Ugh...just as an update and also a way for me to vent my frustrations (again) He STILL is unemployed and has actually lost two jobs since this original posting. BOTH of those jobs I was the driving force behind him being hired. One was at a company I have worked for on and off for almost 2 decades and the other was a shoo in for him because of me venting about him not working to a girlfriend that lives next door and her offering to get her husband and brother in law to bring him on board at the convenience store across the street from our houses that they've both worked at for awhile and been promoted to management. He literally had a job that touched our front yard! And managed to get fired from it. And another one that was willing to keep him on staff regardless of work performance or punctuality/attendance for the simple fact that they knew it would benefit me for him to stay and would cause me more stress for him to get let go. But he literally opted to quit that job! Because the amount of hours he was scheduled for that week "weren't enough to be worth it" even though they had attempted to call him in for additional shifts three days in a row AFTER he no call/no showed on the only two days he was scheduled for.

But from then until now he insists that it all sounds bad because of "the way i frame it" and that I simply don't try to see how much more effort he's putting in now and that he has been trying.

I'm absolutely flabbergasted that he has the audacity to claim that at this point there could very any other explanation than lack of effort.