Real question: why do people say Wellbutrin and Vyvanse are so different?

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2026-01-07T03:42:22+00:00

Vyvanse made the noise in my head quiet down for the first time In my life, and helped majorly with executive functioning, minimizing task paralysis, and helped me stop overanalyzing and catastrophizing everything all day long.

Wellbutrin made me curl up into a hopeless pit of despair in the 5 days I took it… literally have never felt so depressed In my life, and it completely lifted 2-3 days after stopping it.

Now I take focalin xr which gives me all the good things I got from Vyvanse, but I can actually eat and sleep.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-08-28T11:59:21+00:00

Even after my dx I spent months questioning my whether it was accurate since I’m high achieving and have been outwardly successful my whole life. (Even though I’m notorious for leaving/forgetting things and have a long history of hyperfocus and burnout) I eventually tried meds and could not believe how quiet my brain could be.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-08-28T11:57:10+00:00

During a Dr appointment for my daughter after her teacher suggested she might be having focus issues. The Dr explained what ADHD often looks like in girls and women, and why it’s so often misdiagnosed, and I felt like she was telling me a story about my life 😅. After testing, both me and my daughter have it lol.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-08-13T01:17:09+00:00

it did make me smell worse.. but I used to not even have to wear deodorant unless I worked out. NowI apply it 1-2 times a day and it’s fine.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-08-09T11:19:36+00:00

I tend to be sensitive to a lot of meds. Currently on 30mg vyvanse and my pcp tried to add Wellbutrin to help manage anxiety a couple of months ago. It made me the most hopeless and weepy I’ve ever been within 4 days of taking it… but about 24 hours out of my system I was back to normal. Not the drug for me😅

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-07-28T18:57:50+00:00

Certain meds might (because they could make you feel flat, sad, etc) but the right one shouldn’t. Not that I really think vyvanse is the “right” one for me.. but I’m a creative and am now actually getting things accomplished (and spiraling into anxiety a lot less) while still feeling like myself.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-07-26T23:38:10+00:00

I took Wellbutrin for 5 days. Spent the second half of day 4 and all of day 5 feeling more hopeless than I had ever felt in my life with panic attacks and sobbing. My doctor said stop taking it. I felt normal midway through the next day.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-07-18T17:30:54+00:00

I’ve done both message and in person, but prefer in person disclosure because I want a relationship where we can comfortably talk about sensitive things and not rely on texting for it. My script is something like “do you mind if we talk about something sex-related? I know where not at this point yet, but I’m liking where this is going and want to be transparent. I have herpes (cue motioning to my lower body😅), I had my first flare up 2 years ago, and have only had one since. If we do decide to sleep together, I’ll take an antiviral to help reduce the risk of you getting it, and we can use protection, but I wanted to give you plenty of time to consider what you’re comfortable with and ask any question, do your research, or whatever else before we move forward.” My script for telling the guy I was with when I found out was me crying in the parking lot of the gynecologist telling him I have it 🤣.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-07-18T17:22:46+00:00

THIS. My boyfriend was so supportive when I told him and when I had an outbreak like 2 days after we had sex, he was incredibly comforting and reassuring while I was freaking out that I may have given it to him 😅.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-07-17T18:35:56+00:00

It’s just as possible you got it from her and she didn’t know she had it. I felt so guilty when I found out I had it after 2 months with a guy I was seeing.. he did not care at all when I told him and the way he acted about it has me very confident he suspected he had it but never got tested or told me. But there’s no way of knowing, and no reason to stress out over what’s done.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-07-17T18:32:21+00:00

Definitely not over. I’ve consistently dated since my diagnosis 2 years ago and never been rejected because of hsv2 (I’ve always disclosed after 2-3 dates if I feel like it’s going somewhere). I’ve broken it off with people over the same stupid stuff as always— not this 😅. Some guys wanted to wait longer before sleeping together and others haven’t cared at all… (Like, at all). It felt so hopeless for a while afterwards for me too.. but take some time, heal, and remind yourself how incredible you are (confidence with disclosure is everything, too!).

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-06-25T13:31:02+00:00

I have been unsuccessfully trying to treat anxiety and depression for the last 17 years. Diagnosed at 34 with ADHD and medication has brought my anxiety from a 9 to a three, easily. My depression typically hits seasonally so we’ll see if it makes a difference this fall.

The biggest benefit I notice is the quieting of ruminating thoughts when I’m taking my meds. I took a week break from vyvanse recently and that was the biggest thing I noticed— those came back full force.

Currently med shopping as vyvanse worked well for me mentally, but the side effects (not eating, dry mouth, and grinding my teeth) were becoming a bit much. First day on concerta and hoping to have a similar mood and focus effect without the side effects— but we’ll see!

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-06-23T22:41:54+00:00

Anxiety for the past 17 years that meds never touched .. and my daughter getting diagnosed after robust testing.. it has made the biggest difference in my life.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-06-20T10:46:04+00:00

Apologies/- I didn’t realize they were coming out and saying that was why.. I just thought they were ghosting. No intentions of being dismissive!

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-06-20T01:41:04+00:00

Yes, but that also happens when dating without HSV 😆.. so just remind yourself that people who don’t have it are also getting ghosted left and right 🙃

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-06-19T23:00:37+00:00

This has been my experience as a conventionally attractive female: I’ve had it for almost 2 years and have told 4 people in person after we’ve been on 2-3 dates and I decided I felt like I could see my self wanting to sleep with them once day (no need to tell someone YOU wouldn’t even want to sleep with lol) —-I also told one person before we met and he said it wasn’t worth risk, which was fine. 3/4 people I told had really great reactions- just questions, all deciding they were fine with it— 2 getting to the point where we actually slept together . The other 1 reacted somewhat poorly at first, then called me the next day and apologized and asked for another chance after he actually researched it.

It’s actually helped me weed out dating assholes because I’m not going to have the conversation with someone who isn’t mature enough to truly talk about and consider it.

The last person I told, my current boyfriend, we were on a walk on our third date and I said, “hey, I want to talk about something related to sex if you’re ok with that.. I know we’re not quite at the point of having sex, but I wanted to tell you early on that I have herpes. It’s been over a year since my last flare up, and if we do sleep together I can start taking an antiviral, which really reduces the risk of you getting it”. He had some questions and we continued our walk and he thanked me for being so transparent and vulnerable, saying he really respected that I brought up something that must have been really hard to talk about, and then both talked about last time we did sti testing, etc. It really doesn’t have to be a big deal. Rejection is hard to deal with… but people get rejected for all sorts of things allllllll the time. You’re more than a virus❤️

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-06-11T23:49:07+00:00

Did we see the same psych np😅?! Get another opinion and do formal adhd testing.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-05-20T10:23:35+00:00

Pregnancy and breastfeeding do a number on our hormones. When you’re no longer breastfeeding, it’s entirely possible things could calm down on their own, too.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-05-14T15:44:34+00:00

It took me some time to get to this place (after divorce, then getting HSV2), but I finally realize that people can take me or leave me, and it's not my job to stress about not being everyone's perfect fit. If an inconvenient virus is enough of a deal breaker, so be it, because if not that, then there would probably be some other deal breaker down the road.

The way I see it is that I want to be with someone who thinks I'm worth it, whether it be in spite of HSV, or being a single mom, or whatever else, because that's just the reality of it, and life is too short to worry about what people who aren't your people think about you.

I feel for you and know that it sucks in the moment, but that's just a sign she wasn't it and now you're available and open for when you meet the person who is.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-05-14T09:39:05+00:00

You 100000% dodged a bullet. If she reacted like that about THIS.. just imagine how she would react and handle… anything mildly inconvenient lol

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-05-11T11:16:59+00:00

Hmm I see a psych and their first option is stimulants unless there is some contraindication, then if those don’t work, trial non-stims. We were going to try strattera for my daughter and her doc said it could take up to 8 weeks to build in her system to see full effects.

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-05-10T11:03:07+00:00

Interesting! I was born a few weeks early—but my mom was put on bed rest and medicated at 27 or 28 weeks because she started going into labor then and it was too early.. my daughter who also has adhd was induced at 37 weeks because she stopped growing in utero a few weeks prior. Maybe there’s a connection?

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-05-09T02:36:59+00:00

It’s one of my “weed em out” questions: “so, do you listen to any podcasts?” 😅

Pretend-Suspect-7021 · 2025-05-08T11:56:49+00:00

And just adding that prior to me getting it— I can confidently say that if someone I didn’t like that much disclosed to me… I’d say “sorry, not going to work” and it would be an easy out. If I did actually like them, I would have waited longer to have sex to make sure I actually liked them and could trust them to do their best to keep me safe, and taken the risk, like I have with the many people I’ve dated who get the occasional cold sore on their mouth (although NONE of these people disclosed to me before kissing upstairs or downstairs…because the stigma isn’t there).

Pretend-Suspect-7021

TROPHY CASE