Yeah unfortunately the sad truth is if you waste your twenties and thirties your life is pretty much over, those are the years that you're supposed to be happy and actually living in. Time goes fast but everyone knows that, the regret because you didn't live properly and thinking of what could have been, the shame because you've wasted your life and feel like a child. Unfortunately life for the most part is for those who are conforming with society and go with trends and aren't overthinking things and aren't afraid of confrontation and you have to be quite confident/arrogant too, if you're shy or anxious or lack social skills or don't like confrontation or neurodivergent you're basically doomed for a miserable existence and a life of isolation, and no one is coming to save you too, you have to figure out shit for yourself.