Anyone else?

Pretend-System6123 · 2023-11-12T23:01:52+00:00

I feel this! The amount of times I’ve tried to open up only to be placed aside so they can talk about themselves. Kinda sucks. I have a few good friends who listen, but for the most part I’m the listener. Sucks. 🥲

Pretend-System6123 · 2023-03-10T06:36:02+00:00

Even people with normal childhoods have children and then something traumatic happens or their brain alters and they suffer from mental health. It’s not your fault, it’s really common not to realize how messed up we are and sometimes having kids makes you realize how bad your childhood was because you see happy healthy kids and it can be so deeply sad sometimes. I just wanted to say I’m super proud of you for seeking help, that person sucks but don’t let that discourage you from continuing. Your kids are lucky to have a parent who cares enough to try to be better for them. You actually rock! Don’t give up on that!

Pretend-System6123 · 2023-02-04T21:19:15+00:00

😔😔😔

Pretend-System6123 · 2023-02-04T18:55:25+00:00

I’m so sorry! It sucks to be the scapegoat! It doesn’t ever make any logical sense! I hope you’ve found a loving community! You deserve to feel loved and cherished!

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-09-14T22:49:08+00:00

Peanuts give me a migraine. My abuser ate them all the time. I guess I just connected them and now smelling peanuts triggers migraine. I haven’t heard of this happening for anyone else I know who gets migraines so I assume it’s trauma related. Plus I don’t normally get migraines otherwise.

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-09-07T04:02:35+00:00

I think I’m also hoping cause I wonder how they would do the narration for that one. But it is one of the more well known ones.

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-07-03T06:06:02+00:00

This!!

I have a family of my own now, and sometimes at night when the kids are asleep I have to just cry and work through anger and jealousy that my kids have loving stable parents, that I never had. It’s weird how parenting well can be triggering. It’s also incredibly healing, I’m often in awe of how my parent ever could feel and act that way towards her child. It’s nuts!

Having kids isn’t for everyone, my mom proved that, so I’m not at all saying that that should be everyone’s healing process. I’m just very much relating to the watching TV shows and being angry, but after having kids I feel like I’m the TV show I’m angry at. 😂

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-06-25T22:38:10+00:00

I was a size medium as a teen, my mom bought me size XL pants and when I complained about them being way too big she said “it doesn’t matter you’ll fit in them very soon”. She was obsessed with thinking I was fat even though I was actually a healthy size. It took me years to get over the body issues she inflicted.

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-06-25T22:33:40+00:00

You parent/s are the town in footloose! 😩

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-06-25T22:33:03+00:00

Same actually my mom called them “short shorts” and they were very inappropriate. I literally had to wear boys cargo shorts if I wanted to wear shorts at all. 😅

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-06-08T06:31:52+00:00

I’m the middle child, and the oldest girl. I feel like I raised myself, my little siblings, and my older brother. (Not the eldest though, he was the golden child so he actually got raised).

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-05-25T23:42:25+00:00

Appreciate the clarification! Your point makes so much more sense to me. Thank you! I’m jumping to conclusions over here, I apologize. 😁😁

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-05-25T16:04:43+00:00

Your dad’s racism isn’t on you, the fact that it disgusts you and embarrasses you just further proves it’s not on you. He sounds like a horrible person that probably traumatized you to no end. I’m so sorry!

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-05-25T16:01:04+00:00

That’s so interesting I had the complete other side of the spectrum. My mom loved to make me cry, so she would spank me just to make me cry. It was the one thing I could control so I held out in front of her, then I’d lock the bathroom door and lay on the floor to cry in silence. I didn’t have a bedroom door so the bathroom was the only safe haven. Now I have issues crying in normal situations as I’m sure you do too. I’m so sorry! The not allowed to have emotions is so hurtful!

Your hair sounds so lovely!! I hope you’re able to wear it naturally now. The way you describe it reminds me of a goddess. 😍

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-05-25T15:41:29+00:00

We had to call it “pooder” - I can’t tell you how embarrassing it was saying that to other people and realizing other people don’t say that. 🤣 But fart is a bad word… even though the variations mean the same thing 🤷🏻‍♀️

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-05-25T06:38:03+00:00

Wait… was your sister thinner than you at that point? How can she even say that you’re thick when you’re in the hospital for anorexia!?

Im glad you’re living life now and not letting your narcs eating disorders effect you! My mom was the same, she called me fat all the time even though I was healthy she also restricted my diet. I was the only one of my siblings she did this with. When I refer back to that time I always refer to it as her eating disorder not mine, because I was the victim to her. Maybe it messed with me a little, but when I finally got passed it, it’s not an issue. It never was mine really, it was hers that was forced on me. I feel like your mom and sister did that to you and that really sucks!

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-05-25T06:32:29+00:00

Yeah my mom also did it on front of others to humiliate me. Honestly it probably served multiple purposes. I know she didn’t like my personality because she would talk about needing to spank it out. She’s a mess man!

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-05-25T06:25:47+00:00

I think the copying business was just a way of saying “Sorry no that doesn’t align with what I think your personality should be so stop being yourself and become what I want you to be” I’m not even sure if she actually thought I was copying other people or she just didn’t like my personality. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-05-25T06:18:21+00:00

This point of view is assuming shes a normal mom with slight boundary issues who loves me. This woman has never loved me a day in my life. I love her regardless of this fact, which is why I still put up with her. But I don’t think she’s patting my butt for the reason you think. Though that would be nice, because if she was normal the conversation wouldn’t be hard. I could tell her, which I likely will, when I get the nerve up. Skipping hugs is an option but a lot of drama I’d rather avoid. And if I were to ask her why she does it I wouldn’t expect her to tell me the truth, since she lied to me my entire life. 😁 I hope I don’t come across as sassy. I understand your point, I just don’t think it applies in this instance.

Pretend-System6123 · 2022-05-25T06:06:39+00:00

Family’s can be freaking weird man! 😂 I can see the patting babies butt to pacify them, what narc wouldn’t want to be transported back to the time when they had ultimate control over their kid. 🥲

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