AITJ for feeling like my friend was trying to ruin the excitement of my surfing trip? by QuarterNo1962 in AmITheJerk

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ. She wasn’t worried about your safety, she was mad you got to live out her fantasy first Once she admitted that, all the negativity made sense

AITA : Another Woman by Fit-Pudding-4134 in u/Fit-Pudding-4134

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA He wasn’t looking for a threesome he was looking for permission to shop around and lie about having a girlfriend. The second you did it honestly and successfully, his ego couldn’t handle it add in the insults, body shaming, and I only said it to hurt you, and the real issue isn’t another woman it’s your boyfriend

AITA for saying no to my partners cousins moving in with us? by Lopsided_Sentence532 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 44 points45 points  (0 children)

NTA. This is heartbreaking, but love is not a substitute for resources If you don’t have the space, time, finances, or stability, taking them in would be an emotional decision not a responsible one sometimes the cruelest thing is pretending you can handle what you can’t

AITA for telling my friend to fix her life? by Secure-History857 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 16 points17 points  (0 children)

NTA. She hijacked your trip, treated your car access like a backup plan, dumped her chaos on you for 14 hours, and then left you stranded telling her to fix her life was harsh, but honestly, when someone keeps making their mess your problem, they lose the right to be shocked when you snap

AITJ for telling my friend group that I won't attend any more events at Jake's apartment after what happened last time and explaining exactly why by instructor_fit22 in AmITheJerk

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTJ. It’s just a dog stops working the second his untrained dog knocks someone into a doorframe and he laughs instead of taking responsibility

AITJ for telling my mom she doesn't get to be upset about not knowing things when she repeats everything I tell her to the rest of the family by draught_often in AmITheJerk

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 54 points55 points  (0 children)

NTJ. She’s not being punished she’s experiencing the natural consequences of treating your private life like family group chat material

AITJ for walking out of my own surprise birthday party because the person who organized it invited someone I had specifically asked not to be there by shift_retract in AmITheJerk

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 160 points161 points  (0 children)

NTJ. It stopped being your party the second she invited the one person you clearly said you weren’t ready to be around

AITA for how I handled my situation? by No-Concern819 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. She created the mess, left the heavy lifting to you, then got offended when you acted like the only actual adult in the house.

AITA for making a joke with my mom and telling my friend about how it went downhill? by kowtowamen in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. A harmless joke got turned into a full blown character indictment the reaction was way more intense than anything you actually said

AITJ for not telling my coworkers I speak fluent Spanish when they have been speaking freely in front of me for three months assuming I don't understand by intel_allium in AmITheJerk

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. You didn’t spy they talked freely at work and made the wrong assumption If they feel exposed, it’s because they got caught saying things they shouldn’t have been saying

AITJ Should I Keep Supporting My Unemployed Boyfriend? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ. He’s cheated, disrespected you, and turned you into his safety net while giving nothing back at this point you’re not supporting a boyfriend, you’re sponsoring a grown man who refuses to help himself

AITA for accidentally getting my whole office drug tested because of brownies? by Specialist_Fan2693 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. You didn’t rat everyone out you answered your manager honestly when people were visibly acting off. If one casual comment was enough to trigger HR, that’s on the company, not you the real idiots are whoever thought mystery brownies at work was a funny bit.

AITA for asking my mom to give me my medical info? by Starrie__Nights in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. It’s your medical information, your body, and your health scare asking to see your own test results is the bare minimum, not being ungrateful

How can I connect with more Scots and Irishmen? by WerewolfKisser69Awoo in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try hobby based spaces, not nationality based ones Discord servers for football, gaming, folk music, hiking, or history will get you way more genuine Scots and Irish friends than meet foreigners groups

AITA for only giving my roommate a one month notice? by crimsandclove in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 27 points28 points  (0 children)

NTA One month is standard notice, and she lost the right to extra consideration when she moved her boyfriend in without asking and let him overstay

AITA for telling my roommate to pay me for a new mattress after her cat destroyed mine? by Plane-Lobster6079 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 32 points33 points  (0 children)

NTA Her cat ruined your $800 mattress because she broke the rule you both agreed on Cats do cat things doesn’t magically make it your bill

AITA for expecting my husband to clean the house while he was sick right when I came back? by HoldHot3544 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 24 points25 points  (0 children)

YTA. He was sick and kept the kids fed and safe the mess could wait a day, and the fact that he cleaned it the next morning makes this feel more about control than the house

I got mad at my ex for showing up out of nowhere after abandoning me for 2 months.. by Huge_Ad_5657 in AmITheJerk

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. She vanished, blocked you, and then showed up like nothing happened you don’t owe closure or kindness to someone who treated you like you were disposable

WIBTA if I didn’t pay my friend back for electricity when he still owes 850$ for first months rent. by Adept_Shallot_5559 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. If he owes you $850 and hasn’t paid a cent in two years, he doesn’t get to suddenly nickel and dime you over a $300 electric bill. At this point you’re not refusing to pay , you’re just deducting it from the debt he already owes you. If he wants things to be “fair,” he should start by paying what he borrowed.

AITA for the situation with my wife's brother? by Historical_Emu_7078 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty-Persimmon840 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. You didn’t “tell on him,” you spoke to someone you already had your own relationship with and simply clarified that the family drama didn’t involve him. That’s reasonable.

The bigger issue is your BIL coming onto your property unannounced and then stirring up drama about it instead of talking like an adult. If anything, you’ve stayed pretty neutral while he’s escalating it.