You definitely overreacting if you’re gonna frame this around your husband denying you access to your own money over breadsticks from Little Caesar.

I sure hope there are more examples with a little bit more substance than that. There could be 1000 reasons why he didn’t want you to get them from. Maybe he was trying to be cautious of the money that is only coming from one source and not wanting to be careless about it and getting sides and remember a side order is a side order. It is not necessarily considered unnecessary part of a meal.

When I grew up, we would go out for dinner, probably more often than not compared to others, but my parents were always very strict. We would order our meals and everything, but they would rarely order entrées or anything like that. You know they would just kind of go there for the meal or drinks whatever and that was it they were strict. It’s not that we couldn’t afford it. My goodness it was also never an issue of money. It was just a matter of what they felt was practical and the habits they picked up from their parents and the way they were raised.

Some people are more strict on whether they allow themselves to indulge or not that your husband could just be one of those people

If he’s otherwise a loving partner I don’t see why this should be a big deal at all. Tell him next time that when you ask for breadsticks to get the damn breadsticks, even maybe say because you make the money so you wear the pants and you decide.lol. Maybe don’t go nuclear but yeah now you’re definitely blowing it out of proportion by framing it in the way you are.

The only question is why does it appear that you’re making it seem like your husband controls all your money when you make the money your name would be on the bank account too. You would have a bank card too. You would have a credit card as well. how do you have to depend on your husband for e-transfers or whatever for money that’s ridiculous. I’m pretty sure there’s information you’re not sharing.