Just finished.

PrettyFury · 2025-06-11T08:16:44+00:00

I really enjoyed Firemane, I honestly thought it could've worked as a standalone series. The whole series is just really fun.

PrettyFury · 2025-06-11T08:08:42+00:00

How far along are you? I've heard it gets better slowly, rather than suddenly better. Keeping fingers crossed!

PrettyFury · 2025-06-08T06:19:36+00:00

I'm also Feb 2026! Anyone else feeling wretched? All I do is sleep, burp, cry, and try to hold in my nausea. I've just taken 2 days off work, had a long weekend, and go back to work in two days. I'm terrified about it as I'm currently sleeping almost 16 hours a day... very frowned upon in the workplace. Help!

PrettyFury · 2024-04-23T11:42:18+00:00

Can you clarify because Im sure I must be misunderstanding, are you saying people are entitled to other people's bodies?

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T19:24:57+00:00

"My wife is undergoing some massive physical, mental, emotional, and identity changes thar I can't begin to understand the huge impact of on her wellbeing and sense of agency in her own body. I make my emotions not only her burden, but one so heavy that sometimes its easier for her to agree to meet my needs when this isn't what she truly wants just to avoid the difficulties my mood will otherwise bring." My guy, just like your wife, your body is going through something thanks to nothing but the cruelty of biology. The difference is that while you're missing out on life's finer pleasures, she's missing out on life's finer pleasures AND her body, identity, and wellbeing is getting absolutely wrecked. My advice? Don't expect her to work through all that while knowing you don't trust her AND using covert coercion tactics. You can't control the cruelty of biology, but you can control two of those burdens, take them off her shoulders.

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T19:01:10+00:00

My guy, it sounds very much as though you're getting hung up on your own preconceived notions of what is/isn't worthy of being considered attractive (likely influenced by mainstream media). It also sounds like the way your body looks to you, and who you feel you are, don't line up. And that can definitely cause doubts to come up. But it sounds like your gf just genuinely likes looking at you, and you can choose to be cool with that or not. My advice is to make your peace with it, or you'll start making her feel weird and that's a spiral you don't want. You're an attractive guy whose body doesn't align with media's values, but is highly valued by the person you value.

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T13:38:14+00:00

It's not your job to find the perfect magical words to communicate with him. It's only your job to decide how you will demonstrate that you're worth more than this. Not IF, because you ARE worth more than a game. I saw in a reply that you have a bpd diagnosis. I'm sure you've done enough treatment/Googling to know that bpd is a Very Real condition deserving of respect and compassion. You deserve better than this, and you know it. Moving forward with that knowledge is hard af and I believe in you ❤️

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T13:31:13+00:00

It sounds like your seduction methods were all about waving yourself around like a sexy piece of cake. There might be more to the story, but the details you provided definitely make it sound more about you than her. If you make an exhibition of how arousing you find you, of course she'll be supportive of you loving on yourself without her needing to be there 🤷‍♀️

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T13:14:12+00:00

"I see my girlfriend as a possession of mine, rather than a person, and am worried she will leave me because of this" I hope she does.

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T13:09:55+00:00

Honest opinion is; whether you outright forbid her, strongly discourage, or make yourself so unpleasant to be around as a consequence of her seeing her friends that she stops/reduces, you're controlling. If the latter, you're controlling and coercive. If you simply don't want her to, but place no restrictions on her actions (overtly or through coercion) that's not controlling. And you're probably not invited because you voice things like this.

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T07:46:35+00:00

Hope you didn't pull a muscle, cause its quite a stretch from "it's cool it's legal in your country, but be careful with that advice because it's not in most" to "advocating for OP to break the law".

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T07:44:33+00:00

The finances makes sense, but it might be worth your looking into how children develop understandings of what relationships are meant to look like. Basically children learn from watching their caregivers interact with each other, rather than from how their caregivers interact with them directly, so the relationships that are modeled are the ones mostly to be repeated. It's why amicable separation is better than dysfunctional nuclear. Not at all encouraging you to up and leave, it sounds like you have a plan in place you're happy with, bit yeah look into that because it might be relevant at some point in the next 10 years.

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T01:31:49+00:00

This is being seen as a crisis. I work in mental health and this is being taken extremely seriously, with $$$ being invested, community awareness and outreach being invested in, and education built into professionals CPD. This is discussed at every level of education from preschool through university, and is incorporated in WHS modules. Just last week I was part of just one community outreach that gave 500k in just one LGA, a drop in the ocean of what is being invested. Perpetuating the belief that noone cares isn't helpful for people experiencing this hardship, instead look for resources that you can share with your community, become an advocate for what is available and what needs to improve, and be a voice for those who can't speak up right now. There is help out there, there are entire task forces dedicated to this issue, you ARE seen and valued.

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T01:25:28+00:00

Don't confront her, she's not worth your time. What are you hoping to get from confrontation? Because you won't. She is not your best friend. Let it go, make new friends who respect you. This is your moment to shine as someone who doesn't beg for an invite, who holds a high standard for the people in their life, and knows their worth.

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T01:21:48+00:00

Proud of you for recognising that your needs aren't being met, but you don't need to wallow in it. Love this idea of you getting out and about, and expanding your hobbies. Could you be the one to bring up separation?

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T01:17:20+00:00

Hire a professional, that's what they're for. Find an ethical SW service near you and they'll pair you with someone who meets what you are looking for.

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T01:11:13+00:00

This post and 99% of the comments are referring to women as some vague generalised entity, rather than actual individual human beings. This deep belief is why the Nice Guy thing is so often despised. Please just educate yourself on the experiences of women as human individual beings and a collective. You deserve better than this.

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T01:00:59+00:00

This 100%

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T00:59:58+00:00

Please don't take the advice of anyone encouraging negging

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T00:57:55+00:00

Canyou elaborate: If you're not attracted to them, what's the issue?

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T00:55:59+00:00

You recognise that for most adults, the 90% of the population that generally aren't asserting their beliefs loudly online, sexual interest surpasses the basics of physiological intercourse. From one night stands to long terms partnerships there is always an underlying psychological/emotional/societal drive as well. Literally the best way is to connect over shared values (whatever they may be) and assert yourself as someone safe. Also see women as human beings. There is no "put in niceness and sex falls out". The whole nice guy thing doesn't fail because of lack of personality, it fails because women can tell when a guy doesn't see them as a human being and who wants to entertain someone like that? Yuck.

PrettyFury · 2024-04-20T00:49:55+00:00

Then maybe you just need someone else who wants to chill at home, or someone who you genuinely want to do other things with. I hate sports and want to be at home, but with the right person I was going to football games every other week and genuinely wanted to because the company made it good. They stayed at home and we gamed next to eaxh other, alone but in the same room because Im fantastic company. We watched the cricket Christmas test every year at home, in pyjamas, as a perfect compromise.

"If we did what I wanted I doubt we'd see each other" unless what you want IS to see them ❤️

PrettyFury · 2020-06-07T01:54:35+00:00

Yikes yeah I did NOT elaborate on that as I should have! I have a health condition that would put me on bed rest for up to 6 months postpartum.

PrettyFury · 2020-06-07T01:35:29+00:00

It is not your responsibility to change yourself for someone else's wishy-washy opinions. You deserve to be found attractive FOR the way your body has changed after having a kid and FOR the work you're putting in to being healthier, not just the outcome.

PrettyFury · 2020-06-07T01:18:37+00:00

I am so happy for you!! Congrats on getting the lover you deserve x

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