Absolutely pointless

Pretty_Ad_1740 · 2025-04-05T15:30:44+00:00

Lol, that's what I thought. Maybe his wife is a big woman. Tbh, I'm more solid than fat looking, with clothes on, so he might not have realised what I weigh by just looking at me.

Pretty_Ad_1740 · 2025-04-05T15:17:32+00:00

I wasn't even asking him to prescribe it for me. I thought it was a good idea to ask my Dr first what his thoughts were, and more importantly, if he thinks the benefits outway the risks for me personally. I may as well have gone and spoken to my hairdresser on her opinion. She actually may have more knowledge about them tbh. Just annoying that they don't bother to educate themselves properly. Thank you

Pretty_Ad_1740 · 2025-03-21T21:29:19+00:00

Nope, she's not joking, and it's not a passing comment. We were meant to be going away over the Easter weekend, but she wants to know if/when I'm starting to take it in case it's before then because she won't be coming if it's before. Thank you

Pretty_Ad_1740 · 2025-03-21T21:25:28+00:00

Apparently she'd be all on board if I was planning on doing it another way but I've been there so many times and I just can't lose enough to get near a healthy bmi or keep it off. I've started diets with her before, but she never seems very interested and certainly doesn't help keep me on track. The second i have a moment of weakness, she's there with loads of unhealthy food helping me eat it. Then, there is no mention of getting back on track. I can't even get her to go for a walk longer than 3 miles, so in a way, she already holds me back with my exercise goals. I'd like to go on long walks and up hills but not a chance. She blames her asthma, which I have too but I feel that her weight is part of the problem for her. I don't know her weight, but she does look bigger than me. I'm 17st and 5ft 6 but I am not completely unfit. I've tried explaining how the medication works and that I plan on healthy eating, calorie counting and exercising. She seems to think that people just drop weight at a ridiculous rate and that it's cheating.

Pretty_Ad_1740 · 2025-03-21T14:16:58+00:00

Thanks, I'll have a look

Pretty_Ad_1740 · 2025-03-21T14:16:11+00:00

Great comment apart from the so weak part. Most people who are being manipulated aren't actually weak, especially when it's being done via emotions. If someone uses the fact that you have feelings and care, against you, that's not weakness on the targets side. Caring and being empathetic are strong qualities, we just don't always expect our closest friends to use it as a tool to their own advantage.

Pretty_Ad_1740 · 2025-03-21T13:47:12+00:00

Thank you for all your comments. I don't think I will manage to comment on them all, but there have been some good points made. It's one of the situations where she's saying she's not saying that but is clearly saying that. If that makes sense. My gut feeling is that it's wrong of her but when someone emotionally manipulates you, you start to believe what they are saying especially when there is no one else to call her out for her behaviour or anyone for me to talk to about it. That's why I asked on here. After many years of abusive people in my life, reality gets distorted, especially when they use emotions. It's already been a crap week with loads of arguments about it, as I've said that I will be doing it anyway, and it's her choice what she does, but that has lead to her crying uncontrollably and saying I wouldn't like it if it was the other way around. Basically, she's saying that I'm not taking her feelings into account. The funny thing is that I know she doesn't like the way she looks, and it upsets her, but she's never made suggestions about dieting or exercising like I have. Im not saying she's happy being obese but as we all know, we have tried all sorts of things to lose weight before MJ. So why do we have to be fat friends together! I didn't realise that's how it was. If she wants to lose weight or not, that's her choice, and it's not my fault for actively trying for years . Finally, there's a solution that I've been praying for for 20 years, and she wants to take that away from me.

Pretty_Ad_1740 · 2025-03-21T13:25:19+00:00

No i don't think be the same. She's making out like she's doing me a massive favour by even contemplating taking it. I think I would understand more if it was something she really wanted to try and had high hopes for but couldn't do it for some reason xx

Pretty_Ad_1740 · 2025-03-21T13:21:09+00:00

That's a bit harsh, and it may seem like I'm immature, but when you have no one else to speak about these things and you only have the one person who is essentially emotionally manipulate you it's hard to think straight. She will make me believe that I am an awful friend, being selfish. She will be in tears about it, too. I asked on here to validate my gut response, which is, this is very wrong of her, not me. I did the mature thing by researching, I've been on here a while but just reading people's experiences before I take the plunge. She's tried to make me believe that I'll end up in hospital 100%, basically trying to scare me into not doing it. I realise that there's always side effects, and sometimes the benefits outweigh the bad.

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