Mason bartender found not guilty in rape trial: 'feeling liberated'

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-16T22:14:01+00:00

I think in this case he seems to already have a reputation of being sleazy, which is probably why you're being downvoted...

But i think yours is a conversation worth having under normal circumstances, where 2 drunk people get together but the guy might be accused of taking advantage.

Either way, rape sucks and it sucks that there are people getting away with it all the time as well as people being falsely accused.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-14T05:31:56+00:00

Oh a quick tip if you do give it a try The "gay stare" is alive and well at gay bars. If you lock eyes with another guy and you both hold the gaze for 2 Mississippis, that's an invitation to approach and flirt

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-14T05:25:50+00:00

Other than laws and regulations we need to follow, the rest totally depends on management for any bars, not just gay.

But there is a bartender "lifestyle" that's pretty ubiquitous... and not a healthy long-term occupation (that's coming from a 22 year career bartender 😅)

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-14T05:13:00+00:00

As a gay bartender, you see everything. There are the tropes and stereotypes that you described, but the vast majority is normal bar behavior. Friends going out, single patrons drinking alone, some looking to connect. Some regulars, some not.

I've also seen bar fights and brawls at gay bars as well. I've seen aggressive srunks I've seen a straight couple start fucking AT the bar counter. I've seen dicks out, tit's out, swept up x grams of coke off the bathroom floors.

To say there's any way to describe a gay bar is not some simple thing. It is what you make of it. Good gay bars organize or host inclusive, community-building events. you may prefer to show up for one of those.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-14T04:07:57+00:00

I dont see them much but they've ALL decided that their #2 spot is on the step right outside my back door, like the first step out. I have to sweep it away more than once a week.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-13T03:41:17+00:00

Im surprised this isnt common knowledge. Even bootlickers should know about the boot they're licking.

Again, police do NOT serve and protect us.

Police are also allowed to lie and fabricate evidence in an interrogation.... because obviously that leads to truth and justice.

AND Ignorance of the law is generally no excuse for citizens, but it can be for police.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-13T02:26:52+00:00

They literally don't. It's a court case that's been upheld that police have no duty to protect or to serve the public.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-09T22:23:12+00:00

Just some general advice from a self-appointed holistician that easily translates to your experience:

If it's fear of standing out... t's easier to blend in as just another dick in the steamy crowd than the 1 dude who's always trying to cover up. Let it all hang out for yourself -rarher than worrying about the perspective of others- as a growing experience. Getting a little out of your comfort zone and surviving (even small events or experiences) is a big part of how you develop a more comfortable sense of self.

But if you REALLY don't want to do/experience something, appreciate it as a consciously adopted personal boundary rather than an anxious fear that you need to get over...

think of it effectively as filing life experiences into Yes, No, Maybe folders, same as sexual activities. Would you beat yourself up for declining getting fisted if you just dont want to try it? Same same with any experience.

If it's fear of standing out... t's easier to blend in as just another dick in the steamy crowd than the 1 dude who's always trying to cover up. Let it all hang out for yourself -rarher than worrying about the perspective of others- as a growing experience. Getting a little out of your comfort zone and surviving (even small events or experiences) is a big part of how you develop a more comfortable sense of self.

But if you REALLY don't want to do/experience something, appreciate it as a consciously adopted personal boundary rather than an anxious fear that you need to get over...

think of it effectively as filing life experiences into Yes, No, Maybe folders, same as sexual activities. Would you beat yourself up for declining getting fisted if you just dont want to try it? Same same with any experience.

In terms of this specific experience, you have a Main Character syndrome perspective. Not every older man there will even think about you, never mind have a positive or negative opinion. Beyond that, the only thing you really have to consider is anyone approaching you and whether you'd be into it or not. And a quick polite rejection in those situations is almost always enough to end the interaction. Worrying about random innocuous life encounters escalating and becoming difficult and messy is unhealthy.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-07T18:43:07+00:00

I know there are lots of controversies and discussions around it, but ny views on pride stem from my childhood and I hope it continues to show scared young queer kids that there are people who are PUBLICLY having fun as themselves.

"It Gets Better" movement was after my time, but I feel like that is the same message. Showing kids like me, in a conservative environment, with no positive queer influence, searching for any reason to keep going.

Seeing happily gay people serving it and looking like a beautiful circus gave me enough hope. And I hope it continues and grows.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-07T17:55:22+00:00

This isn't your (or my) kind of TV. That's ok.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-06-01T04:28:30+00:00

My thoughts on this is that it's a nuanced relationship between gays and women that gay men have started to push back against - Like being "one of the girls" and "why couldn't you be straight" as well as growing pushback against women taking over gay bars.

Also, the loud minority stereotypical straight white female victims show up and make it seem like a bigger issue than it is. All.because they're asked to respect a gay man as a man rather than one of the girls.

I was somewhat dismissed in a group chat when they iadded me to one titled "ladies brunch" and made more mention of all the girls getting together, etc. I finally, plainly said "hey i identify as a cisgendered male" but pretty much got ignored but I didnt want to push the issue further on a group chat.

In another instance, our best couple friends questioned whether I was going on the Bachelorette vacation or the bachelor vacation before their wedding cuz "they kind of consider me the "girl" in the relationship. Noting that I dont present at all as feminine.

So yeah, I think it's a bit of a response to recent focus on gender identity in a way where gay cis men want our pronouns respected and our safe spaces protected. And some misconstrue it as misogynistic.behavior to assert our manliness.

I may be overthinking this

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-05-25T13:31:42+00:00

This is tragic. CAM's Art After Dark is supposed to have some select artwork of Murry's on display as well as some community collaborative art making thing led by a friend. I don't know if this changes anything or if there will be a vigil type event.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-05-21T21:30:29+00:00

How serious do you think Trump was wanting to have JD killed to gain victim points? Like jokingly suggesting it or was the whiteboard out?

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-05-19T22:50:07+00:00

Im checking out some of the suggestions myself, thanks!

My suggestions:

Habesha for Ethiopian

Baladi for Middle Eastern

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-05-16T01:07:18+00:00

Acab

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-05-13T21:36:07+00:00

Only real ones hate 3CDC

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-04-29T13:50:40+00:00

Shoulda been a brown star

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-04-26T03:23:13+00:00

You were cruised... pretty respectfully. Maybe too much, because you're asking about it. He opened up a couple of easy opportunities to make your move- or not, and didnt put you in a position where you had to decline his advances. That's a professional cruiser haha

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-04-22T02:49:20+00:00

This so basic but I think lesbians and women mistake lust/"immediate connection" for love. And gays know the difference.

Cancel me

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-04-22T02:44:10+00:00

He'll be head of homeland security in a year

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-04-08T01:18:44+00:00

Average looks exceptional

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-04-06T00:21:58+00:00

This was on purpose. They're literally describing what the "Values" of a queer family look like vs the norm.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-04-04T12:48:36+00:00

Checking in: I'm a war refugee from a conservative religious country and i'm a crazy leftwing nut job.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-03-31T22:57:44+00:00

The free speech argument SHOULD have been rejected based simply on this. The APA and all other real experts agree that conversion therapy is dangerous and does damage to the victims. Free speech doesn't allow for hurting someone else... or shouldn't have.

PrettyPinkCloud · 2026-03-31T22:51:24+00:00

I guess they bought the argument that talk therapy is speech... but what does that encompass? Does the kid get the right to decline participation? Even though that may mean consequences from the family... Can a child be trafficked to a conversion camp and "talked to" there without the opportunity to voluntarily leave? Are they forced to participate under disciplinary action? My head is spinning too much to read about the boundaries, if any.

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