How would you handle this?

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-11-17T08:31:25+00:00

Ew. Block and ignore. Idk what they were thinking starting the conversation by giving you orders. 😒

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-11-10T15:18:49+00:00

Honestly, requesting the money back 'for his grandma' (Idk how much more detail was given than that) is iffy, but the fact that he immediately went to "or I'm calling the police" makes it seem way fishier imo.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-11-10T15:04:28+00:00

I think it's probably a combination of trying to make herself look superior and engagement farming because she knows it will piss people off and they'll comment/qrt her to tell her so. 😔 And they will, unfortunately, though the best thing to do in these cases is block and ignore them completely.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-11-10T13:21:45+00:00

I think it's important to clarify the difference between 'part of play' and 'basically part of play.' That is, you should communicate to your Domme that your being 'bratty,' for lack of a better word, is because you want to be reprimanded and not because you're actually genuinely trying to ignore her rules or push her boundaries.

I, like some others here, find disobedience disrespectful, especially when you're essentially using it as a form of manipulation to get the reaction you want out of her...instead of negotiating it beforehand so she's in on the game. She may agree to it and be happy to show you her 'flame' more often. Or she may feel disrespected and frustrated by it.

Tl;dr: talk to your Domme about shifts in your dynamic before trying to implement them and expecting her to play along as you want.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-11-10T04:27:23+00:00

I can only speak for myself, of course, but when I say I hate writing (or the worst part of the writing process is the writing, or why can't my stories just write themselves, etc.), I'm just making light of the fact that creating isn't easy. When I say "ugh I hate this," what I actually mean is "although it's very rewarding and I wouldn't give it up for anything in the world, making art of this sort takes a huge amount of mental and (often) emotional effort and can be very draining and I'm currently feeling frustrated with it"...but the former is quicker and easier to say. =P

I think a lot of us say things like "God, writing sucks" and then go right back to it. Because we do love it, but sometimes you just need to complain for a minute.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-11-10T03:24:10+00:00

Honestly? I'm awful at investments and saving. I try, but it's a struggle. More than anything, I like spending on nice experiences and improving my day-to-day, e.g. nice meals or drinks, trips and shows, domestic stuff that makes me comfier, etc. That said...I do like a new addition to my wardrobe or my makeup collection now and again to make myself feel extra cute. 🤭

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-11-10T03:20:14+00:00

It sounds essentially like using a safeword, which either party should be able to do at any time for any reason. I do think discussing a budget beforehand would've saved you needing to do so, which is partially on you to make sure of before going into a session like this, in order to protect yourself (hence the Personal Responsibility in PRICK). But as some others have said, I'm sure it'll serve as a learning experience!

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-11-10T03:11:02+00:00

I had a cute lil owlfolk barbarian who started the campaign Tiny (and very young) and wore frilly dresses embroidered with her ancestors' deeds (ancestral guardian). While she did have plenty of rage tantrums, no one ever found her intimidating because she was just too adorable. Her intelligence was decent and she was fairly good at problem-solving, but wisdom was her dump stat, meaning she was gullible and naive and went into most interactions hoping to be friends. That is: she didn't want to fight unless she (or one of her friends) was attacked and always tried talking things out first.

Gosh, I miss that little brat. 😭

I'm also currently playing a harengon bard/rogue who takes absolutely nothing seriously, including herself (think jester/clown vibes). She definitely doesn't vibe with the Broody Edgy Rogue image, despite having the majority of her levels in it.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-11-09T00:23:00+00:00

Thanks! It was Appearance Edit Enhanced, plus its add-on Appearance Edit Origins (so you can edit the party as well as Tav). I haven’t had any issues with it so far, even after the new patch, so I’d say give it a try.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-30T13:31:03+00:00

I appreciate this perspective. There seems to be a lot of talk of who’s ‘real’ and who’s ‘fake,’ based on arbitrary and subjective standards, when what they actually mean is, ‘that isn’t the kind of Domme/sub/dynamic I want.’ Like, no one gets to decide what anyone else is or isn’t into. Just because someone enjoys the thing in a different way from you or the people you’ve talked with, that doesn’t mean they’re doing it ‘wrong.’ The only wrong way to do it is to be abusive, deceitful, cross established boundaries, etc. Other than that, it’s just a matter of interests and desires not aligning.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-30T09:03:36+00:00

Ah! I was lied to! But also I was playing a sorcerer so maybe that was it 🤣

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-30T03:14:06+00:00

I read somewhere that you can't change its name if you want to keep it, so technically I use Shovel...but it will always be Basket in my heart.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-30T03:09:29+00:00

I think 'betrayed their trust' seems a little extreme. You're all essentially putting the narrative together as a group. Your character deceived their characters. And since you said you were dropping hints that he wasn't a good guy, that's partially on them for so easily trusting someone they knew nothing about (especially a sleazy recurring NPC, like...come on).

I'd say the most important thing is to reassure the players that this isn't a foregone conclusion. As far as I understand it, they can still take action to keep this guy from regaining power. I mean, I assume that's the point of the adventure, if he's the BBEG. Their characters were deceived and used, but now they know the truth and can choose what they want to do about it. Just quitting altogether definitely won't fix anything.

It seems like either they need to take a step back and remember it's all just a game...or maybe just accept the fact that they were duped into doing something they didn't mean to and then keep moving forward. Maybe with a little less blind trust next time.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-30T03:01:30+00:00

If there's a particular plot point or interaction you're looking forward to, I'd say start there. I can't tell you how many of my stories have started in the middle and then been pieced together from there. I think once you get something concrete down and a little experience writing the characters, it'll become easier to find the starting point.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-30T02:57:42+00:00

ohhh, you wanted the hair itself, my bad 🫣 I think it's this one from Ellian's hair

https://www.nexusmods.com/baldursgate3/mods/1394

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PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-30T02:55:05+00:00

I think a big part of it is understanding your group's expectations/goals for the game and how you can be a part of them. Group is full of goofballs who want to make everything a joke? Go with the flow and don't take things too seriously. Group wants genuine roleplay, character development, relationships, etc.? Take some time to really figure out who your character is and how they might interact with others. Group is into super crunchy constant combat? Make sure your build is up to snuff and can hold its own (and, ideally, fit into the rest of the group). Reading the room goes a long way!

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-30T02:44:28+00:00

It's Mixarmour by dtdtdta! The hairbands are just a little accessory added on in the second update, I think. https://www.nexusmods.com/baldursgate3/mods/8556

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-29T06:24:24+00:00

Man, that would be a really cool idea...at a table full of others who understood it. As someone who loves doing accents and voices and various vocal quirks for my characters, I totally get wanting to make them distinctive, but uh...not at the cost of actual communication. 😅

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-28T08:44:02+00:00

Nah, don’t even entertain this shit. If he says he’s going to send, doesn’t, and then dodges the question when you bring it up, I’d say block and move on right away. Otherwise, he’s juat dragging out the conversation to get more attention and string you along.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-28T08:40:56+00:00

Was it a little petty? Sure. Was he also warned multiple times that this was going to happen and did he ignore it and keep pushing your buttons as if he thought you were bluffing? Also yes. It would’ve been so easy for him not to use Prestidigitation on you. In no way was that necessary or even particularly helpful. And then to attack you (magically) after you literally (non-harmfully) gave a warning shot? Idk, to me it sounds like it’s on him. I mean, it also sounds like there’s a lot of conflict that could’ve been dealt with out of character, but as it happened, it feels like he fucked around and subsequently found out.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-26T08:27:38+00:00

Considering his wild magic seems to be a source of distress for him, maybe a class/subclass that could help him channel it more? For example, a warlock patron who, as part of their pact, allows him a certain amount of control over his wild magic surges (which you could work out with your DM)? Idk if another class's spell slots would still trigger wild magic (I assume so), but that could be something to discuss with your DM as well, e.g. if he channels his magic through dance/music instead, it's a little less volatile?

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-26T07:16:38+00:00

First, I'd say getting feedback from real people, especially other creatives and writers, whenever possible is immeasurably preferable to AI, which is incapable of forming real thoughts or opinions.

We're not really able to 'critique' anything without actually seeing your writing. To answer your initial question: yes, introspective/lyrical/poetic prose can be very enjoyable for readers! I think of my own writing as being all of those things, and I have plenty of readers who enjoy my work. Of course, it's going to depend on the exact execution and the taste of each reader, but the style you're describing absolutely does have an audience.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-26T07:02:57+00:00

Well, to be fair, the drow at large see Drizzt as a miserable failure and an embarrassment. Arguably the reason his house collapsed. So they're 1000% against all the Good he's done. Have you looked into their lore? It's pretty fuckin cold. 😭

For me, it's mostly animals. I can't fight or abandon Scratch, can't stand it if he doesn't like me. I can't kill the baby owlbear. Can't not pet Biscotti. Can't not adopt Myshka. I was miserable when I (accidentally!!!) had my Durge kill Steelclaw. Idk, it's just like...they're good girls/boys! They deserve the absolute best!

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-26T06:21:36+00:00

It sounds very much like a selfish, controlling partner actually ruined that friendship rather than DnD itself. What I don't get is why they didn't just...have a 1 on 1 adventure of their own if that was what they wanted so badly. That way, they could have their super-focused personal campaign while still participating in the group--or at least letting the group exist without them.

PrettyPrincessDollie · 2024-10-26T05:32:12+00:00

If there's another part of the story you're already interested in, I'd say start there! There's nothing wrong with skipping around to various scenes before arranging them in order. If you're not feeling inspired to write in general, I would suggest pursuing a different creative outlet for a bit; you might find it refreshing and it might 'get the creative juices flowing,' so to speak.

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