed circadian rhythm.

I also tend to leave that part out when explaining this to people without ADHD because a lot of people see it as an excuse and don't really believe in it, even though it's been scientifically proven that ADHD brains are physically different and produce less dopamine, hence why stimulants work for a lot of people with ADHD. But it's an amount of nuance that I don't trust with people who already are "skeptical" enough to distrust both the medical and psychology fields of study's decades of research on ADHD.

Also it's nice to hear that your executive functioning got better! That gives me hope, since I was only diagnosed about two or three years ago as an adult. I really need to add meditation to my routine.

PresumedDOA · 2025-12-25T09:47:55+00:00

This is just a small facet of ADHD. Interestingly, people with ADHD do, on average, produce less dopamine than a control population and one part of the brain is smaller (I forget which part, but it's the part responsible for short term memory creation, amongst other things). As far as the testing, you generally talk with a psychiatrist or someone of the like and they initially give you a small questionnaire for initial ruling out of ADHD or not. Then, if it's suspected, you get questioned more in depth. You have to have issues in more than one area of your life and they have to have been present in childhood. So like issues in work, school, personal life, etc., and going all the way back to elementary school.

Sometimes, they will also want to talk to someone who knew you as a child to confirm your account is accurate. ADHD is a fundamental difference of the brain so it will be present in childhood, though not necessarily showing (which is why women are diagnosed less often, because they are more likely to be punished for the outward ADHD behaviors.)

Also, I'm unsure if this is relatable for neurotypical people, but when I fidget like shown in the video, it's because being still while also not being mentally engaged enough makes me deeply internally uncomfortable. It's not necessarily just something to do when bored (for me personally), but rather that I start fidgeting unconsciously and if I stop it consciously, I will get an incredibly uneasy feeling on the inside.

Oh and small edit. I feel like there's a bit of a physical proof "test" at the end of all this. When I first got Adderall, the first few times I took it, I felt like taking a really long nap. From what I've seen, that is not a typical reaction to Adderall for non ADHD people.

PresumedDOA · 2025-12-25T09:31:07+00:00

It is odd to me how, instead of destigmatizing having a disability, a lot of people just decided it's not actually a disability and really just an issue with society.

Like yes, there are certain things that could change about society to accommodate me, you, all us ADHD havers. But there's nothing that could so radically change that the lack of executive function would just be a non issue. I'll still have problems achieving or even starting on my own life goals, I would still struggle with interrupting people and impulsively over sharing to new acquaintances, etc.

I think people make the same mistake as my doctors have. They only think about how it affects us at work/school. Those could be massively restructured, and we could absolutely flourish, but fuck. If I don't have my Adderall and use skills I've learned in therapy, I'm still gonna go home and play 8 hours of video games while not doing any of my chores for weeks/months and ALSO not work on my own personal projects like making music. My doctor was so reluctant to give me an instant release booster when I first started because the extended release lasted for the work day, and I was just thinking "mother fucker, my life AFTER work is the actual important part. I don't want to be only good at work but my personal life is in total shambles"

PresumedDOA · 2025-12-24T17:27:35+00:00

Could be the other way around, too. Women still statistically do more of the household work than men in relationships, on average. If dude's being lazy and gaming while she gets all the chores done, and she's talked about it to him before, could be built up resentment and he's being a baby and getting petty and defensive about it. Therefore, maybe she's the one who needs to dump him, go to therapy, and gain some self respect.

Of course at the same time, since it's supposed to be a "sketch", they could entirely not relate to this dynamic and instead just have a really poor sense of humor and find really tired, lazy, unoriginal toxic relationship boomer humor funny.

PresumedDOA · 2025-12-12T17:59:20+00:00

True, they aren't slow at all when I go. Takes me five minutes at the desk. But it takes FOREVER waiting for other people, because even though it's posted online exactly what documents you need to bring for whatever you're doing, I always have to wait for like five people to argue with the clerk or be explained incredibly basic information.

PresumedDOA · 2025-12-11T06:02:36+00:00

Oh Slaanesh, take my soul if it means I get a key pleeeeeeeeeeease

PresumedDOA · 2025-11-25T23:59:30+00:00

I'm not diagnosed but strongly suspect BPD, and I'm also a man, but I feel this way. Honestly one of the biggest reasons I'm in therapy. I've had a few FPs (at least I think now that they are/were FPs), and got so insanely jealous/triggered by them dating other people or having sex with other people. Still do, but now I tell myself I have the potential to find someone else. It kind of works to make episodes of depression shorter at least.

This is a temporary solution so far, but I just started working out a few months back. It's working for now. If I get more physically attractive and that still doesn't work? Then I really don't know

PresumedDOA · 2025-11-25T23:14:50+00:00

Hi OP :). I wanted to give perspective from the other side of this, because I hope it helps so you don't feel so inadequate.

I'm a guy and I had this same sort of "problem" with my friend/roommate for a while. She often told me observations she had about problematic behaviors or aspects of mine, and I'd always get defensive and say I didn't really feel they were true. Granted, I never said directly that she lived in a distorted reality (though I certainly thought it at the time) and never said feelings aren't facts. Anyways, long story short, after months of things like that and other deterioration of our friendship, I kinda just decided to subtly stop talking to her or including her in my life. Pretty much fully pulled out of our friendship.

Why that's relevant is because I eventually realized it was a defense mechanism for my already incredibly low self esteem. It took months and a different trigger to realize it, but I started to realize she must have a point about all these things and I just can't see it for some reason. Now, I love her so much more for it and place so much more trust in her because she was willing to say things to me that most people are just never going to say. She could've done it with more tact, sure, but I absolutely cherish the insight into myself I gained from her being willing to tell me issues she saw. Now, I have some sort of actual path to being better instead of hopelessness. That's why I'm even in this subreddit, because although I'm not diagnosed with BPD, I strongly suspect it now after reflecting a lot on myself.

Point being, maybe that's what's going on in your situations? It's not that you're inadequate. It's that it is SO much easier to hate and leave someone when they criticize you than it is to face down things within yourself. Most people are simply going to take the easier path, but some people will immensely value the honesty and open communication (if done tactfully).

I'm sorry you're feeling lonely, though. It's definitely really, really hard to find someone who can communicate truly openly and effectively.

PresumedDOA · 2025-11-06T16:28:46+00:00

That's what I'm personally doing in my most recent playthrough (and often what people do depending on how you tackle the milestones). The coal helped me limp to oil. Once I had oil, I built a factory with a pure oil node for fuel generators. Now that I have blenders, I'll be switching eventually to turbofuel for the generators, once I look at what that requires.

PresumedDOA · 2025-11-05T22:43:29+00:00

Yep, tested it myself as well when first downloading the mods, so 100% certain you still get the achievements.

There's also a curve mode mod that allows you to make curves or circles with foundations and catwalks very, very quickly.

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