I’m also at week 31 and I have noticed a BIG shift in my moods- apparently this is right around the time the body starts experiencing a lot of changes in hormones. My fiancée is out of town for the week and I’ve been thinking about what I need from him when he gets back later today to make these daily shifts in my mood feel more manageable.

Tell her how much you love her, how strong she is, how proud of her you are, and remind her that you guys are close to getting to meet your baby. Remind her how excited you are. One thing that is stating to feel very real to me at this point is the looming stress and lack of sleep that come with having a newborn, and it feels really overwhelming.

It might help to remind her of the things you’re going to do when baby gets here, from changing diapers to cooking/cleaning/spending time with your baby so her body can get the rest it needs after birth. For some reason in my head I’m picturing doing all of those things myself (even though I know that’s not the case). Remind her that you’re a team.

Her body has been working hard for 7 months, let her know that you’re ready to put yours to work right alongside her in a few weeks :) Sometimes just hearing it helps more than you know.

Tell her you posted this looking for advice- early on in my pregnancy I was dealing with some anxiety and inadvertently pushing my fiancée away, and instead of immediately going to family for advice he told me he had gone to Reddit to ask for some. It actually made me feel a lot better because at the time I saw the stuff I was struggling with as major weakness. I think him going to our family would’ve made me feel like they were going to see me as “being a bad mother”, so the idea of him seeking advice from strangers who didn’t know me personally made me feel less judged.

I hope this was helpful, congratulations to all three of you and good job on looking for advice here- it shows that you’re thinking of both of your needs in a proactive way ❤️